How To Last Longer In Bed: Ejaculation Secrets Of A Tantra Master

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How To Last Longer In Bed Ejaculation Secrets Of A Tantric Master

Lawrence Lanoff

How To Last Longer In Bed: Ejaculation Secrets of A Tantric Master Published by Lawrence Lanoff at Smashwords Copyright 2014 Lawrence Lanoff Smashwords Edition, License Notes This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever including Internet usage, without written permission of the author.

Contents

Introduction Chapter 1 Learn to pleasure yourself more and get rid of your ejaculation problems once and for all. Chapter 2 Pleasure and freeing yourself from guilt Chapter 3 Injaculation Chapter 4 Secrets Unlocked – Give me a few minutes and I'll teach you to last all night Chapter 5 Trouble shooting – Perfecting your technique Chapter 6 Triggering the feel good chemicals naturally

Introduction

Imagine being able to proudly proclaim that you are a sexual legend – and then be able to back it up! Can’t you just picture the thrill of it already? Well this can be a reality for you. I’m happy to say, I am living proof of that. Okay I know it sounds like I’m bragging but really I’m not – anyone can learn how to have the stamina of a sex god – if they’re prepared to put in a little bit of effort and have allot of fun. So you may be thinking well sure that’s fine for the younger guys but not for me – well let me tell you that I’m 47 years old and not showing any signs of needing or wanting to slow down. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Great sex is something that keeps me feeling young, flexible, and relatively stress free and it can be for you just as easily. No matter what your age, the techniques in this book will show you how to last longer in bed and experience the most mind-blowing orgasms imaginable as an additional side effect. Isn’t that a fantastic bonus? What could be better? Learning how to feel more and more at ease and free with your own sexuality and your body. Oh yes – not only will you be able to give yourself unlimited levels of sexual pleasure you’ll also be able to give your partner more pleasure too. As we all learned in kindergarten – sharing is good. My unconventional upbringing in New York City led me to study with at tantric sexual master at the tender age of 11. My forward thinking mother wanted to save future generations of women from the drudgery of bad sex, so she sent me to see a tantric sex guru! I have to say that I am very thankful for this early introduction to mind-blowing sex and masturbation. As you can imagine, I’ve had plenty of opportunity to practice since then and have refined and simplified techniques over the years. And you’ll pleased to hear that these secret techniques are actually very simple and that you won’t need to meditate or chant for hours per day or live off a diet of beetle juice and raw vegan free range, organic, hand fed, professionally massaged bean sprouts for 40 days and 40 nights – or even adopt some new cosmic philosophy.

In fact, what you believe doesn’t matter. These techniques are so effective they can work for pretty much anyone with a moderately open mind and a willingness to practice. Our learning is going to be all fun and pure pleasure – now, after all we are looking at the art of advanced masturbation. So let the fun and lube begin…

Chapter 1 Learn to pleasure yourself more and get rid of your ejaculation problems once and for all.

Why masturbate? Well it’s hardly rocket science is it? Masturbation feels great, so it’s a no-brainer really. But what if I were to tell you that masturbation is actually good for you and your health in more than one way, in many ways really . At last here’s something you can do that’s pleasurable, enjoyable, free and it’s also good for your health. And that means good for both your physical and your spiritual health. It seems that so many things that are ‘good for you’ involve some level of abstinence, restraint and pain. In this case, I want you to have fun, play, and explore. Isn’t it smarter to learn with pleasure after all? Down the road a piece, if you want to get really good at masturbation then restraint will come into play. But believe me there is an immeasurable amount of pure pleasure to be experienced on the ecstatic journey of advanced male masturbation. Think of joy, think of deep levels of satisfaction and peace, think increased levels of energy, think of a more vibrant and alive you – think bliss like you have never experienced before… and imagine them as yours with the use of this guide in the most wonderful ways possible. So if you think you are ready to handle all this pleasure, read on.

What are the benefits of masturbation? Masturbation can and should be included as a part of a healthy lifestyle now. Why? Well here are 5 reasons why masturbation is good for your physical health. 1. Reduce the risk of prostate gland disorders. A recent study found that 21 or more ejaculations per month were linked to a lower risk of prostate cancer in men. The prostate is a small gland located in the pelvis of males only. Prostate cancer is one of the most common male cancers. Secretions from this gland cause prostate disorders, frequent ejaculation helps to eliminate these secretions and help to protect men from experiencing prostate conditions. 2. Nature’s antidepressant. When you orgasm your body produces the feel good chemical oxytocin a natural anti-anxiety hormone, in turn oxytocin aids the release of endorphins.

• Oxytocin helps to counteract the effects of the stress hormone cortisol (Legros, 2003) helping you to feel calm and connected to the world. Oxytocin may also increase sexual receptivity and counteract impotence in males. (Pedersen, C.A., 2002), (Arletti, 1997). • Endorphins are the body’s natural painkillers and can help ease a range of painful conditions such as headache or back pain. 3. Boost your immune system. When you orgasm the hormone Dehdroepiandrosterone (DHEA) is released along with immunoglobulin A(igA) an immune system boosting antibody. These secretions provide a boost to your overall immunity warding off coughs, colds and flu, and may also help to improve your memory and aid tissue repair. 4. Build strength improve your fitness levels. We all know that any activity that gets the heart pumping is good for us and that includes orgasm. Orgasm also increases blood circulation and boosts testosterone levels this helps to fortify your muscles and bones making you stronger. Muscle contraction is a good form of exercise for any muscle. The muscle contraction associated with orgasm may also help with erection problems. 5. Sleep better, relax more deeply. After orgasm men generally experience a rapid drop in blood pressure and fall into a state or deep relaxation or sleep. Oxytocin is also responsible for this. Getting good quality sleep each night is associated with better general health.

So why learn Advanced Male Masturbation – The Art of Holding Ejaculation back? We’ve established that masturbation and ejaculation are good for you so you may be wondering why you are reading a manual on how to hold off ejaculation for longer and longer periods of time. It’s not that you are never going to ejaculate again. You will still ejaculate, but techniques that teach you how to hold off ejaculation, and still orgasm, have numerous positive benefits that will carry over into other areas of your life including your relationships with others and your relationship with the world around you. One of the side benefits of mastering your ejaculations is a sense of inner control and confidence. Are you starting to see the immense benefits to this? Advanced male masturbation involves using techniques to hold off ejaculation but still allow you to experience “energetic orgasms” over and over. In my experience, the energetic orgasm will leave you with more intense, euphoric pleasure than you have previously experienced. It will also give you direct insight into the world of female pleasure. You may be thinking why would I want to do this? Or is it worth the effort? I have a two word response to that: ______ yes.

Here are some of the reasons why: Increased sexual energy. For many men, particularly older men, ejaculation means the end of a sexual encounter. By holding off ejaculation you conserve your energy and if you can last longer you can have more fun whatever your age like me. Extended pleasurable sensation. Who doesn’t want the sexual sensations you experience before you ejaculate to last for longer? After you ejaculate it may be difficult to regain an erection. Orgasm without ejaculation allows you to extend your sexual sessions, your sexual pleasure and your partners pleasure. More satisfaction for you. Unsatisfying or weak orgasms may lead to over masturbation as you keep trying to reach that ultimate peak experience. Over masturbation and ejaculation may deplete your energy. It also may not. I have worked with many people who ejaculate 3 times a day and are very happy and healthy – so keep that in mind too. More satisfaction for your partner. Many women want and need more than one orgasm. Multi-orgasmic women can be left feeling unsatisfied if you finish too soon. You may also lose sexual desire immediately after ejaculation and want to “disconnect” from your partner – which can leave your partner feeling incomplete and distant. However with this guide energetic orgasms, multiple orgasms and continual connection are a natural part of playtime and beyond. Deeper relationship satisfaction. More satisfying sexual experiences strengthen the bonds between partners. Many relationships suffer because of a cumulative dissatisfaction with the sex life. With these techniques there is literally no reason for that at all. Deeper, stronger orgasms. As blissful sexual sensations build and extend you will experience more powerful ‘out of this world’ orgasms that have positive effects on your mind, body and soul. Shouldn’t we learn how to have and expect amazing experiences from our bodies each time? Increased personal power and confidence. No more premature ejaculation embarrassment, you can absolutely have a more satisfied partner, more energy and be walking around with a huge smile on your face. Now, I know from experience that empowered sexuality equals a more empowered person. So are you ready to transcend your sexual life to an entirely new level?

Chapter 2 Pleasure and freeing yourself from guilt

Let’s get something clear from the outset. We all have various responsibilities that we have to learn to accept and live with, but quite simply life should not be all about pain and sufferingand does not have to be. In fact, I would argue: Life is about learning to cultivate pleasure. Unfortunately, all too many people needlessly feel guilty about sexual pleasure, their bodies, and their genitals. This can be for several reasons, maybe you had a religious upbringing, or maybe you were brought up to believe that life is all about hard work and sacrifice. Or maybe there is some other reason you have felt the need to deprive yourself in the past. The endless stream of abuse a person can give themselves via inner talk would not remotely be acceptable if it were directed at another person – and yet many people still give themselves a hard time when it comes to pleasurable and enjoyable experiences. One of my favorite exercises for bringing this agro-mind-talk phenomenon into conscious awareness is having a person stand naked in front of a mirror and listen closely to the inner voices that come up about their body. Who we believe we are on the inside tends to come to the forefront when we are faced with viewing our naked skin on the outside. Like many of us, our self-esteem regarding our bodies can be very negative and aggressive. I have a male friend who when looking at himself in the mirror, has said, “I am a fat pig”. However, if you learn about sexual empowerment, sexual expansion and freedom – something amazing happens: those inner voices of the mind get very, very quiet.

We are sexual beings Learning to discover this for me, has taught me that the secret to a quiet mind is pleasure, bliss, and orgasm. These things are highly underrated for adding to our sense of well being. I’m not certain how they got such a bad rap, but I’m sure it has something to do the fact that happy, sexually empowered people are much harder to control, and certainly do not like to be told how to feel or not feel in there own bodies. Whatever the reason, as far as I’m concerned, it’s time for a change. After teaching my friend some basic orgasmic touch and breathing exercises, I asked him who he thought he was NOW. As it turns out, when he is in his orgasmic bliss – the question of self is irrelevant. In our bliss, deep, unanswerable questions seem out of place and out of touch.

A Brief History of Evolution and Premature Ejaculation This is my own theory of why premature ejaculation is so prevalent. In a nutshell; our ancestors had to have sex fast. Certainly one could argue that the most vulnerable times we’d have to our safety was when we were sleeping and when we were having sex. So, evolution said, if you are going to do it, you need to be able to do it fast. Sis. Boom. Bah. Snooze. Let’s face facts... Most people masturbate … or would like to. Discouraging a natural part of the sexual experience is a ridiculous concept. And it can have negative repercussions. For example, could the problem of premature ejaculation be caused by the fact that during early masturbatory experiences some men felt the need to ‘get off’ at a record rate of speed in case they got caught? Can you see how that might affect them all through life? All those quickie sessions under the covers, in the shower, in the bathroom may have just trained your nervous system to become an expert in coming quickly! Would it not make sense to teach adolescent boys (as I was taught) to take their time and hold back in order to make them better lovers when they eventually become fully sexually active? Masturbation can benefit us in numerous psychological as well as physical ways ways, for example it can: • Help to relieve stress and tension • Serve as an outlet for when you need sexual relief as opposed to full-on intimacy with a lover • Be beneficial if you and your partner have different sexual appetites Unfortunately for most people good masturbation techniques are rarely taught, most of us learn what to do by trial and error – however in this eBook I will finally reveal how to masturbate more effectively so you can experience lots of orgasms, stronger orgasms and become the much better lover you have always had the ability to be. Wouldn’t that be amazing? Orgasm, sex, and pleasure can help us to literally redefine our identities. Sexual pleasure either alone or with a partner or partners can be a transcendent experience allowing us to briefly escape the physical limitations of our bodies. We can fly free and have our whole body nourished by the experience with lasting affects to our overall sense of well-being. So before we begin lets get rid of any guilt now and free ourselves from limiting notions that too much pleasure is a bad thing. Life doesn’t have to be so punishing – we are essentially sexual beings – it’s natural.

Chapter 3 Injaculation

The natural, instinctive goal of a sexual encounter is pleasure. During pleasure, men naturally strive to ejaculate because, and sorry for stating the obvious, ejaculation is an essential part of the perpetuation of life. So as a basic instinct ejaculation is desirable, however as humans have evolved, sex has stopped being purely about coming quickly, and turned into more of an art-form. And this is where the idea of injaculation comes in, no pun intended. Injaculation is the process of preventing ejaculation while simultaneously experiencing the feeling of an orgasm – sometimes referred to as a dry orgasm, or an energetic orgasm. It is thought that the techniques used to do this were devised by monks from the ancient Taoist civilizations and that they developed the techniques as a form of contraception. That’s right folks, monks at one time at least, used to have amazing sex! Although there is no proof that injaculation was first devised by Taoist monks much has been written on this subject and speculated about. To understand the concept injaculation you first need to fully understand the process of ejaculation.

Ejaculation So back to the birds and the wees basics. When you ejaculate, you produce semen. Sperm is manufactured in the testes. When we ejaculate sperm are propelled from the epididymis, a coiled tube at the back of the testicle that stores sperm. Sperm leaves the epididymis and travels along a duct known as the vas deferens. This carries the sperm upwards from the scrotum towards the penis. On its way, fluids from the seminal vesicles (a pair of tubular glands located near the prostate gland) and the prostate gland dilute the sperm. This formed fluid provides the perfect environment for sperm to survive the acidic nature of the female reproductive tract. Tiny glands called bulbourethral glands secrete a clear, thick fluid that drains the urethra when a man becomes sexually aroused. This is often referred to as pre-cum and is thought to cleanse the urethra before ejaculation and act as a sexual lubricant. Finally semen passes into the urethra and out of the head of the penis – yes, yes, yes – uhhhhhggggggg gurrrgle! Pant, pant.

Know Yourself Understanding the male sexual organs Most of us are familiar with the penis and the testicles as the male sexual organs but there are other parts of your sexual anatomy that are important when considering advanced masturbation techniques. These include: The Prostate Gland – This gland is located at the center of your pelvis, above the perineum just behind the pubic bone. A healthy prostate is necessary for male health and well being. A healthy prostate will also enhance your sexual well-being. The function of the prostate gland is to provide lubrication during ejaculation. Fluids secreted by the prostate are added to the semen and other fluids involved in ejaculation. Interestingly these fluids help to increase the PH levels in the vagina making it a more hospitable environment for fertilization. The prostate has been likened to the G spot in women as it is highly sensitive and stimulating this area can heighten your levels of sexual pleasure. Like the G spot the prostate becomes engorged and extremely sensitive when a man becomes aroused. It also produces fluid when the male is aroused and contracts to empty itself during ejaculation.

Your Prostate is Your Friend. Pet it Regularly. If you have never felt your prostate during the process of arousal and ejaculation, I’m going to give you a homework assignment. Get into a position where you can insert a finger up your bum, and feel the way the prostate swells – and becomes super hard – as you cum. It’s an amazing thing to experience, and will also offer you valuable feedback as to what your body does physically when you orgasm. I’ll discuss more techniques to stimulate the prostate later, however you should be pleased to find out that ejaculation via prostate stimulation is incredibly powerful and intense. More on that to, er, uh, cum... The PC Muscle – The PC muscle (pubococcygeus) are in fact a group of muscles that are vital in advanced masturbation. They exist in both males and females. In the male, the PC muscles surround the prostate gland. Strong PC muscles mean stronger orgasms and I’ll share techniques for strengthening this area later also. The Perineum – The perineum is the area between the anus and the scrotum and is considered to be the gateway to life and death by the Taoists. This area is important in advanced masturbation because it plays a powerful role in delaying and preventing ejaculation. Anus – The anus is another powerful sexual area that is packed with big bundles of highly sensitive nerve endings. Because of it’s ‘functional’ use as an exit, some people have something of a problem with this part of the body. As long as the exit is clean prior to any

sexual stimulation (and/or you use a standard latex glove – snap, snap) there is no reason why you should not include and enjoy sexually exploring the anus.

Injaculation Vs Ejaculation Many of the ancient myths believe that semen contains the very essence of man – his vital life force. Taoists, for example, view ejaculating as a loss of vital male energy and consider to be a great sacrifice on the male body. Essentially the belief was that ejaculation depleted the man, so you can see why Taoist methods for preserving semen were devised. Taoists wanted to: 1. Find a way to have more powerful orgasms. 2. Experience more satisfying levels of sexual pleasure while retaining their vital energy. 3. Be able to maintain erections and satisfy their partners. 4. Possibly prevent pregnancy (Personally my techniques are meant for entertainment purposes only – and certainly are not meant to be used as a form of contraception).

Hold back and experience more pleasure The theory is that ejaculation can leave your body drained and that injaculation can make you feel refreshed and revitalized – whether you are in your 20s or 30s or in your 50s or 60s. The natural benefits of injaculation include: • The body retains sexual drive and energy meaning that sexual intercourse can be immediately enjoyed again and again. More pleasure for you, more pleasure for your partner! • Endorphins are released just as they are when you ejaculate so you will still feel amazing. • The post-sex hormones that leave you feeling fatigued and drowsy are not released. • Your sexual organs and entire body is revitalized due to the increased blood flow and oxygen circulating your system.

Learn how to have the stamina of a Sex God With the techniques outlined in the following chapters you will learn how to have sexual stamina you can be proud of – very proud of. And with increased sexual stamina comes increased sexual pleasure – the two go hand in hand. Once you have mastered the techniques it becomes easier and easier to not ejaculate and no matter what age you are you could easily be having sex several times a day. Sex does not have to be draining and exhausting it should energize you and make you feel more alive than ever!

But will I ever ejaculate again?

The answer to this is a very loud YES. You can and should ejaculate frequently as this also benefits your health by keeping sexual fluids moving and, as I mentioned earlier, ejaculation is vital for strong male sexual and prostate health. Quite simply the art of injaculation teaches you how to have better sex with stronger orgasms leading to a happier and healthier you in both mind and body. Who else would find that invaluable?

Chapter 4 Secrets Unlocked – Give me a few minutes and I'll teach you to last all night

Relaxation and tension to control orgasm I grew up in the meat-packing district of Manhattan's West Village in the 70's, so it makes sense that at the age of 11, my mom introduced me to her Tantric master. She wanted to make sure she raised a son who was an excellent lover.

My first lesson in orgasm control. The Tantric master taught me to pulse, and contract the muscles around the anus and urethra the closer I got to orgasm – stopping myself just short of release – relaxing into the sweet orgasmic feelings… More on this later but as you want to know the secrets to enhanced sexual pleasure and sexual success then read on.

To Cum, or Not To Cum... That is the Question... Secret 1 – Relax It may sound somewhat boring and obvious but relaxation is your first stepping-stone towards better sex via ejaculation control. I have studied hundreds of methods and techniques for cum control and it has to be said that for me, the best of them have relaxation at their core. This includes mental relaxation as well. You’ve probably noticed that when you are on the verge of cumming, your body naturally tenses and your muscles start to contract. This tensing up is an automatic response to ejaculation. However this tension is what causes you to cum – the tension in the body builds up, until there’s nothing left to do but explode! So it stands to reason that relaxing your muscles, as you reach the intense level of extreme arousal just before orgasm, is your first step towards controlling ejaculation. When you relax into the sensations, by letting go of muscle tension and allowing the sexual energy to spread through your entire body, you build on the sensations – reaching peak after peak – of pleasure easily and automatically. When you replace the mental and physical urgency to cum with relaxing into the sensations of sexual pleasure, you will delay ejaculation as frequently as you want.

If you are like me, then you may also notice that there are mental loops playing in your head during sex. For me, it’s a simple question like “should I cum now?” Yes, this simple command can be very annoying when you are trying to alter your neurology. It always makes me laugh how loud the voice in my head can become – to the point of screaming for me to cum. This is why I often imagine a large volume control knob in my head – and when the “to cum or not to cum” voices start, I simply turn the volume down. Way down. So, needless to say, if you were a quick-shooter – it can take time to change the habits of a lifetime But give your mind a new simple instruction NOW. Greater cum control = better orgasms for me and a better sex for my lover with this guide.

Secret 2 – And now breathe … Controlled deep breathing is extremely important if you want to control your arousal level and hold off ejaculation. There are several schools of thought about breathing technique when it comes to delaying ejaculation. You can either: 1. Breathe in deeply and hold the breath for several seconds until the need to ejaculate subside – imagining the sensations spreading all over your body – from the tip of your cock, to the tip of your nose, to the tips of your toes. 2. Breathe short, rapid breaths – like a quick sipping sucking in – to avoid ejaculation (don’t hyperventilate)! 3. My favorite, a slow, controlled circular breath – equal parts inhalation and exhalation. Round and round the breath goes, like slowly peddling a bicycle. This type of breath stimulates the relaxation response in the body – which will make your partner feel very connected to you. As you practise you will want to experiment to find out which breathing method works best for you. Personally, I use them all at different times – sometimes within the same orgasm control practice session.

Secret 3 – Strengthen your sex muscles Sexual strength has little to do with how many reps you can do at the gym although being fit is likely to enhance your sexual performance. Strong PC muscles (mentioned in Chapter 3) are the key to ejaculation control and multiple orgasms. Orgasm begins in the prostate and learning to apply pressure to the prostate by squeezing strong PC muscles is vital. When you can do this effectively not only will you have more orgasms, you will also have stronger orgasms. Plus the action of squeezing the prostate helps to prevent it from swelling or becoming hardened and this is important because it helps to prevent prostate problems from occurring in the future.

Your PC muscles act like a valve around the genitals and can be contracted -or opened and closed if you like. It is responsible for the rhythmic contractions you experience in your anus and pelvis when you orgasm. The PCs in the male are located behind the testicles, along the perineum and in front of the anus. To help locate the PC muscles you could try stopping yourself mid-flow during urination because these are the muscles you use to stop yourself from peeing when you need to go – but just can’t find a toilet or a tree. Here’s how: 1. Find it. First you need to locate your PC muscles and the easiest way to do this is to place two fingers just behind your testicles. Now imagine you are peeing but have way through stop that flow. The action of stopping should make you feel a physical contraction just where your two fingers are. If you felt it then congratulations – you have found your PC muscles. 2. Squeeze. Now you’ve found it you need to give it a workout to get it really strong. Remember – strong PC muscles = better, stronger orgasms. Contract the muscle in sets of 10 repetitions holding for 2 to 4 seconds per rep, before releasing. Try at least 2 sets per day (i.e. 20 contractions) 3 – 4 times a week. It shouldn’t take you longer than 5 minutes at a time and you can do it anywhere you like. Although you might want to be alone as people may wonder why you have a distant gaze on your face! I like to do it on the subway, or in my car. I like to give people something to wonder about. But that’s just me.

Secret 4. Squeeze some more... Once you have practiced PC contraction repetitions for 3 – 4 weeks you should have a stronger muscle set down below. So now it’s time to intensify the workout. Performing exactly the same exercise, start to squeeze for longer time periods – 5 seconds is good. But don’t release after 5 seconds, this time hold for another 5 seconds. Then slowly release the squeeze to a count of 5 seconds, don’t just let go immediately after the 10-second period is up. This exercise might not sound like much but it takes strength and control to be able to do it properly so start slowly and build up until you can do up to 10 repetitions. *** I cannot emphasize enough how strong PC muscles = Powerful orgasms = Better cum control = Better sex for you and your partner now. *** If you put in the effort with these simple exercises you will within a month be able to last for longer during sex and you will begin to experience intense orgasms beyond any you have had before. ***

Secret 5 – Play (with) yourself first... The fifth secret you need to know is one that will come as good news. Frequent masturbation is one of the keys to better sex – so it’s important that you enjoy it and practice often! Masturbation is the easiest way to tap into the sexually sensitive part of your being. The Taoists viewed it as a physical exercise to help them learn ejaculation control while also learning how to circulate life-enhancing sexual energy throughout the body.

Pornography and masturbation Personally, I love porn. All kinds. I’m very open and free with my use of porn. That being said, I also like to take periodic breaks from porn – including days or weeks at a time. Everything works in cycles, and porn should be no different. Sometimes it’s frikkin’ awesome, and other times it’s nice to give your central nervous system a rest. I have found that porn can stimulate sex drive – even when I’m not particularly feeling sexual. So I find that taking a break can be refreshing. The great things about porn include sharing what visually turns you on with a partner and vice versa. It’s an excellent way to enhance communication and sexual honesty in your relationships. I personally encourage open and direct communication when it comes to porn. Putting your porn tastes out there and having porn as a part of your intimate relationships can give you and your partner a ton of fun and pleasure. However when it comes to advanced masturbation techniques for ultimate success, the focus needs to be on the sensations experienced within your body. Porn can help get you to an intense state of arousal and this is a good thing. Once you are there though, I want you to shift the focus to what’s going outside to what’s going on within your body and/or your partner’s body. Playing sexually with ourselves is an excellent way to learn more about our sexual selves and our sexual energy levels. However it’s also important to point out that though I might masturbate frequently – more often than not, I will not ejaculate – and instead spread the sensation throughout my body. In this way, I have been known to have some marathon masturbation sessions that could go on for an hour or more – and doing that leads us back to the power of injaculation...

Practice Makes the Master-bater Secret 6 – Put your Hands Together and Make Some Noise Sound and movement is a huge part of controlling your orgasm. I love shaking my body, shaking my head – as if shaking off the cob webs – and making noise. All of these things disperse the energy of the focused, penis-centric orgasm. The closer you get to cumming, think of splashing around in chest deep water, making noise, shaking your body, letting things shake, vibrate, and move completely relaxed and in the moment as you master that feeling and energy.

I suggest you communicate to your partners since it can be a little freaky if they don’t know exactly what is happening. I like to tell my partners that, when I experience intense pleasure, my body starts to shake and move. They really appreciate the communication, and always seem to enjoy the shake show. Let your body, spine and head move freely. This will help disperse the intensity of the orgasmic feeling throughout your body and allow every part of you to feel alive and awake. It’s one of my favorite feelings in the world, and people are often asking me how I keep so young and fit. Well, now you know and you can see the complete benefit in that, right?

Putting it into practice – achieve intense, explosive orgasms easily So now we have revealed the 6 vital secrets to advanced male masturbation. it’s now time to look at 5 simple techniques that can help you to avoid ejaculating.

See how easily you can create the stamina of a Pro The following 5 exercises show you how to have an orgasm without ejaculating – basically these simple techniques act on the parts of your body that are responsible for the control of the flow of semen during your orgasm. You can practice these techniques on your own during masturbation or with your partner – it’s up to you. You might not master the techniques straight away – so remember practice makes the best master-bater and the greatest lovers and the bonus is that the practice is always pleasure filled and fun for you! You simply have to train yourself to delay ejaculation – so be patient.

Exercise 1 – Just stop Becoming aware of your arousal levels is vital to controlling ejaculation. You need to work out when you are likely to ejaculate and then stop a few strokes, if going solo, or a few thrusts, if with a partner, before you “feel” your ejaculate approaching the point of no return. It might sound a bit obvious but this simple technique is your first step to better orgasm control. Most men need to stop for 10 – 30 seconds to let the urge to cum subside. Once you master this one technique, you can literally have sex for hours if you so desire.

Exercise 2 – Squeeze those PCs As you’ve been following the guide and training this area already, you should have a set of good, strong PC muscles. Vital for better sex! Basically when you feel yourself getting closer to ejaculation you squeeze the PC muscles as hard as you can. This will allow you to experience the wonderful contractions of orgasm but should stop you from spilling over into ejaculation! Squeeeeeze and breath. I sometimes even growl like a lion. It’s pretty awesome! It can take some time to master the process of stopping orgasm by squeezing the PCs so this might be one exercise you want to practice alone until you can get the feel of it.

Exercise 3 – Pressing the prostate For this ancient Taoist technique you will need to locate an area along your perineum that links to the prostate. You will feel this point as a small ‘dimple’ in the skin just in front of the anus. This is a really simple technique and it’s a powerful one. Once you feel your arousal rate getting close to the point of ejaculation press firmly on the dimple with your 3 middle fingers until the desire to cum subsides. You can also practice this exercise during intercourse without needing to withdraw.

Exercise 4 – Pull your testicles That’s right. Pull those suckers. When you’re about to ejaculate your testicles pull up closer to your body as this helps the testes to push out semen. So it makes sense that if you (gently) pull them back away from your body you will hold off ejaculation. To do this circle the entire top of the sac with your thumb and first finger – or get your partner to do it – then all you need to do is pull down gently but firmly. I call this my emergency break system.

Exercise 5 – Squeeze the penis Squeezing the penis is a tried and tested method of delaying ejaculation and is often recommended by doctors and sexologists to those who are suffering with the problem of premature ejaculation. It’s a simple and effective technique for anyone who wants to become a better lover. So once again when you feel the urge to cum use your thumb and first two fingers to squeeze the penis. You can squeeze around the base, the middle or the tip of the penis. Different parts of the penis work better for some than for others so a bit of practice will help you to find which part of your penis when squeezed is the best part for stopping ejaculation. This can be awkward at first so it’s another good exercise to try out when you are going solo. The squeeze should last for around 10 to 30 seconds depending on what length of time works for you the best.

Remember All of these techniques can be used either when you are alone masturbating or with a partner. It’s important to point out however that if you use these techniques with a partner, you want to communicate ahead of time what exactly you are up to. This is key because for many people ejaculation is equivalent to complete satisfaction. If you don’t cum, partners may think they are doing something wrong – and not pleasing you. Practice the techniques all you like when on your own but when you are sexually engaged with another person you need to respect that this is not just about you and that your partner is not just someone for you to ‘practice on.’ Communication is key to developing mastery.

And Now... Lawrence’s ‘Dynamite’ Secret Sexual Brain Stimulating Technique

For those of you interested in dramatic deep brain sex orgasms, I want to share a secret pleasure technique, viewed through the lens of brain science. Let's begin with a basic brain cell primer. The off-the-rack brain cell is called the neuron. Axons are very long projections or cables of neurons from the brain that offer feedback about the surrounding environment. Over time, glial cells wrap around the axon projections and form a myelin sheath – a kind of fatty insulation – which increases the efficiency and speed of electrical waves moving up and down the axon. We aren't born with this insulation, but we develop it over time – through repeated use of particular neural pathways. The tip of the penis is at the end of one of these long projections from the brain. Therefore, the penis offers an opportunity for us to "wire up" and insulate a rich pathway of pleasure. My secret technique is intended to do just that. Even if you have little or no feeling, just relax, practice the exercise daily, and watch what happens to your sensations, feelings, and your ability to control your orgasms. To experience the full power of the technique, take a deep breath now, and imagine the tip of the penis as a feeler, a sensitive fingertip extending out directly from the brain, passing sensory rich information about our sexual environment. Now imagine the tip of the penis is wrapped in beautiful, golden threads of pulsing light that travel to and from your inner brain to the tip, pulsing a gentle current of pleasure back and forth. Take another deep breath, and notice the pulsing awaken something deeper inside. Let that warm feeling expand in your body. Feel the glow from the tip of your penis to your brain. Notice how the brain awakens. Send the awakened pleasure back down to your penis, and circle it back up again. This is The Golden Circle of Pleasure. I run The Golden Circle of Pleasure within myself all the time. I love the way it makes me feel inside. We can use this technique anytime, anywhere, to feel awesome in our brain and body. Nobody has to know why we look like a cat that ate the canary. That will be our secret.

Chapter 5 Trouble shooting – Perfecting your technique

Along the journey of advanced masturbation you may encounter one or two minor problems. The first thing to remind yourself of is that this is supposed to be fun. It’s about pleasure and not something to get hung up on. You can understand that can’t you? As far as homework goes, more masturbation is a pretty good thing to be practicing. It’s not meant to feel like an effort or make you feel stressed out. So remember to relax and enjoy the journey. The world is round, so you’ll get there eventually.

Common problems and their solution When practicing exercise 3, the prostate press, some men have struggled to get the technique right and may not experience the benefits.

It’s not working No semen will be ejaculated if you have found the correct spot. If you are leaking semen then you just haven’t found the exact pressure point yet. Try moving your fingers closer to the anus and really seek out the dimple or indentation. You also need to make sure the pressure you apply is firm enough. Timing is also crucial, you need to press down just as you feel your arousal level about to peak but before you begin to ejaculate, hold the pressure until the ejaculation contractions subside. What you are doing is pressing down on the point where the urethra and the ejaculatory duct meet.

I’m not having fun You do have to expect a certain change in your levels of pleasure as you practice the prostate press. You’re concentrating on pressing down and not cumming and this technique can be tricky to master at first. Stay with it – the results are more than worth it and just think of the pleasure you’ll be able to give your future partners. Focus on the end goal. It doesn’t take that long to perfect the technique and soon the concentrating and practise willl turn into pure mind-blowing pleasure.

It’s painful

When you start to practice the exercises mentioned above you may initially feel some pain or pressure in your lower back and genitals during the first few days. Be careful that you are not pressing down too hard. Another cause of this could be that you are pressing down too late. This causes the urethra to swell and can result in pain. Push further back and try to focus on getting the timing right. Frankly, if it’s too much effort, forget about it and practice some of the easier techniques. Also massage yourself after practice – or better still get someone else to massage you. Massage the perineum and your lower back specifically can help soothe any tightness or compression that you may feel.

Have I done it right? If you are feeling good, you’ve done it right. If any technique seems too complicated or is taking too much effort on your part, then forget about it. These techniques are supposed to be fun and enhance pleasure. If you come across a technique that doesn’t work for you – drop it, forget about it, let it go.

Not tonight darling… You may experience some unexpected sensations – like feeling a ton of energy in your body – as a side effect of practicing these powerful techniques. Do your best to relax and breathe – feeling into the sensations in your body. When in doubt – feel. You can always take a time out to feel the pure sensation you are feeling – without a lot of story. Almost any kind of feeling is a good sign that you are your progressing on your way to achieving more satisfying and fulfilling orgasms. Try drinking more water or doing regular physical exercise to expend the energy you are feeling in your body -- bringing you back down to earth so to speak. If you are still experiencing problems after some time, it may be that you do need to ejaculate more often than you are doing right now, and this will release any excess energy you are feeling.

When in doubt, remember – sperm is cheap, psychotherapy is expensive. I have experienced all sides of masturbation, including self-pleasuring and ejaculating three times a day – everyday for four straight weeks. Much to my surprise, through simple forced ejaculation, I also hit new levels of peace, energy, and focus. That's right, I ejaculated my way to inner peace. Let’s put that on a bumper sticker.

I could go on all night – when should I stop? It may sound ridiculous but once you have mastered the techniques of energy orgasms the question of when to stop becomes a very real one.

You may have days when you find you could go on forever! The question of when to stop is for you to decide or for you and your partners to decide if you are practicing these techniques with other people. However it is important not to overdo things. Once you get going with the technique it can be tempting to want to go on and on. Being able to experience orgasm without the draining effects of ejaculation can make you feel incredibly powerful. No doubt about it – it is an amazing feeling. But it is important to use these techniques wisely and start off slowly, letting your body and your partner adjust to your new levels of sexual energy and stamina. For me, I love watching my partner cum again and again. I can stop anytime and feel completely satisfied. On the other hand, my lover and I played for over 8 hours the first time we got together. It was pretty awesome – and of course we took plenty of breaks, stopping to chat, eat, massage one another and just hang out and laugh. But I have to say it was 8 hours of pure pleasure. Sex is ebb and flow. When you are watching porn and you see these guys go on and on, remember that almost everybody in the industry uses some kind of sexual enhancement pill – so they can just pound and pound and pound. To me, that completely misses the point of pleasure, because your cock can only take so much stimulation before going numb. For this reason, I recommend taking your time, letting things ebb and flow, even letting your erection go down. Get comfortable with the cycles of sex. Learn to flow, communicate, and relax easily.

Am I in danger of becoming obsessed? After years of unsatisfying orgasms or hit and miss sexual encounters – some mind-blowing and some just so-so – you may worry that you will be come obsessed with your new found skill and that you’ll neglect other parts of your life. You do need to consider your partner’s needs and keep the lines of communication open between you. Your lovers may not want hours of sex everyday. In fact, sometimes a quickie is just what the doctor ordered on a specific day. Once you start to experience the sheer satisfaction and levels of pleasure you can achieve with these techniques you will feel more content and fulfilled in life in general. Of course life will still have its ups and downs but you will just feel more positive in your outlook. And remember, there is no problem so big that you can’t masturbate it out! You may find that now you know how to truly satisfy yourself you will no longer need to endlessly chase after other forms of stimulation or distraction or hop from one mediocre sexual experience to another. You may well become more focused on the other parts of your life to your benefit and the benefit of the people around you. When you can master your own orgasm, you can apply that sense of mastery to all areas of your life.

Wet or Dry? To Shoot or Not to Shoot? If you are experiencing multiple orgasms you are lucky in that when you do eventually ejaculate you lose less energy than you would if you weren’t managing to spread your orgasmic feelings. The Taoists recommended infrequent ejaculation for better health and more sexual vitality. While this is great in theory it might not be what you want in practice. So the answer is really that it is up to you and your level of enjoyment and desire. The ancient Taoists also thought that the older a man was the less he should ejaculate to preserve his health and it might be worth keeping that in mind. Personally, I go through cycles. While writing this eBook, I did very little ejaculating, since it seems as if I am channeling my orgasmic desires into my creativity and sharing of knowledge. It’s been three weeks since I ejaculated, but have had lots of juicy, orgasmic, delicious love making. The thing is that not ejaculating becomes less of a problem when you experience multiple dry, “energy” orgasms – in fact you may find that ejaculation is no longer your goal at all. i.e. you don’t want or need to. Dry, energy orgasms are a whole body experience whereas orgasms with ejaculation are focused purely on that tiny spot on the head of your cock. The main thing to remember is that this is not about abstaining – it’s about increasing your pleasure and you can have sex as often as you want solo or with a partner. You may not ejaculate, but you certainly will cum internally over and over and over again, experiencing pleasure like never before. That’s a promise. I came already Another important thing to remember on this journey is that this is not about success or failure. If you cum, or really want to cum then so be it. You don’t want to become too fanatical about never ejaculating ever again. It’s just cum. There’s always more where that came from. And as I mentioned earlier, when I forced myself to cum three times a day for four weeks, after about 10 days, my body stepped up to the challenge and began producing lots and lots and lots of cum. We adapt, so you can relax. Don’t beat yourself up instead give yourself a break when you can, just beat off. There’s no need to pass judgment on yourself either, when you can just jerk off and if you fancy a quickie with ejaculatory relief – then go for it and enjoy.

One For All, and All For One When it comes to orgasmic mastery with a partner, the focus should be on your togetherness, communication, and the ease and flow of the sexual experience between you, not on achieving goals and passing some sort of endurance test.

Learning orgasmic mastery is intended to help you to create amazing sexual satisfaction for both you and your partners and you have what it takes to achieve this- with a little practise.

Chapter 6 Triggering the feel good chemicals naturally

As I outlined in Chapter 1, masturbation has many benefits beyond the obvious ‘feel good’ factor. As the aim of this eBook is to set you on your way for a journey in pure pleasure, now it makes sense to discuss the other ways to enhance your masturbatory practice.

Stimulating the prostate Stimulating the prostate is a good place to start. Why? Because as I mentioned in Chapter 3 the prostate is similar to the female G Spot – the area is a bundle of super-sensitive nerves and this makes stimulating this area extremely pleasurable.

Anal play Some guys shy away from prostate stimulation because obviously the best way to stimulate this area is via the anus. What can I say? If you ARE hung up about this area (and believe me there is no reason whatsoever why you should be) it might be worth while getting a willing partner to explore the area (perineum, anal opening) for you maybe when giving oral sex. Sex toys aren’t just for solo play – more on that later… Probably the best position for prostate stimulation via the anus is with you lying on your back with your knees bent. This leaves you free to play with your penis with your other hand or free for you to stimulate while your partner works on the prostate. If fingers are going to be used then it’s important that fingernails are cut short to avoid pain from scratches and also reduce the transmission of bacteria. Some people use latex gloves for anal play to keep it ultra safe. That is my personal preference with anal play – that way I can totally relax. With any form of anal play lube is absolutely vital to make sure there is no friction, pain or tearing of delicate tissue. So make sure you have plenty of anal lube on hand and choose a thick one specially formulated for anal play wherever possible. During masturbation, and when you are very aroused, you or a partner can slowly, gently slip a finger into the anus. It can take a couple of seconds to ‘get in to’ the sensation – but once you do – and relax in to it anal stimulation, it can be out of this world, taking you to extraordinary levels of relaxation and bliss. Start by stimulating the anal opening to relax and arouse the whole area. Make sure your partner knows how far to enter the anus and roughly where the prostate is situated ahead of time, so you can focus purely on your pleasure.

If you’re with a partner, I suggest that with the finger inserted into the anus, your partner makes a sort of ‘come hither’ gesture with the finger to stimulate the prostate. Continue to rub the penis while you or your partner move the finger in and out slowly at first, then faster and more forcefully as the sensation feels better and better. Alternate with the gentle thrusting movements and the ‘come hither’ finger action. It may feel as if you need to urinate or have a bowel movement at first but you won’t. It’s just a part of the anal stimulation process and the feeling will pass once you relax into the process. Breath control can help you to relax – take slow controlled breaths (circular breath works best for this) and make sure you don’t hold your breath as this may inadvertently cause you to tense up, turning the pleasure down. If anal play really is a no-no for you it is possible to stimulate the prostate without entering the anus. Applying pressure to the area behind the testicles and the anus along the perineum and massaging this area can stimulate the prostate but the truth is that it isn’t as effective as entering the anal opening. Also, once you have strengthened your PC muscles, you can stimulate the prostate simply through contractions. I have brought myself to ejaculation – without touching myself- by stimulating the prostate with PC muscle contractions. It’s a pretty amazing experience.

Sex toys for him Prostate massage and stimulation – Explosive orgasms like never before There are various sex toys on the market that aim to stimulate the prostate. Start with something small if you are nervous about anal play. If you like it, you can always work your way up! Also make sure your sex toys for anal play have a flared base – the anal sphincter has natural and strong suction action. Nobody wants to have to make an embarrassing trip to the Emergency room to pull some foreign object out yo’ ass. A great place to shop for toys for anal play is www.squarepegtoys.com the company has been going since 1997 and specialize in creating sex toys that they have tried and tested themselves! The Bean Plug is a great anal toy to choose if you are new to prostate massage it’s small and curved in design – ideal for beginners to learn how to stimulate the prostate. You can move onto other toys after starting out with the Bean Plug. Sexy toys that stimulate the prostate are generally curved or have a feature that sticks out from the shaft in order to access the sensitive prostate area. A good one will have been designed with the male anatomy in mind. The Aneros Prostate Massager has been designed to ‘convert the sphincter's natural contractions into a simultaneous prostate and perineum stimulation’. I also personally love the njoy pure wand. It’s pure pleasure for the prostate.

The Fleshlight – Train yourself to become a sexual legend! The Fleshlight is basically a toy that stimulates sexual intercourse. It’s called the fleshlight because, when not in use, it looks like an ordinary flashlight. There are various designs, one replicates the vagina, another the mouth and another the anus. These products come highly recommended for the very realistic experience they can provide of oral, anal or vaginal sex. See www.fleshlight.com One of the Fleshlight products is called the Stamina Training Unit and this is a great product to use when you are learning the techniques of advanced male masturbation. Practicing the techniques I outlined in Chapter 4 while jerking off is one thing, but practicing them when using a Fleshlight toy will really help you on your way to peak sexual performance. The experience is so real that, with practice, you’ll be able to translate your mastery techniques successfully into ‘real life’ sex. What’s so good about this product is that it takes the pressure completely off, so you can experiment, train yourself and feel free to have as much fun as you like in the process. This also helps with a problem I discussed earlier, you don’t want your partner to feel that they are something you are practicing and experimenting on. When you are engaged sexually with your partner you want to be there fully in the moment with them and not going over rules and techniques in your mind. It’s the perfect way to train yourself to be a better lover, by trial and error. And this way it’s all just between you and your Fleshlight, limiting out any embarrassing encounters in bed.

Cock Rings – Stay hard for longer Cock rings are quite simply rings that are placed around the penis most often at the penis’s base. The aim is to slow down the blood flow in order to keep an erection harder for longer. They can work but training yourself with my methods is far more worthwhile in the long term. Cock rings come in various forms – some singular, some in sets so you can encircle the testicles as well. Some vibrate, some have attachments that aim to stimulate the clitoris or the anus and some even glow in the dark! Vibrating cock rings are best discussed before hand and explored with a partner – since they can be quite a shock if you don’t know what’s coming. You can have a lot of fun with cock rings and for anyone who has trouble maintaining an erection they can be a good starting place to get your confidence back.

Male Vibrators What’s the buzz? Vibrators as sex toys are usually thought to be a ‘female only domain’ but the fact is that there are many vibrating products on the market designed for enhancing sexual pleasure for men.

Male vibrators can be used on the penis, testicles and anal opening or internally inside the anal passage. Types of male vibrators include: Vibrating cock rings – different to regular non-vibrating cock rings that are designed to prolong erections, these toys provide a hands-free way to add vibration to solo sex play or sex play with a partner. Vibrating sleeves or masturbators – these are usually designed for the man to insert his penis inside of, made from realistic materials many are made to look like the female vagina, anus or mouth. The Fleshlight is one well-known example of this type. Anal vibrators – designed to be inserted into the anus to stimulate the anal passage and/or the prostate. It can be difficult for some men to get past the idea that vibrators are just for women or not for straight men but the fact is that vibrators are for anyone who is interested in exploring and enhancing sexual pleasure. Any man who has gotten past these ideas will confirm that male vibrators are an excellent way to provide extra stimulation and that they can give you and a partner lots of new and fun ways to enjoy sexual play.

Good vibes for men – join the club A 2009 study titled Prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by men in the United States and carried out by Indiana University looked at the prevalence of vibrator use amongst males in the United States, the personality characteristics of men who use vibrators and the relationship between vibrator use and male sexual function. A total of 1047 US men in the age range of 18-60 were questioned on their use of vibrators and the results were affirming to say the least. When the results were published in the Journal of Sex Medicine it was shown that 44.8% of men had used vibrators at some point in their sex lives (solo or partnered) and that 10% had done so in the last month. Another interesting finding in this study was that sexual orientation didn’t factor at all with no statistical differences found in any group – be that heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. What’s more, the study found that those who had used vibrators most recently were also more likely to engage in sexual health positive behaviors such as self-examination of the testicles. This suggests perhaps that a positive, healthy attitude towards sex play also encourages awareness of the importance of overall sexual health. And if that still doesn’t convince you then men who used vibrators also reported better levels of sexual desire and erectile function, better satisfaction during intercourse and better orgasmic function!

How to use and choose male vibrators Vibrating cock rings

Vibrating cock rings allow for hands free vibration during solo or partnered sex play and are basically a ring made of stretchy silicone, rubber or even leather that fits onto the base of the penis or a dildo. Some rings fit behind the testicles some in front so it’s a matter of personal choice when it comes to choosing one for you. Most are battery operated and provide pleasurable vibrating sensations when switched on. However be aware that some vibrating rings only provide short-term or single use, some last for just 30 minutes. Cock rings enhance sexual pleasure for the male wearing the device during masturbation or for both partners during intercourse depending on the product’s design. The trade off with vibrating cock rings is that often the bulkier types provide more intense vibrations and thus give more pleasure because they use bigger motors. Smaller more discreet products may not be to every person’s taste or satisfaction levels but can be less cumbersome in design.

A word on sizing… Most vibrating cock rings are made to fit the average man however if you are slightly narrower or wider than average make sure you choose an adjustable ring. Too big and the product will move around too much, too small and it could hurt – you don’t want to wind up feeling more irritated than aroused by the device.

Cock rings for going solo The size of the motor is less of an issue if you are using the product for your own pleasure. All you need to do is place the motor where you know it will feel good for you. Starting solo can be a good way to get used to playing with cock rings and gives you the opportunity to experiment without any added pressure.

Cock rings for two If using a cock ring with a partner it may be better to choose one that has two vibrating motors even though these tend to be on the bulkier side. These will provide better satisfaction for both partners. If using a single motor vibrating ring sexual positions where the wearer of the cock ring is on the bottom will provide the best sensations for both partners as they provide better contact for both partners.

Anal vibrators Start off slowly… Anal vibrators can be used to explore the perineum and anal opening without penetration if so desired although it could be argued that any vibrator designed for male of female use could be used for this purpose.

The outer part of the anus (i.e. the bit you can see and touch) is full of ultra-responsive nerve endings that feel immensely good when stimulated. If you’re nervous about exploring this part of your body start off slowly. Choose a vibrator that is safe and suitable for anal use; vibes made of silicone are a good bet as they feel soft and comfortable and can be used internally if you choose to go further. Use the vibe solo or with a partner and explore the surrounding area of your inner thighs, lower back and butt cheeks…move on to the perineum and anus if it feels good. Many vibes have varying levels of pulsation so start slow and go gently on sensitive areas like the testicles – you can always ramp it up as you become more aroused.

Anal vibrators for internal use If you wish to stimulate the prostate, sometimes known as the male G-Spot, then anal penetration is the best way to go and you’ll need a device specifically designed for this particular use. Buy a well-known brand that is most of all going to be safe. Many anal vibrators are curved in design rather than straight to maximize internal stimulation of the prostate and many are flexible as opposed to rigid. The Aneros Vice Vibrating Silicone Anal Toy is a good toy to start with as it is made from FDA approved materials that are also easy to clean. It’s smooth design and unique shape makes it a powerful toy to use if the pleasures of prostate stimulation are your goal. What’s more it features four levels of pulsation so you can work your way up to increased levels of stimulation and therefore orgasmic pleasure. When it comes to anal penetration it’s important to take it easy and be patient – never force an object into the anus. Make sure you are aroused enough and that you use a good waterbased lubricant. You may wish to begin with the vibrator turned off and just get used to the feel of it inside of you at first. However if you think you are ready to go, put the vibe on its lowest pulsation level and stimulate the anal opening with the tip of the vibe for a few minutes or as long as it feels good. As you become more aroused and relaxed the vibrator should easily slip inside the anus. Once inside you can play around with the pulsation speed or move the vibe around inside you – whatever feels good to you. To specifically stimulate the prostate, or male G-spot, tilt the vibe towards your belly and then lie back and enjoy…

A few words on safety… Never share sex toys unless they have been covered with a condom every time. For peace of mind it’s far better and to keep your sex toys for yourself. If you use your toys with a female partner never insert a vibe into her vagina immediately after it has been used in the anus as this can cause infections.

And ALWAYS use loads of water-based lube, making sure that you replenish lube on the vibrator throughout the session if need be. Dry friction isn’t good.

A few words on lube… There are many brands of lubricants on the market all with their own benefits and weaknesses so it is important to do your research, read around, read labels and be sure you have the right one for the different types of sexual exploration. Basically lubes come in 3 types, water based, oil based or silicone based. Water based lubes remain popular because they are often recommended by sex educators and are latex-friendly – meaning that they can be used with condoms. However water based lubes can cause skin irritation and for me, I personally think that when it comes to lubrication the more natural the better. My personal favorite lube is coconut oil I have used it for years and years mainly because it is pure and natural and there's no icky stuff for the body to absorb. If using with a long-term partner, natural lube like coconut oil makes an excellent choice because it is less likely to irritate sensitive tissue. An important point to consider however is that coconut oil, and indeed all oil based lubricants, can weaken latex condoms causing them to split so they must not be used if it is necessary for you to use condoms, diaphragms or other sexual aids like vaginal or anal dams. For anal play coconut oil does not have enough viscosity. When going for anal play, thick lube is absolutely vital for protecting the thinner anal tissues and makes penetration easier. Make sure you do your homework and choose a lube that is suitable for anal play if that is your intention.

Male vibrators for erectile dysfunction A new, vibrating, handheld device for men has hit the news recently as it is the first of its kind to be approved by the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA). Viberect aims to help men with mild to moderate erectile dysfunction (ED) achieve and maintain an erection. And even better it promises to deliver stronger and more powerful orgasms! The device is suitable for men experiencing ED and for those with spinal injuries or recovering from a prostatectomy, the surgical removal of all or part of the prostate gland. It works by stimulating the nerves of the penis and needs to be used 7-10 minutes before sexual intercourse. Viberect gives the penis repetitive and rapid stimulation in the way that a sphincter or hand can making sure that blood can flow to the penis and an erection can be achieved. The medical community feels that this is a safe device and a viable alternative to ED medication like Viagra, which isn’t suitable for everyone. And early reports from testers suggest that orgasms achieved using the Viberect are “greatly amplified.”

Soft Penetration I thought I would share a bit about this very misunderstood subject, since it is indirectly related to self pleasure. We live in a culture where a stiff cock means everything. However, thinking a stiff cock is all there is – and that something is wrong if it ain’t – is like trying to inhale all the time. You can’t. We need the inhale and the exhale. It was through tantra practices that I first noticed the sexual exhale that I call ‘soft penetration’. It was something that occurred naturally and often. That is to say, when I was completely immersed in the energy of the moment, my cock wasn’t always hard. I began referring to this as my lunar cock – the opposite of a solar cock. Instead of it being fully locked, loaded and ready to squirt, it tended to be soft, receptive, ready for openness. This especially happened when I took the emphasis off of placing object A into slot B – and began spreading powerful pleasure feelings throughout my body. I noticed as I became less erection focused, there was a vulnerability that opened up in my body-feeling world. Something shifted into a lot more openness. For me, this was more of a receptive, subtle sex-energy experience. In this sense, I had the feeling of openness, relaxation, freedom from performance tension. I could breathe with my lover and experience a flow of powerful sexual energy. Here’s where it gets interesting. By taking the focus off that tiny ‘exact’ pleasure point on the hard penis and extending the sensations of bliss and pleasure throughout the entire body, we can feel a connectedness between cock, heart, and head. Furthermore, a man in this altered state can soften further and let his partner energetically penetrate him – while the partner imagines his or her sexual energy entering the softness and penetrating all the way into his brain. This can be done body to body, or by projecting energy through the hands. I call this soft, penetrative sex, energetic pleasure sex. It’s very sweet and delicious. And if a man can relax into it, he can directly experience his own vulnerability and share that with his lover. It’s really a beautiful thing and oft overlooked in the days of the 4 hour Viagra cock. When it comes to soft penetration, think meditation. Think restorative sex. Think breath, sound, energetic penetration, movement, vulnerability and openness. Think slow yoga. Also think oxytocin. It’s a great way to deepen our connection and bond with our lovers.

The Future of Masturbation – What can machines tell us about Masturbation As science understands the mechanics of pleasure, sex, and masturbation, we will more clearly understand the infinite ways that pleasure intimately links within our brains.

Brain sex is where it will be. Sex with Machines too. Even today there are stories of people who have fallen in love with computer chat bots that they thought were real people. Towards that end, there is one company attempting to stay on the cutting edge of virtual sex and masturbation – RealTouch. RealTouch is an interactive masturbator for men. The RealTouch offers the experience of realistic oral, vaginal and anal sex. It’s programmed to sync up the sensations of the machine with videos that you watch on your computer. RealTouch uses haptic technology (the kind of stuff you find on cell phones) to recreate the sensations experienced during sex. The way the technology works, you not only see your favorite action on the screen, but you can also feel it on your cock. It’s a kind of interactive virtual sexual reality – and I do see this as the way of the future. There will be interactive, immersive experiences that will push the limits of human pleasure. I personally love the RealTouch products, and I look forward to the further developments from the company – including ways for couples to have sex virtually, over the Internet.

Skype Sex – Visual solo sex. Skype is an amazing piece of technology – which I personally love. Skype sex is another kind of solo sex that can be witnessed by another. The ease of Skype, along with the simplicity of the technology – and of course the fact that it is free to call another Skype user – makes Skype a favorite tool for male masturbation. It’s safe sex, but with the ability to connect and share with another person. Masturbation is essential to physical and mental well being – and emerging technologies like Skype make the impossible possible. We can connect over oceans, thousands of miles, and have an intimate interaction across the globe. To me, this is a beautiful thing.

Direct Brain Sex Eventually, masturbation will happen in the privacy of our own brains. Neuro-science will completely map out the pleasure centers in the brain – and this will spawn all kinds of direct experience – virtual sex technologies that will bring intimate pleasure directly into our brains. No middle man. No intermediate transference from screen to brain – just direct impulses. When these “pleasure chips” become available, you can be sure, I will be one of the first to be outfitted with one. Till then, I can dream.

Self Pleasure and the Universe

Wrapping up this volume, I want to end with the following thought. Some of my most memorable self pleasure experiences have come to me while I was out in nature. There was one evening when I found myself on the side of a mountain, sitting in hot springs, staring out at the stars. These springs were truly amazing. In the pitch black of night, I could feel my body getting lost in the infinite expanse of the universe. I began to self pleasure – with my eyes open – staring at the universe. I felt my body completely disappear, and I found myself floating in pure pleasure – a field of pure bliss. My orgasm lead me to this experience of relaxed floating in space. I felt like the experience went on for hours, though I don’t really know for sure. I tell you this story only to suggest to you that the universe of pleasure is a spectacular one. One that is filled possibilities, and potentialities to continue to have pleasurable experiences to blow your load – and your mind. I always say, When it comes to masturbation and pleasure – think big!

In Summary So there you have it. A breakdown of everything you now need to do to become a better lover and experience more satisfying and more intense orgasms. As I said at the beginning, our lives should include the experience of the heights of pleasure – we all know that life can be testing and troublesome at times so we need to balance that out with as much of the good stuff as we can create. And I believe sex is one of the best, healthy, safe, totally free experiences we can have. Enjoy your journey to better orgasms and remember the KEY secrets: Breathe deeply Relax into the experience Make some noise. Let your body move and shake naturally Strengthen your sexual muscles Have enormous amounts of fun Try vibrating toys inside and out Enjoy the experience of pure pleasure Keep expanding your experiences to include more and more and more pleasure. The bottom line is this: it’s time for us to reclaim our pleasure today.

Orgasms are our birthright. If we are feeling shame, fear, constriction, or guilt – especially around ejaculation – male or female – then it's time to change our psychological landscape and make a move towards the expansion of pleasure, happiness, peace.

Orgasms are good. Sperm is cheap. Set Your Pleasures Free.