How To Flirt Essential guide to flirting with women and achieving successful relationships

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HOW TO FLIRT ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO FLIRTING WITH WOMEN AND ACHIEVING SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS.

Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1 Understanding women’s biggest fear Chapter 2 The secret to getting the first kiss Chapter 3 Approach smoothly Chapter 4 How To Get Any Woman To Tell You Anything You Want to Know About Her Chapter 5 The power of listening Chapter 6 Why is listening important? Chapter 7 The importance of sex in a long-term relationship Chapter 8 Online Dating Techniques Chapter 9 Texting Game Chapter 10 How to Pre-Select and Court Women Chapter 11 Behaviors And Habits For Better Results Conclusion

Introduction After going on a few dates with a girl, you might be thinking that you want to keep this one around for a long time. Even possibly… marry her. That brings us to the subject of relationships and how to approach them. There are different types of relationships out there. The main ones include exclusive ones in which you don’t see other people. There are ‘open’ ones in which you can see each other but can still date other people. When it comes time to discuss being in a relationship, it’s important to define what the boundaries are right from the start. Better to establish them now then wait around and get into a fight about something. If you want an exclusive relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend, you must let her bring up that topic. Never ask what you are or if you two are exclusive yet. Let her be the one to approach you and ask. Then, at that time you can decide if you want to be or not. When considering this, keep in mind that the first few months of meeting each other are the ‘honeymoon phase’ where you are head over heels for each other. Try to look for her flaws and really ask yourself if you want to dedicate a significant amount of time to being with this woman. Remember, dating is not just about winning her over, but actually screening her to make sure she isn’t crazy.

Keep Doing What Works After officially becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, most guys think the handwork is over and it’s all downhill from here. If she stops feeling those strong emotional feelings you triggered in the beginning, then she is just going to move on no matter how long you have been together. If you want to keep her interested in you and the relationship strong, you have to keep doing all the stuff we talked about every day and never let up. If you decide to let up on all the high-status confidence, humor, sexual communication, etc., next thing you know you’ll be walking in on her and some other guy. Don’t believe me? Try slacking off and see what happens. The problem a lot of guys have when keeping a woman interested is that they stop doing what was working before and start to become too submissive. Once they land a girl, they think, “Great, now I can show her the real me and stop doing the stuff I learned.” As the relationship progresses, a man will stop doing the confident alpha stuff that attracted her and become more feminine. He will pay more attention to the romantic side and start doing stuff she wants. What happens is that the role of protector/provider reverses and she becomes the one who is the dominant one in the relationship. At that point, it’s only a matter of time until she is thinking of leaving and finding a more dominant guy. Now, I am not saying to avoid being romantic and sensitive, but I am saying that you have to keep doing whatever it was that attracted her to you. You have to learn how to love her like a man and be the protector and provider she is deeply searching for. Relationships are like investments. If you want to see something out of it, you are going to have to put time and effort into it. However, most people today don’t understand this concept. They think that they are not going to give until they get something first. It doesn’t work like this and it doesn’t come as a shock to me why over 50% of marriages are failing now.

The average person in the world is greedy and self-centered. They go about life with the mindset of, “What’s in it for me if I do this? What am I going get out of it?” When it comes to your lady and your relationship, don’t be like this. Pay attention to her and dedicate a significant amount of time to it. Plan ahead and make time for you and her. If you see something that might be a problem on the horizon, don’t avoid it. Sit down and talk to her about it before it is one. Use unpredictability to keep things fresh and interesting. Buy presents and flowers for her when she’s not expecting it on your terms. If you find yourselves going to the same old places for dates, then change it up. Stay in a night or go to a new place you haven’t tried. This will keep her interest in you and want to keep spending more time with you. Don’t stop talking to your friends and spend all your time with her. It is healthy to have some days when you don’t speak to her at all. Dedicate some weekends to just yourself and your friends. Seeing each other 100% of the time will start to drive you both crazy.

Chapter 1 Understanding women’s biggest fear Learning to anticipate a woman's tests is a skill born of experience. And with that comes the knowledge of what to expect. Keep in mind that many of these tests are unconscious, and many are born of typical human insecurities as well as the opposite: a sharp, confident woman is not going to waste her time with someone who's not only a bad match for her, interests-wise, but she definitely does not want to waste precious minutes of her life with someone who's not going to be there for her when she needs him most.

Fear of being left alone The modern world has given humans all kinds of reasons to feel insecure and “not good enough.” Many of those reasons are, of course false and illusory. But nevertheless, they are there, whether the source of those illusions is your family of origin (or school peers) giving you crap about how you don't match up to whatever irrational expectations they have, or various magazines telling you that if you don't do “that one thing,” you're going to be single forever, or whatever ridiculous ideas we humans come up with to compete with others and make them feel insecure. The types of tests women “run” on guys vary according to their confidence level. Many women who tend to run tests that indicate strong insecurity have the type of unconscious tests that are based on bad experiences, so that's something to watch for. If you're really interested in a woman, and she seems interested in you, but she acts a bit gun-shy based on some unhappy events in her past, that's the time to do something that gives her a very strong impression that her fears do not faze you in the least, and you're willing to do what it takes to win her trust—without bending over backwards to please her. The type of insecure woman who wants to grow past those insecurities wants, like any other woman, to feel safe and secure with you, but doesn't want her battles fought for her, nor does she feel like she always has to be handled with the proverbial “kid gloves.” It sounds like something of a strange tightrope walk, doesn't it? Ray's finally gotten up the nerve to ask out that cute cashier—a sweet girl named Tina-- who's been giving him small “I like you” signals. But despite those signals, and despite her gut feeling that Ray's a good guy, she's had some issues in the past that have really diminished how she feels about herself. Ray can sense this, but based on the few dates they've had, he still likes her and has a good time with her. One night, she finally opens up about what happened —some school bullies really did a number on her self-esteem, and it

blindsided her, as she'd never really had to deal with bullies before. She really shut down, and let it affect how she communicated with people in the present. She has only just started opening up within the last few years, having grown tired of feeling so afraid. She's still afraid, however, that he's going to bail, or think less of her because she's as sensitive as she is. She says, “You know this stuff about me now. You know my insecurities, more or less. Is that going to change things between us?” Ray looks her in the eye and says, “I am really sorry that you had to go through all that. I'm still interested in you. And I am willing to take things at your pace. I'm not going anywhere. Just know that you can't always live life in a bubble, afraid of everything and everyone. You're obviously not afraid of me, right?” “No,” Tina acknowledges. “There's something about you that helps me feel safe yet gives me hope that I can go back to the way I was before, and perhaps really learn how to stand up for myself. Just going out with you has helped. I don't need special treatment or anything, though. I'm not totally broken.” “Maybe not, but I at least hope you give me something to do. We 'white knight' types kind of need to keep busy,” he teases. “Okay, something...but not everything. What if I want to be a badass warrior princess and have your back, too?” She gives him a teasing smile right back. Ray understands that she'd been through emotional hell, but encourages her to move forward, with the knowledge that he'd be at her side if she wanted him to be. She returns with the reminder that she is trying to move forward, that she's not totally bent or broken by her past issues, and doesn't need him to fight her battles, or coddle her in any major way. This reminder, in case you haven't guessed, was something of a test—albeit an unconscious one--to see if he'd bend over backwards and be too acquiescing to her wishes. Thanks to his brother Peter's experience, Ray recognized that this was a test. She may not be totally broken, but she wanted that feeling that she could rely on him

if she was struggling with an unhappy memory and thus feeling bad enough to just fall apart once in a while. So, he replied with precisely the thing she wanted—and needed— to know: he acknowledged what strength she still had, but in a playful way, he let her know that he could be—and wanted to be-relied on. Tina then flirts back somewhat with her own desire to be the one to be there for him should he need her—a true indication that she wants to get beyond her past to her true strength inside. Doesn't that sound like a beautiful relationship in the making?

Fear of aging alone On the other hand, not all women who are insecure and shy come to the table with baggage. They may just be getting their feet wet in the wider dating world and they're still a little unsure of how to proceed. Perhaps they know the kind of guy they want and nobody in their high school, college or workplace really interested them, so they figured that not having a boyfriend was better than dating some dude who either didn't share their interests or otherwise treated them like crap. “Now, that's confusing,” you might say. “A woman like that sounds pretty confident to me.” She might be, but there is a chance she might also be somewhat introverted as well, so that might account for the lack of experience, hence any possible insecurities. So, what can you expect from a woman like this, as far as being “tested” is concerned? She might not do the thorough “testing” that a more confident, experienced woman might, but she'll still have something of the usual mental “checklist” of attributes she wants in a guy, regardless of where she chooses to look for a potential mate. And likely as not, she still might want someone who takes charge of a situation, among other attributes. Let's look in on another example. Sandy has just entered college and is in the college cafeteria with her roommate, Trish. They've just gotten done eating and are greeted by two guys named Sean and David. Sean is in the college band and choir with Sandy, and David is Trish's chemistry lab partner. The music-geek guy is one that Sandy's been surreptitiously been checking out, so she gets a major case of the butterflies on seeing him. Especially since she's caught Sean looking back at her and flashing a smile at her from time to time. He's pretty much everything she wants in a guy: musically gifted, well-dressed, physically fit, a non-smoker, and from the way she's

heard him talk with his buddies, has a certain dry wit that she finds more than humorous. The warm brown eyes, long hands, takecharge attitude in rehearsals (he happens to be the drum major for the marching band), and inviting smile are just bonuses. David sets about subtly flirting with Trish, who has no complaints about this whatsoever, since she's already had a few lab sessions with him and has decided she wants to take things further beyond the classroom. They move off to a different table to talk, leaving Sean and Sandy by themselves. Sandy's inexperience with dating, however, has her stomach in knots on top of her interest in Sean, who has had enough experience with dating to figure out how to put Sandy at ease, while letting her know he's kind of had his eye on her the way she's had her eye on him. He notices the logo of a famous Broadway musical on Sandy's notebooks and uses that as a conversation starter. Sean: “I see you like to draw a specific musical logo on your notebooks.” Sandy (somewhat embarrassed): “Yeah. Silly, huh? You'd think I'd have outgrown that by now. I'm a college freshman after all.” Sean (smiling and sensing a subconscious test of whether he'll reject her or not): “Now, just where do you think you are, anyway? I bet just about all the people in choir know and love the music to that show. They—I included—would rather see you express yourself than hide behind some false concept of 'being a grown-up.'” Sandy (still feeling shy and embarrassed, but somewhat relieved): “Well...I saw you kind of looking my way the other day—the past few days, actually--and I'm thinking, well, I know what I have to give up now.'” Sean (teasing): “Ah, and here I thought I was being more subtle than you were. I think you looked my way about a hundred times in the last week and caught my eye about fifty percent of that time. As for what you think you have to give up—in this case, your notebook

art—perish the thought. You're quite good, actually. Why do I get the feeling you've had lots of practice with that particular logo?” Sandy (blushing): “It's because I have. I think I will love this musical till the day I die.” Sean (still somewhat teasing, yet serious): “I can feel the love in that art, too. Every pen strokes a declaration of passion for music itself.” (He wants to get her number, but sense she might be shy, still, since this was only the first time they've talked.) “Say, I think I need to run off to the bathroom. Don't let anyone take this seat. We have more talking to do. Unless you'd rather talk in choir and disrupt the rehearsal.” Sandy (feeling much more at ease with him now, and giving him a teasing grin as he gets up to leave): “And just what kind of musician do you think I am, getting both of us into trouble, and losing our place in the score on top of everything?” While Sean is gone for the three or so minutes in the restroom, Sandy decides that since he made a move to talk to her, it's her turn. Feeling bold, she quickly writes her number on a piece of sticky-note paper and draws a miniature version of the logo on that paper. She's not sure where things with Sean will go, but she's thinking he might be the one for her, and she wants to find out for sure, so she's not about to let him get away, especially since he's expressed interest in her, and didn't ridicule her for her notebook art. She places the sticky-note on the inside of the front page of his music history textbook and, with a giggle, decides it's time to leave to do homework. She meets Sean on the way out, and he's all confused. Sean: “Wait a second, Sandy! Why're ya leaving? We were just getting started.” Sandy: “I would love to chat more, but I do have homework to do. See you later.” Sean: “Now, hold on, you don't have to do homework right this minute, do ya?”

Sandy: “I do, sadly. And if I were you, I would definitely make sure not to neglect your music history homework tonight, either.” (She gives him a mock-serious look, then a smirk, before turning and leaving the dining hall)

Fear of not being good enough So, you just saw four examples within that story alone of how Sandy tested Sean, though she's fairly new to actually dating anyone at all. In case you missed them: The Mental Checklist. Just about everyone has a mental checklist as a basic “test” for compatibility, looks, etc. but the checklists from women are mentioned more often when it comes to the genders “testing” each other. This is a much more subtle test than any of them, of course, but it's what starts the entire dance. The Anti-Rejection test. This is the beginning of Sean and Sandy's conversation where Sandy's feeling a bit embarrassed by her notebook art and says something that she subconsciously hopes will prompt him to disagree with the notion that her notebook-art habit is “childish.” He senses the test, as he's encountered something similar before with another girl he dated, and since he likes the fact that she's expressing her love for a particular show through art, let alone her overall involvement in band and choir, he gives a genuine rebuttal to her rather rhetorical “oh, it's silly, isn't it?” question. The Phone Number-in-the-Homework test. How is this a test? She's testing him to see if he'll pay attention to the subtle hint that she just might have left her phone number in the topmost textbook on the pile of books next to his dinner tray. This is more or less a test to see if he's into checking out details thoroughly (she's something of a detailoriented person, so she's hoping he will be, too), or if he's more of a gloss-it-over, summarizing-the-big-picture kind of guy. This is a big clue, even for people who are out of school. If the gal you're interested in seems to do anything meticulously or subtly hint at things, she's likely very detail-oriented and leaves nothing to chance. And it may be the tests she engages in might involve this personality trait. The Leave-to-do-Homework test. It's a test to not only see if he'll actually take charge and give her a phone call in order to continue their conversation, but also to test his patience and will just a bit.

While she's eager to get to know him, and apparently, he showed just as much eagerness to know her, college isn't just about pairing up with someone to the exclusion of education, right? This lets him know that she's serious about her schooling and that she hopes he's as serious about his education as she intuits he is. If he is, he won't call her for a couple of days. This chapter gave just a few examples of what to expect from a woman who's testing you. The testing does tend to continue on into solid relationships, but if the communication is clear enough, especially from you, she will not feel the need to test you as much, because she knows your love for her is solid as a rock.

Chapter 2 The secret to getting the first kiss You want to focus on slowly escalating things physically from the moment you see her on the first date. Start with a hug, then move on to touching her lower back, to having your arm around her lower back for a short while. The more you build up these light physical touches, the easier it will be to transition to a kiss. The less light physical contact you have, the more awkward it will be for the first kiss. The best time to kiss is in the middle of the date when the emotions are spiked at the highest and there is tension. This is better than at the end of the date when it may feel inauthentic, assumed, and forced. Here’s a simple step-by-step process on how to kiss a girl: Get close to her. Put your arm around her or leave both hands touching her waist. Make eye contact. Make a statement about her, how you feel, and tell her what you’re going to do. For example: “You’re beautiful, I’m having fun with you. I’m kissing you.” “You’re adorable, I’m enjoying the night with you. I’m kissing you.” “You’re so cute, I’m excited we met. I’m kissing you.” “This view is just too damn beautiful, I’m going to kiss you.” Then go in slowly for the kiss. Now, don’t make the first kiss a crazy make out and shove your tongue down her throat. Just a nice, warm, gentle kiss that she can remember. Leave her wanting more and be the first to pull away. If she rejects your kiss, then you may not have been physical enough throughout the date. I start off with my arm gently touching her lower back as we walk. Open doors, for example, while always being a gentleman and leading her with this kind of contact. Slowly, move your arm around her back for a few minutes, and then take it

off. Switch back. Tease her hands, hold her hands, pick her up and lift her, carry her, spin her around. Now that you know how to physically escalate, set up a date after your first meeting, and then ensure that your date goes perfectly, let’s discuss how you can escalate the date back to your place…

How to Bring Her Back to Your Place Towards the end of the night if you just met (where we left off earlier) or on a date, you may want to bring her back to your place. If you’ve done everything right up until this point, this is actually easier than you might imagine. To start up the conversation, simply mention you have something fun to watch or see, or maybe a view. It’s just something to do at your place that is fun and entertaining. Using humorous references from the date can come in handy here. You want to have a reason to bring her back to your place. If the date is moving forward well yet she’s not responding to going back to your place then say, “I’m heading back for some drinks to relax since I have to wake up early. Come with.” If the first date was near your place, I usually go for a walk. When you get close to your place, just say, “Hey, I live right over there I can show you ____ (something that you talked about) really quick.” If she resists going back with you and it’s a very serious “no,” then remain unreactive and just continue enjoying your time together, finish the date, bow out gracefully, and repeat the texting steps to set up another date. Then, repeat this process until you can get her back to your place on the next date. If it’s a playful “no” or she says something like, “Well, what are we going to do?” Then, just assure her you really want to show her this thing or do what you talked about at your place and be honest with that. You can also say, “You’re not getting lucky this soon, I just want to show you this thing.”

Basically, don’t make a big deal out of it if she doesn’t want to come back. It does not mean she doesn’t like you or is not interested in seeing you again. It simply means she’s not ready to come back to your place in private yet. If you get upset by this, it will ruin the date and she might think you’re only after sex. Sex is not the goal, but it can be a natural extension to an adventurous and stimulating date. Your goal is to get to know her better, have fun, and lead the date as far is it can comfortably go for both of you. If sex is a part of that fine; if not, that’s fine too. All in all, dating is fun so just stay in touch and add value to her through a text or phone call. Work on setting up another date and enjoying your time with her. Spread out your first three dates to one per week. Once you’ve dated more than three times, then you can start opening up your weekends to her and seeing her more often if you like. Don’t overwhelm her with text messages and phone calls. Just relax. If she’s responding to you after the first date, then calm down. She likes you. Stay grounded and trust that you’re enough. She’ll respond positively the next time you ask her out.

What to Do When You Bring Her Back to Your Place Let’s say you get her back to your place for the first time, whether you just met on the initial interaction or if it’s the first or third date or more. Once there, the key is to immediately make her feel comfortable and safe. Before you leave for the date or go out for the night, you want to ensure your place is clean and that you have drinks and snacks readily available. I have a setup on my phone that syncs to a sound system so I can play music as I’m entering my home. I can create that fun vibe immediately. I usually give a quick tour of the place to make her feel comfortable while turning on lights to make her feel at ease. I have bookshelves of books that I have read and cool art on the wall that can give her a taste of who I am. None of that stuff is for women, it’s for me, but women tend to notice it and

it gives them a deeper glimpse into who I am, creating a sense of familiarity and safety. Also, gentlemen, clean your bathroom before the date! She’s going to use it as soon as she walks through the door. If she intends to get intimate with you, she will most definitely want to go and freshen up, so keep your bathroom clean. If you’re having drinks, then make the drink in front of her and make it the same amount of alcohol as your drink, but always have juice or something to mix the drink with if she prefers. I have a cabinet of juices, sodas, and soft drinks specifically for women. Keep in mind neither of you are getting drunk here. You’re basically just holding drinks to create a fun, social vibe. The drinks establish that she’s staying with you for at least fifteen minutes. If she’s not into alcohol, use a different beverage or throw something into the oven, maybe a snack or light meal if your date didn’t involve one. The goal of all of this is to make her feel safe, comfortable, and at home. A woman cannot fall into her feminine if she feels unsafe, therefore no intimacy is possible. She will be on guard and defensive, which benefits neither of you. I like to take the drinks and show her the view from my balcony. I get a little physical, touching, joking, teasing, and light kissing, then we move to the couch in the living room and I will begin to dim the lighting. I keep folded furry blankets on the couch, for example, and often women will just grab one and put over them. That’s good because it means she’s getting more comfortable and relaxing with me. I usually throw on a show and might pop some popcorn and put on something funny, but never put on something that you’re seriously interested in watching like a serious drama as it will distract from the interaction and chemistry that you’re building with her. The goal is to not watch a show that’s going to keep her fully engaged, but to put on something that’s just on in the background while the two of you are talking and being close.

Instead of putting your arm around her, I usually pick up her legs when she’s sitting and put them over my lap so she’s laying on her back with her legs over me. You want her comfortable, relaxed, and enjoying herself. At this point, I’ll say, “Hey, no shoes on the couch,” and I’ll take them off for her, which most women will usually respect since it’s your house and your rules. While talking to her, start lightly massaging her legs on and off and go in for the kiss periodically, always being the first to pull away. Remember the golden rule: always leave her wanting more. When you feel she is emotionally engaged and she’s already laying down, move over, slowly get partially on top of her, and start kissing. Things can heat up from here. You might have to kiss her, then watch the show or continue chatting, then kiss again. The pacing of your escalation should be determined by the quality of her reactions. You want her to feel comfortable and safe and never feel like you are pressuring her into anything. By pulling back, you’re going at a pace that’s comfortable for her and slowly turning up that “volume knob” of attraction she has for you. Escalate and lead the charge, but always give her room to set the pace and determine the speed of the interaction. From here, you’re in a very good place to move things to the bedroom and get more intimate. But I’m getting ahead of myself… Sometimes, she won’t come back to your place, but she will ask you to drop her off at her place. When you’re dropping her off—whether you’re in your car, shared ride, or in a taxi—ask if you can use her bathroom. Women will almost always oblige and allow you to enter her home with her without any friction. After using the bathroom, I’ll typically say something like, “I’ve got to wake up early tomorrow, but while I’m here put on your tour guide hat and show me around really quick.” While she’s showing you around, she’s going to show you her room and then you can get close to her when she’s near the bed and start kissing and lean into

her until she falls back onto it. If you she doesn’t show you her room, do this on the living room couch. Although this is an amazing place to be, many men, especially guys who don’t have a lot of experience with new partners, can struggle to truly enjoy the interaction because they are stuck in their heads worrying about their performance or the size of the gentleman downstairs. And, with the advice I’m about to share with you, you can increase your confidence in bed, reduce anxiety, and enjoy great sex with new partners. But first, we need to address and increasingly important topic that can save you from doing anything stupid that you may regret for the rest of your life.

How to Handle Resistance to Sexual Intimacy So It’s WinWin Before we go any further, I want to make one thing very clear. You are never under any circumstances to engage in any sexual act without complete consent. Equally, never take advantage of a woman who is overly intoxicated or under the influence of anything that alters her mind. She can still say that it wasn’t consent and was taken advantage of after the fact. She will remember what you did and her trust in you will be diminished if you intend to see her again. If you don’t know if you have consent, then you don’t! Nothing will ruin your life, future relationships and career faster than an allegation of sexual assault even if you thought you had consent. Always err on the side of caution, be slow, respectful, and use protection. Let me repeat myself here. If the slew of sexual assault allegations and dozens of high-profile celebrities and politicians being accused in the “MeToo” movement isn’t enough to scare you into gaining explicit consent, then allow me to do it for you: never force yourself onto a woman in any way. You do not have any right to a woman’s body. Expensive dinners, gifts, and dates do not entitle you to any sexual acts from her.

She has the right to say “no” from the second you start the interaction to the moment before you stop having sex. This is serious and one wrong step could have serious consequences that will, quite literally, alter the trajectory of your life negatively. It’s always better to play it safe and escalate at a pace that is comfortable for her. You avoid this dilemma altogether when your interactions, flirting, and sexual tension are so heightened from your interaction that she is the one who is making it clear she wants sex. And you are the one who determines if you want to have sex with her or not. You want her being the one jumping all over you, ripping her and your clothes off, starting foreplay on her own and making it very clear that she wants sex. Now, if she’s seemed hesitant once or twice but is still enjoying being in bed with you, kissing you, in your arms, and maybe light humping, you may still rightfully be concerned about whether or not you have consent.

Chapter 3 Approach smoothly If you want to be successful in the dating world you have to know one simple thing above all: Social Psychology. What would you say the reason behind us going out into nice restaurants, coffee shops, clubs, or bars is? To have a good time by ourselves? No. We go out to socialize. We crave interactions with new human beings. In Lieberman’s books Social, his research shows that we are driven to large groups of people because our brain is wired to evolve through interactions with other human beings. Meeting new people pushes us to grow our social skills. We have other personalities we must adjust to, and the people who are better at adjusting are the ones who are referred to as “charismatic”. This is one of the primary reasons why it is important to develop your interpersonal skills. We use specific popular social spots as a utility to meet new people. This is where most people get public engagement wrong. If you do not know science or how psychology works more than likely you’re the loner at the bar observing everyone else as they have a good time. Break the mental barriers that come with engagement. In a recent study, female dating experts say there are seven main reasons why men do so terrible when approached by women. These dating experts found that only 10% of men actually know how to build an interesting connection that can lead to a woman giving him her number. The seven major reasons why she won’t be interested are: Poor eye contact Talking or bragging about yourself too much Bad hygiene (B.O., bad breath, messy hair) Obvious sexual intent (too much touching or staring at her ass and breasts) Not being present (making it difficult to enjoy the moment) Being too intoxicated Being pushy or too eager

So now that you know what to avoid doing, you can maneuver your social engagements with women much easier and smoother. Now that you are aware of the things not to do, let’s get you ready for action. When I am out maybe to a new bar that is trending in my area, I tell myself that I will meet someone new. I put myself in a sales state of mind and I’m going to close on some potential buyers (women). It is important to know that when you are out you must not be glued to your phone or following your friends around like a puppy. Instead imagine you’re alone on an island and in order for you to survive you must meet someone new. When you are out and you see someone who catches your attention, make eye contact but don’t rush to speak with that person right away. The initial eye contact must be brief. If you stare you will freak her out. You also want to stay social amongst your friends, draw a little attention towards yourself, but don’t come off as obnoxious, loud, or cocky. Draw enough attention to get women to look in your direction, allowing her to make that initial eye contact with you. Once you have settled in and have a feel for the atmosphere you should start to plan your approach.

THE APPROACH Before you go up to a woman in any social situation you must keep three important things in mind. 1.) You are a complete stranger. Remember she is not expecting YOU to talk to her; she probably has a million things on her mind maybe about work, money, an ex-boyfriend, or she is simply out to enjoy herself with friends. So, your approach will either be welcomed as a surprise or an intrusion. Keep this in mind, read her body language if she is welcoming you with eye contact. You have 60 seconds to greet her and get out. If she is avoiding eye contact or appears uninterested in what you have to say, then cut it down to 30 seconds and move on. 2.) Be prepared to feel tension. You are going to feel butterflies in your stomach, and you are going to be thinking of a million ways to talk yourself out of it. Don’t listen to these negative thoughts, it’s

your brain trying to avoid confrontation, it’s human nature. That’s why I have made you aware of these feelings so once you are feeling some anxiety or avoidance just tell yourself, this is just my brain trying to avoid pain. This fear is natural; we evolved with this fear from our primitive ancestors for their survival. Your brain acts irrationally because it can’t distinguish confrontation from a physical fight to walking up to a girl you’ve never met and talking with her. This helps put things in perspective and allows you to harness the confidence to follow through. 3.) You are on the clock. Before you approach her, make sure your opening line is relevant and easy for her to relate to or agree with. More specifically, make it appropriate for the place you are at. Do not use cliché lines such as “Hey I think you’re cute”—you will kill your chances of getting her number before you even start. You should be casual, fresh, and most importantly very brief. Allow me to break it down for you. The first encounter: It’s important to note that the first encounter should not take any longer than 60 seconds. Yes, you literally have one minute to leave an impression. Introduce yourself and compliment a feature about that person to give her a reason for your approach. Something like… YOU: “I couldn’t help but notice you have a great smile, but you probably get that all the time.” This is one of my personal favorites because you are going to get a positive response either way. If she says “yes I do get that all the time actually, thank you” it validates your approach as genuine. If she answers “no I don’t actually but thank you very much” you gave her a very obvious reason for the approach, one that she will appreciate since you went out of your way to compliment her. Another good opening statement would be… YOU: “Sorry, I don’t mean to be intrusive, but I couldn’t help but notice you have a great sense of style.”

Remain light in tone with these comments. This will help lower those initial barriers from her as you’re not being direct in your “come on”. After she replies with “thank you” then you must make an intentional social mistake and say “I’m so sorry I didn’t ask what your name is” —this shows that you didn’t rehearse this whole thing before and are showing genuine interest. I also like an opener that has a little humor in it. YOU: “So you must be shy, I’ve been standing over there talking with my buddy for five minutes already and you still haven’t said hi!” (smile) She’ll chuckle confusingly and at this point you say “I’m (your first name) by the way, what’s yours?” (shake her hand) Laugh it off and change the subject to “So how are you enjoying your night?” Keep the conversation direct and short. Eye contact is important. Don’t avoid it. Eye contact translates to confidence. As you can see, the first approach is all about the quality and delivery of your opening line. Relevancy and timing are the next key components that will determine your success. Practice your openers as often as you can. You need to find one that will best complement your personality and style. Experimenting with these will help get your foot in the door and will help pinpoint your strengths.

YOU’RE ON THE CLOCK You only have 60 seconds from beginning to end. You’ll say “ well (her name) it was very nice to meet you I told my friend id keep him or her company tonight, I have to go so stay out of trouble for now” you shake hands and leave. Most guys get this wrong by lingering around, you may come off as an annoyance; remember you are a complete stranger to her. Do not assume your presence is welcome and make the critical mistake by getting comfortable too quickly. The reason you want to leave in 60 seconds is because odds are she has never encountered a social situation that you have just presented. She is used to men sticking around until she gives her girlfriends the eye signal to come intervene. The fact that you are basically saying hi and bye in under

60 seconds, does not give her time to react. You are planting the seed of interest and that’s exactly what you want. The Second Encounter: This is where you make the move that will entice her. You have to now convert that curiosity into flirtation and let that manifest into attraction. If we go back to my example of the smile, when you approach her the second time be sure to say, “Well there’s the girl with the beautiful smile. How’s your night going?” (Please make sure you are a wearing a smile, which will help her relax.) We as humans have a very short attention span. It is crucial that you become a celebrity in her mind for this second interaction. So, what is something that will grab her attention right away? Sorry to tell you that there is no one line that’ll promise to get you her digits. Don’t fall for that phony stuff. What I am providing are proven methods of strategic approach. With that being said, in my personal experience I found that the real secret is humor! No crazy scientific form of manipulation or a new spray you apply on yourself and boom like magic women crawl to you. When has anything worth getting in life come that simple and easy? (Unless of course you win the lottery.) The real world requires a strategic approach that will allow for the best potential outcome. When I found myself speaking with women who were already getting a lot of attention, let’s say at a bar or someone I met online or even at the bookstore. The common denominator I found was that humor was the best icebreaker. It worked better than sheer persistence or even when I had my “A” game on and thought the Prince Charming persona would do the trick. Truth is, women can see through all the charm, all the persuasion, all the one-liners. The best persuasion I found is when I didn’t try to be persuasive at all but funny, witty, and a bit clever with my words. Don’t overdo it and become the class clown because then you won’t be taken seriously. Keep things light and genuine and your words have to flow smoothly. You have to make the conversation run fluidly. Any

moments of silence will cause some friction. She is going to be observing, you are going to be performing. The reason humor works the best is because when we are laughing our brain releases endorphins which lead to a feeling of euphoria. Euphoria is linked to the release of sex hormones and dramatically decreases stress. Make a woman laugh and her brain will release endorphins which will make her more joyful, lower her initial barrier, and even turn her on. You will start to notice she will let you in and once you feel that she is looser and relaxed you can then proceed with questions. Get her to talk about herself, ask questions that are relevant and not too personal. Relevant being “so are you from around here?” or “what type of work do you do?” or even “what brings you out tonight?” Things of that nature. You are going to want to piggyback off the things she is telling you. Remember, piggybacking is nothing more than using the information she is giving you and asking a fresh new set of questions, while demonstrating interest. How do know what funny things to say? For starters if you want a sense of humor you can’t take yourself so seriously. Grease up the hinges, become loose and inviting. Be playful but appropriate. Your inner wit will come out naturally, I promise. There’s nothing specific I can tell you about humor other than when you are relaxed and happy, she will be relaxed and happy allowing for humor to shine from spontaneity. The second encounter is where you will initiate more conversation and possibly close with her number. The reason I say possibly is because you may speak to someone who is involved in a relationship and there’s basically nothing you can do to prepare for this other than move on to the next one. Don’t waste time with someone in a relationship, just move on. For the second interaction you need to think in terms of closing. Having a soft sense of humor on the second interaction is going to leave her basically defenseless to your charm and she will be open to chatting a little longer. If there

are friends around, involve the friends in the conversation so they don’t start giving their friend the ‘let’s get a move on’ look. Ask about school, hobbies, work, and why they are interested in these things. In the book Contagious: Why Things Catch On, Harvard professors actually proved that people love to talk about themselves. So, the more you can get her to talk about herself, the more endorphins will be released in her brain, and the more energetic and receptive she’ll be.

THE CLOSE At this point you have engaged in a fairly light and fun conversation with her. This is where you ask for her number. The close has to be just as smooth as your opening line, if not smoother. If all goes well and she has been speaking with you longer than five minutes then you have intrigued her enough to get her number, and she is now waiting for your question. I always say, “Hey so we are about to take off, but it was really nice to meet you. We should get together soon.” She’ll say “yeah sounds great” and that’s when you pull out your phone and ask for her number. I use the “I’m leaving” approach personally because I have found that it works the absolute best. However, if you feel that she is really interested in you then by all means be more direct and just ask her for her number. Say, “I’m having a great time talking with you. I would enjoy taking you out soon, what do you think?” She’ll say “yeah that would be great” and then you say “perfect, what’s your number?” Both of these methods work well, so based on your interaction use the one you feel will give you the best success. The trick to the close is to not overcomplicate things. When you want to ask for her number, it’s important to stay calm. It’s just her phone number! The close should be short but sweet and before you know it, you will be ending the night with a beautiful woman’s phone number. When I get a girl’s number I always wait until the next morning to message her. I’ll usually wait until around 11am the following day; it’s

not too early and not too late. Most guys think waiting at least two days is key or texting her that same night is better. These are not the approaches you want to take. One method will show that you are obviously trying too hard and the other shows that you are overly eager. Repeat this entire process over and over, and you will build such confidence in this process that it feels instinctual to you.

Chapter 4 How To Get Any Woman To Tell You Anything You Want to Know About Her This is certainly true with women. Women like to talk and like to have men interested in what they have to say. However, most men pay attention to the conversation in their own heads instead of the woman in front of them, because as guys, we are often trying to think of something else to say to impress her. We talked about telling stories with witty comebacks and innuendo, and we will talk about some of the other things that are interactive, but they are not attractive if all you do is talk and talk without letting her get a word in edgewise. If you think about a guy who did that to you, maybe one of your friends or a former friend, or maybe a guy you went out with who wouldn't shut up, you know it is extremely annoying. We all like to talk more than we like to listen, and we also want to be heard. There is a gigantic opportunity for you, as a man, to create a lot of attraction if you genuinely listen to her. It sounds like trite advice, but I assure you, it works better now than ever before because few women are truly listened to by the men in their lives and they are dying for men to listen to them. Obviously, the caveat is if you meet a woman and you find her boring because she has nothing to say, and you don't want to spend time with her, you shouldn't. You shouldn't waste any more time with her, simply move on to the next woman. One of the great things about having an abundance mentality with women is, when you meet one that's not right for you, you can easily attract one who is. If a woman is boring, there is no reason to sit and listen to her and let her bore you over and over. Just move on. You will find when you are focused on listening to women- not just hearing the words, but paying close attention to what she says, her content, the structure of her language, her body language, you are going to learn a lot.

When you start spending time with smart, high-quality, sexy women you will learn a lot of new things, particularly things about women. When women like and trust you, and one of the reasons they will like and trust a man is because he listens, they will start telling you things they won't tell other men. In fact, you will start to hear, "I shouldn't tell you this," or "I've never told anyone this," or "I rarely tell anyone this.” Anytime you hear that, shut up and listen, because you are about to hear something good. It might be a story from her past, or juicy business gossip, sometimes it can be a funny story that has a sexual overtone she wouldn't tell anyone else. When a woman does this, she trusts you and likes you because you listen to her. Listening is a critical aspect of talking to women because, so few men do it. So, if you make it a point to listen to a woman and pay attention to her whole range of communication, she will find that very appealing. When you start getting her to tell stories about herself and her past, you can begin to pick up on patterns of behavior and qualify and evaluate her more extensively. For instance, there was this one woman I was talking to. We had been out, and she was kind of smart, sexy and fun, so I was listening to a lot of the things that she had to say. All of a sudden, she started talking about how other guys she dated in the past had cheated on her. It's struck me as odd she had dated a lot of cheaters and she said, "Well, whenever I think a guy is cheating on me, I go and visit him in his office to see if I can catch him. I'll to his house." She described this pattern of behavior in which she became paranoid and would interrupt the guys at work and make a scene. Even though many of these guys probably weren't doing what she thought they were. Soon enough, they would cheat just to get away from her. Because I listened to her, I very quickly found a pattern of behavior that was disqualifying and I moved on, because it wasn’t something I wanted to deal with. When you listen to a woman and you encourage her to tell stories, you pay close attention and you're appreciative,

then you will learn a lot of interesting things about her that can help you qualify or disqualify. What you want to do when you're talking with a woman is to ask her about herself. Ask things like, "What are you passionate about?" "What are you into?" "What are some cool things you enjoy doing?" You don't want to get into the normal nice guy thing of, "So what do you do?" You are asking her more interesting, in-depth questions to get her to talk and open up. Find those points of passion. As you pay attention to her body language, you will see when she starts getting a little more excited and passionate, she talks a little bit faster. You will know that you are on a topic that she has emotional connections with. You want to encourage her to talk about that topic and ask her questions or say things that get her to continue the story cycle. "Well, what happened next?" and pay very close attention to her. You want to get her to continue talking about a subject she has emotional attachments to because it will tell you a lot. People in love to talk about subjects they are passionate about because so few people will listen to them. If you make it a point to listen, she will tell you a lot of things and you'll find out a lot of stuff about her, both positive and negative. Few men actually do this and they wind up getting in trouble because if they had just shut up and listened and encouraged the woman to tell stories and talk about herself, especially things she is passionate about, they might have picked up on some things that were disqualifying. They wouldn't have gotten into the relationship in the first place. Hearing is different from listening. You can ear things without really taking them in and you don’t just listen with your ears, you listen with your eyes, too. You want to look at her facial expressions and her gestures. You want to pay attention to her energy. Look at the whole range of communication because you can get a lot of information from that. You also want to listen to the structure of her language, how she tells stories or the words she puts together, particularly the

unusual words she uses, the way she speaks and her. You can see recurring structures. I once knew a guy who was a whiner. Once, he was whining about how bad business was, so I didn’t spend too much time with him. He was kind of a fat guy and when I ran into him later that day he was whining about how hard it was to work out. I realized the structure of his language was the same. The way he described and whined about his lack of success in business was the exact same way he whined and described his lack of success in fitness. So, you see, the structure of the language was exactly the same though the content and the topic were different. If you pay attention to the structure of language, if you start cluing your ears and eyes and mind to look for it, you will learn some fascinating things about women. Interestingly, when people, particularly women, talk about things they have an emotional attachment to, they start to fall into a rapport with you. Oftentimes, they get a little bit deeper and start telling you things they wouldn't tell other people. People love to tell secrets, they love to have to have a confidant. They love to have naughty little secrets. So, the more you listen, the more they will tell you things about themselves they normally wouldn't share with anyone. When a woman does that, it means she likes and trusts you. You can often get the information just by listening to her, by genuinely being interested, and encouraging her to continue to speak by saying, "Well, what happened with that?" "What happened next?" "Wow, that's fascinating, tell me more.” You want to alternate with your own witty comments and tell a couple of stories on your own, but you always want to let her talk so there is a balance to the conversation. When you get this down, there's a certain rhythm to the conversation as attraction happens. You banter back and forth, and she may tell you a story. You can tell her a story back, and then encourage her to tell another story. You get into a rapport and you start feeling that connection and chemistry with her and that is when she starts feeling attraction for you. When she's

telling you these things, you want to throw in validation and interest comments. A lot of guys make the mistake of being judgmental. Women like to talk. Just to talk is an emotional unburdening. Guys don't typically understand this because we talk and communicate with an action-oriented purpose. A lot of times, she may tell a story and the guy is like, "Why didn't you do this?" "What's the matter with you? Are you stupid?” and so he is being critical and judgmental. You never ever want to do that with women. Criticism can wound and hurt them because they're not talking for the same reason a guy is. Women are talking as an emotional unburdening. You want to refrain from offering unsolicited advice. Just simply throw in validation and interest comments to get her to continue talking, because you can learn some really interesting things. You certainly don't want it to be an interview, but you do want to give her opportunities to open up and talk to you about what she is interested in because it creates rapport and rapport leads to a feeling of trust. When there is a feeling of trust she will tell you things she doesn't tell most men. That's a sign of attraction and it's also a good technique for you to evaluate her in a way few other men could. You will find out some women are immediately emotional or have characteristics that are immediately disqualifying. I have heard a few fascinating and interesting things. I’ve learned of violence and physical abuse, drug and alcohol issues. I have found out a woman worked in an industry that I wouldn't have expected (fill in the blank). You can expose a past behavior that could lead to future issues. Once trust and rapport is building, it is more than a connection or feeling of trust. It's butterflies and the chemistry and the fun coming in, where you start laughing at this witty banter back and forth. It's a very light-hearted moment. That's when you think to yourself, "Wow, I really enjoy hanging out with this woman.” She is thinking the same thing because so few guys are able to create that rhythm. When you're able to do it, and you will learn how to do it with just about any woman because you practice, it places you in a different category of men. She feels attraction around you and she also feel

appreciated. A woman feels appreciated when you listen to her because so few men do. I've had women say, "The reason I like you so much is because you understand and appreciate me. So, few men in my life have appreciated me for who I am." It's very important to women. If all you do is listen to women all the time, you run the danger of becoming just a friend or therapist. Creating rhythm is important. You don't want to just listen. This isn't a one-sided interaction. It's her saying things while you listen, then you are saying things back. You don't want to get into the role of therapists or act like another female friend. The truth of the matter is women like to talk and you want her to decide she enjoys talking to you. They will talk to nice guys who will listen, give them hugs, feel sorry for them, and give them support and all that stuff, but there's no attraction there! That's why you want to throw in funny stories, oneliners, innuendos, and sarcastic commentary, as well as switching to a serious side on occasion so you are still in control of the interaction. You have authority on your side, which is very attractive to women and you're not behaving like the nice guys. Whenever you feel you are falling into a therapist role or she's just unburdening on you all the time, you need to cut the interaction short. There needs to be a give and take. There are two sides to it. But, listening, on your part, is important to a point. You don't want her to start abusing the listening part. If you are a guy who wants to create attraction, you can't do that. Women will usually have nice guys as friends and use them as therapists who they talk and talk and talk to because the guys put up with it! If you don't put up with it, you put yourself in a different class of man. The nice guy just listens, providing nothing more than comfort and a desire to please. The attractive man listens and he uses what he hears to create the rhythm of attraction, the banter back and forth, with undertones and overtones of sexual energy. Banter is the sexual energy flowing between the two of you. This doesn't happen with the nice guy.

The truth of the matter is, while there is an art to listening, it's one of the easier arts to master. The more you do it, the better you get, and the more appreciated you are. Again, like I said, you want to do this to a point. You don't want to cross the line of becoming a nice guy. Pay attention to her gestures, facial expressions, and structure of language, in addition to her content. How many times have you seen a woman who is talking and talking and the guy looks bored out of his gourd, staring off into space, paying attention to the conversation in his own head and not hearing a word that she says? She may be boring and, if that's the case, then he should certainly move on and find a more interesting woman. When you genuinely listen to a woman, or you listen to anyone because this skill obviously translates into many areas other than romance, it is obvious that you are paying very close attention to her words, facial expressions, gestures, and energy. You look into her eyes, you make eye contact and you break it. You react to what she says and to her body language so you are an active listener and an active participant, gently guiding her in the topics to talk about. That is what active listening is about. It is actually very easy and fun, and when you start doing it, you will be surprised to learn some amazing things women will tell you. Often, women will seduce themselves in your presence because you are just a good listener and so few guys are. They will think you are attractive because you are different from other men - you listen. Obviously, in the context of a committed, one-on-one relationship, listening is really important. If you don't listen to her, she will find a guy who will, even if it's just a nice guy. Or she'll gripe about you to her friends because you don’t listen. The simple act of a man genuinely listening is a need woman have. A man who listens is very attractive and stays attractive. A lot of times in relationships guys either don't listen or they quit listening. Another important fact about being a good and active listener with women is sometimes you can pick up on warning signs that a relationship is about to go south.

Sometimes, if she used to have a particular structure or a way of speaking and she doesn't anymore, or there's a change in her communication style, it can be an early warning sign something is amiss and you need to address it. If guys were to catch this stuff beforehand and take action to fix it, they would be able to restore a relationship and catch the problem before it’s too late. Instead, they miss out on it completely and it begins to get out of hand. If a woman is not as attracted to you as she was, her communication style starts to change suddenly. If you pay attention and keep her initial communication style, from when you first met and the attraction was at its peak, in your mind, then you can pick up on when there is something wrong. I've had that happen several times. If you nip it in the bud in the beginning, oftentimes, you can save or restore the relationship. Keep in mind that when you are in a committed relationship listening is more important than ever - not only to keep her interested but also to be on the lookout for warning signs there may be problems in the relationship. Oftentimes, it's a small thing that can be fixed, but if ignored, it can become a big thing. Women like to talk. Heck, they love to talk and they love men who listen to them. Obviously, if she bores you, like I said, you can move on to another, more exciting woman. But when you master the art of listening and learning, you'll discover a lot of things you don't know. This is a skill that works in business. It works with your friends. It works with guys. It works with women you are romantically interested in. You will learn at lot from people because they love to talk. Once they trust you, if they feel like they have a connection with you, they will unburden their secrets. There's a great show called American Greed that I highly-recommend watching. It tells the story of a new con man every week. These guys are very charismatic, good listeners and they are good at making people feel appreciated. That's the power of being a great listener. Obviously, you should not be a con man, but it shows you the power of simply listening. People will swiftly trust you with their deepest held secrets.

Obviously, trust can be abused. You don't want to abuse trust, ever. In fact, you want to hold on to those secrets and keep them to yourself because if you go blabbering them to other people, women won't confide in you anymore! If you keep them to yourself, then, you will continue to hear more secrets from women. Listening very quickly creates trust in other people. Being a good listener instead of a good talker, like I said, also leads to a happy, longer-term relationship. When women dump a man, many times they say, "He didn't listen to me." A lot of times, when they meet a man, in addition to, "Well, he makes me laugh," they will also say, "He listens unlike other men." This listening, on the man’s part, so she can unburden emotionally, is very important to women. From a male viewpoint, we don't get it because we don't unburden simply by talking. We unburden by taking actions to restore something. But for women, it's more of an emotional release when they are talking and they want a man who will listen. If you don't do that, if you don’t understand how important it is, which most men don't, all this stuff adds up over time and these emotional burdens begin to pile up. When a woman’s emotional burdens begin to pile up and she can't release them by talking to you, she starts to resent you. She thinks, “What are you good for?” Instead of making her feel good, instead of restoring her emotions to where they want to be, she begins to resent you because you let the negative stuff pile up, because she couldn’t unburden. I know this really doesn't make sense to a guy, but to a woman it makes perfect sense. If you just make it a point to listen, if you're in a committed relationship or a new relationship, you have a girlfriend or even a female friend and she wants to talk about something, you have to understand that she's not really soliciting action advice. If she wants advice, she will specifically ask you for it, but usually she wants to emotionally unburden. The act of simply telling you and you listening to her can have a profound effect. Oftentimes, women are in a negative emotional

state because of something that happened. They come home and are able to unburden that negativity they feel much better. Then, the next day or a couple of days later, they get around to taking actions to correct or restore it or they realize it wasn't that big of a deal. But if you don't listen and let her unburden, a lot of times she can't get to the point of resenting you because you don’t care enough to hear her. A man who makes it a point to listen to a woman, and this is predicated on you being in the presence of a woman that you find interesting and not boring, that man will find that not only is she very attracted to him, she stays attracted over time. It sounds like a simple thing to do, and it is, but so few men really understand how important it is for a woman to be heard by a man. If you just focus on learning the skill of listening and hearing the words she says, if you pay attention to her energy, the structure of her language, and you watch her body language and gestures, how she moves, what she does, and look for patterns of language that may recur, then, all of a sudden, you are really listening to her. On the attraction side of the house - she finds you attractive because few men listen. She's able to unburden quickly and without unsolicited advice or criticism. On the evaluative side of the house, you are able to discover things about her more quickly than most men would. You may find a behavior that if it were to recur in the future it would destroy your relationship, so you move on. Or you may find she is a really great woman and you learned things you didn't know. Master the art of active, genuinely interested listening and you will go further than most men will with women, because most men don't listen. If you listen, you will be a very attractive man.

Chapter 5 The power of listening As a man, a rather unfortunate or negative aspect of trying to date is a fear of coming across as a creep. This holds a lot of men from feeling like their usual or confident selves around women they are attracted to. A lot of men are aware that women tend to be rather selective about the men they go out with. This merely increases the pressure on men while they are trying to stand out from the rest of the competition. I mean this in a good way and not a way that seems pathetic or even desperate. That’s a lot of pressure on poor guys who are trying to score a date with a woman they find merely attractive. All this pressure stops men from even trying, and they choose to avoid women. Instead of having to deal with a heartbreaking rejection, they seem to accept that they are not dateable. Please don’t do this. It is time you find some middle ground. How? For those men who lean toward introversion, it can be rather overwhelming to get caught up in such a situation. If you are one of these people, then I am sure that you can see in vivid detail all the worst-case scenarios that can take place after you approach a pretty woman. However, instead of getting caught up in all this and assuming that you are making a mistake by making the first move, you can shush all the negativity and approach her! You can easily get lost in a world of the misery of your own making and live in unnecessary fear. You might find it difficult to break free of the negative thought process, but you need to. Often, these fears you hold onto are a work of your overactive imagination and aren’t real. In this section, you will learn about how you can approach and talk to women.

Undesirable Behavior There are certain behaviors that you must avoid if you don’t want to come across as a creep. This kind of behavior applies to all situations where your words or acts make her feel uncomfortable or even threatened when you are around. It is exactly the opposite of how you would want her to feel since it makes her feel like you are testing her limits. Here are certain things you must refrain from doing or saying at all costs. Striking up a conversation about sex when it is unrequited. Sharing inappropriate images or jokes with her. Absolute disregard for her physical boundaries. These are just a few ways in which you can make a woman feel uncomfortable. Please remember that women deal with men like this multiple times during their lives, and even if they get the slightest whiff of any creepiness, they will certainly run in the opposite direction. You can kiss any chances you had with her goodbye.

When to Approach This is one thing that a lot of men seem to need help with. In their bid to not come off as a creep or seem non-threatening, they avoid approaching women altogether. The result of this behavior is quite similar to scaring her off. If you try to meet or talk to someone, then there is nothing inherently weird about it. It is essentially the only way humans can interact and get to know one another. However, there is certainly a time and place for when you can and cannot approach a woman. Let your instinct and judgments guide you through such situations. Here are some things to keep in mind.

Location If you have no intention of coming across as a creep, even accidentally, then the first thing you need to pay attention to is the location. For instance, the connotations of approaching a woman in a bright and sunny park are quite different from making the first move in a dimly lit alley while she is walking home at night. Of course, at some places like a club or a bar, people expect to be approached by the opposite sex. However, out of such locations, women tend to find it threatening if a stranger approach them in the dark. Don’t only be mindful of the location, but the occasion, as well. For instance, trying to flirt with someone at a funeral is frowned upon, whereas you can certainly do this at a wedding.

Never Corner Her While keeping the points mentioned earlier in your mind when you approach a woman, you must also avoid making her feel trapped or cornered. Be mindful of where you approach her. If you are talking to a woman at a beach, it does seem quite normal. However, if you approach the same woman at a laundromat of a motel, it may seem threatening. Even if you don’t have any conscious intention of cornering her, by blocking her access to the exit or the door with your body will certainly seem threatening to her. These things are quite simple to remember while approaching a woman. You merely need to ensure that you are aware and conscious of your surroundings along with the situations.

Respect Her Personal Space If you ever catch yourself wondering whether it is appropriate to approach a woman and get closer to her while you start talking, then it is a good idea to maintain a safe distance. Don’t intrude into her personal space unless she gives you implied or explicit permission to do so. As mentioned earlier, always make it a point to ensure that she has free space and access to walk away whenever she wants.

Chapter 6 Why is listening important? Conversational Strategies We have all been told repeatedly that men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. Most people are under the impression that men and women are opposites and don’t have much in common. Here are a couple of tips you can use to ensure that you have a pleasant conversation with a woman.

Looking Past the Façade We are all just skin and bones with unique personalities under clothing. We all have our own baggage and a past that can haunt us. However, it is important to understand that you aren’t all those things that haunt you. No one ever likes to be reminded about any unpleasant aspects of their personality or any painful events from the past. When you are talking to a woman, please ensure that you see past through her façade and are trying to interact with her true persona. Take some time and get to understand her and see past all her layers. Regardless of what you do, make sure that you have a real personality before you spend your time trying to chat with her.

Building Common Ground Take some time and try to find some common points to talk about for establishing understanding. This is a skill that will certainly come in handy in all aspects of your life when you need to interact with others. For instance, you can go to a local grocery store or anywhere else where you will be able to interact with others. When you get to the checkout counter at the store, find something about the checkout clerk that you like. I personally feel that women tend to spend a lot of time and effort accessorizing their outfits. So, if you notice that someone you met has on some nice accessories, take a moment and compliment her. This will automatically make the other person look up from whatever she is doing and respond to your compliment.

Let Her Talk This is quite an easy thing to do. You don’t have to worry about coming across as being brilliant or even amazing. All that you must do is be a good listener and let her do the talking. However, while listening, ensure that you don’t get distracted and listen to her carefully while responding with things only related to the topic at hand. It is as simple as that. For instance, in the previous example, you complimented a woman about her accessory, and that opened the door for a conversation. She might share some tidbits about the accessory like, “I got this for my birthday!” and this is your cue to say something to which she will agree. Now is not the time for you to talk about yourself. Remember that you are trying to get her to talk to you. Try this trick a couple of times, and you will soon get the hang of it.

Avoid Certain Topics Make it a point to avoid all those subjects that can cause disagreement. The simplest way you can make someone dislike you is by taking an opposing viewpoint to theirs and tell them that they are wrong. Let us assume that the woman from the example mentioned earlier has agreed to go out for a cup of coffee with you. This is a big step, so pat yourself on the back. Now, don’t try to impress her by showing how smart or strong you are. If you do this, the cup of coffee you have together will be the last time you get to go on a date with her. Instead, try to find topics you both can talk about. If you disagree on any topic like politics, then I suggest that you avoid it like the plague until you both become comfortable with each other. Make it a point to avoid all topics that people tend to have passionate and strong opinions about. Stick to pleasant and wholesome topics. Avoid everything that can start a debate unnecessarily. Remember, you are entitled to your opinions and so is she. However, your aim at this stage is to get to talk to her, and an argument will certainly ruin any chance you may have had.

Never Violate Her Personal Space Respect her space and don’t try to intrude unless she gives you the signal that you can. Don’t try to move too close to her and don’t try to block her body with yours. Maintain an arm’s distance between the two of you. You can certainly lean toward her while conversing, but don’t step into her personal space.

Personal Hygiene Matters Brush your teeth and comb your hair properly before you approach any woman. Bad breath can end a conversation quicker than anything else. If you had a cup of coffee or even a cigarette before the conversation, then chew on some breath mints. Always carry some breath mints with you wherever you go. Get on top of your hygiene and ensure that you look properly groomed. Your appearance is all about the way you present yourself.

Get Her Number As soon as you start talking to her, try to find some common points. Maybe you both like the same artist, prefer a similar cuisine, share the love for a hobby or something else. As soon as you find this tidbit of information, hold onto it. You can casually bring this up at a later point in the conversation and use it to get her number. For instance, if she tells you that she likes Mexican food and you have a perfect place in mind for her, you can say something along the lines of, “I know this quaint little Mexican food joint that I am sure you would like. So, if you give me your number, I can text you the address!” This is not only a smooth way to ask for her number, but it is non-threatening, too. Once you have her number, you can start messaging her. Drop in a causal message; see the way she responds to that before you can think about prolonging the conversation. If she replies promptly and tries to continue the conversation, then you have your green signal! However, don’t text her too frequently and don’t send her any inappropriate messages. A final piece of advice - if you feel like she is not interested in you, then don’t waste your time and move on. If she signals to you in any manner that she is not interested in continuing the conversation, then it is time to bid adieu. You might be a wonderful person, but if you aren’t her cup of tea, then you need to find someone else. Please don’t let one rejection take a toll on your self-confidence. By keeping these simple tips in mind, you can have smooth and easy conversations with women. However, you will need to practice a couple of times until you get the hang of it.

Chapter 7 The importance of sex in a long-term relationship As you probably know, men and women are attracted to different things. Men are attracted to looks and femininity; while women are attracted to ‘look’ and masculinity. In general, the level of attractiveness of a woman can be determined just by looking at her; while the level of attractiveness of a man can only be determined by interacting with him. Even though a man who enters a room, with a straight back, and this sharp, aware look in his eyes, will often immediately get identified as attractive by women; a woman can never really be sure of it if she hasn’t interacted with him. So, there is a difference between the speed in which it is possible to determine how attractive a woman is and to determine how attractive a man is. When a very attractive woman enters a room dressed in a skirt and high heels, you are probably pretty quickly attracted to her. When you then hear her talk to somebody and notice how sweet and feminine her voice is, you are probably sold. When she then sees you, with your look of masculine fulfilment in your eyes and makes eye contact with you, she probably identifies you as a man who possibly has a strong masculine core. However, she cannot be sure yet, so she first will have to test you. You are an assertive man, so you go talk to her. If you would at this very moment push the ‘pause’ button and evaluate the situation, you can conclude that at this very moment, you are more attracted to her than she is to you. She is an amazingly beautiful woman. Therefore, the decision to get to know her more and potentially have sex with her has already been made, assuming she doesn’t turn out to be either very unpleasant or mentally ill. Meanwhile, in her experience, you are a man of whom she suspects that he has a strong masculine core, but to be sure, she first will have to test you. So, in her mind, the decision to get to know you more and potentially have sex with you has not been made (yet).

In general, a beautiful woman has a lot of sexual power. They have something that nearly every man desperately wants. This something can be identified by simply looking at her. 90% of men will desperately follow her every command. Most of the times, when she is getting to know a man and is on the road towards sex, the power remains unequally distributed. The men she dates can be seen showing off their financial resources by paying for every dinner; or continuously trying to make her laugh in order to keep her amused by his presence. What these men don’t realize is that the sexual power that she has, they actually also can have. They are not aware of their own potential in terms of sexual power. Of course, for you this is different. You know that men and women have equal sexual power and that her feminine sexual power simply has to be matched with your masculine sexual power. As a mentally strong man, who has taken charge of his own life, his own way of communicating and who has gone through a lot of resistance, you make her attracted to you simply by communicating with her. You are equal, but different.

The sexual power of a man is equal to the strength of his masculine core After having communicated with her for a while, having allowed her to test you and having made an escalation statement in a very direct and unapologetic manner, she knows what you are. She will want to see you again. She no longer perceives her own sexual power as higher than yours. You are now together in the process of getting to know each other more. During this process you escalate further, go for the first kiss, and make a few sexual statements. She will occasionally test you again and these tests especially occur at the beginning of every new level of escalation that you introduce. By going through this process with her while being very comfortable and relaxed, you also demonstrate that you are not anxious about her incredible beauty. This shows that you have been in similar situations before, which indirectly implies that you are pre-

selected. Many men would become very anxious and impatient when being in the process of getting to know of such a beautiful woman, but you remain very relaxed. You are not desperate. Even when she tests you at the very last moment, by acting as if she doesn’t find you attractive anymore, you simply remain cool and relaxed. “I don’t want you anymore”, she jokes while carefully studying your reaction. You look at her with a neutral look on your face and reply: “by the way, I am actually married with 3 children… no just kidding”. If she would really suddenly decide to not want to have sex with you, you would simply shrug. You know it would be her loss just as much as it would be yours and that there are many fishes in the sea.

Difference between man and woman sexually As a man with a strong masculine core, when you are intimate with a woman, this takes place according to the natural ebb and flow of intimacy. When you have kissed a woman for the first time, you are not suddenly all over her. Doing so would show desperation. You are comfortable with being intimate with a woman. An example of a male-female dynamic in which the man shows desperation is the following. Imagine a man who hasn’t had a woman in three years. He reads this book and has this great aha!-moment. He suddenly realizes that he has been living up to the standards of his boss and his friends for the last eight years. He finds out what he wants, finds another job that permits him to work part-time and finally starts to take Wing-Chun classes, the martial art he always wanted to study. In the beginning, his friends criticized his choice to work part-time. This made him feel insecure at first, but he simply relaxed and breathed through the discomfort as he told them that “you only live once and one should do what he wants”. After a month, he notices that he feels better than he ever felt. When he looks in the mirror he notices that the look in his eyes has changed. He then meets a woman on the bus and goes on a date with her. During this date, he makes an escalation statement and later he kisses her on her lips. She kisses him back and they end up on the sofa of a cocktail bar. He is so happy! He hasn’t been intimated with a woman for three

years! He enthusiastically pulls her towards him again and again and can’t stop kissing her. She is usually the one who ends the make-out sessions and he is the one who reinitiates them, again and again. Two days later, he tries to contact her again and notices that she doesn’t reply. She must be busy, he thinks to himself. The next day, he receives the following message: “Hi there. It was like meeting you, but this is not the right time in my life to get to know a man. I am very occupied”. A month later, he sees her with another man. So, what went wrong? What went wrong is the following: he didn’t create a balanced male-female dynamic. The dynamic he created was a dynamic in which the sexual power of the woman is way higher than the sexual power of the man. By being all over her continuously, he communicated to her that he is not used to being intimate with a woman. The woman picked this up and subconsciously concluded that she was way too important for him too soon and that he probably is not pre-selected. Moreover, she did not get horny or excited by the way in which they were intimate.

For a man with a strong masculine core, women are abundant When you are intimate with a woman, you do this according to a natural ebb and flow. At one moment you kiss her, then you just sit back and talk, then you give her another kiss, then you playfully push her away, then you have another drink, then you make a sexual statement, then you pull her towards you, letting her kiss your neck without kissing her back, etc. As a man with a strong masculine core, being intimate with a woman is not something unique. It is simply a natural and fun process. If being intimate with a beautiful woman is something that is ‘new’ for you, don’t deal with this by becoming overly enthusiastic. Simply relax and let the initial fear and discomfort arise. Let it be and simply breathe into it. The first time you are being intimate with a woman that is truly at a level of physical beauty you haven’t experienced before, it is

normal to feel fear. You might start to doubt yourself. Can I have a woman like this? you might think to yourself, why does she like me? These thoughts are normal at first. So, how do you deal with such thoughts? These thoughts might seem like a massive mind-fuck. The trick is to ignore them. Don’t start having a mental discussion with yourself. Instead, focus on the emotions you have in your body. These are probably emotions of insecurity and fear. Deal with these emotions as you deal with any internal resistance; relax, let it be and slowly breathe into it. After a while, the emotion will go away and the thoughts will disappear together with the emotion.

Psychological benefits Most men are afraid to receive a test from a woman. They are not comfortable with the stimulus being directed at them or they believe it is a bad sign. In reality, receiving a test is a necessary part of the male-female dynamic you are creating with a woman. If she does not test you, you might even wonder if her subconscious mind is even considering you as a potential sexual partner. Imagine you are together with a woman and on the road towards sex. You have already escalated the dynamic past the first kiss, but you want to increase the level of escalation past the sexual statement level. You pull her against you, give her a kiss and look into her eyes. “I am going to eat your pussy”, you say. She then looks at you act ‘shocked’ and slaps your cheek. This is the test. Most men would now react to the social stimuli and quickly apologize and try to ‘rescue’ the interaction. What she is doing is that she is simply testing how comfortable you are yourself, while you are introducing this new level of escalation. This is normal. Women always need to make sure where their man stands. How strong is his masculine core? Is he bluffing? Of course, you do not react and remain in control of your own emotional and mental state. As you are getting more comfortable expressing your own sexuality as a man, you’ll find yourself in sexual situations with women more often. You will find yourself naturally escalating the

dynamic if you are with a woman that you like. You will find yourself playfully responding to her tests, establishing intimacy with her and making her horny by the way you touch her. When you are spending time in a bar with her and her friends, you’ll occasionally kiss her and then push her away playfully, then have a conversation with one of her friends and notice that she comes back to you again to hug and kiss you. Then, you go dance with her, talk with her, playfully tickle her belly, pull her against you and say “I believe I just caught a glimpse of what you look like having an orgasm”. She’ll test you by pushing you away while laughing. Never be afraid to ‘improve’ the male-female dynamic like this. Many men are afraid to do this. They are having a good time, dancing, making out and holding hands with a woman and they become afraid. They become afraid to ‘ruin it’ and do not want to ‘take any risks’. Never be overwhelmed by a test. She might get ‘angry’ with you or ‘glare’ at you. It is all a part of the male-female dynamic. Just like men, women are highly sexual creatures. They are the feminine pole and they respond to the masculine pole. The male-female dynamic is a dynamic of sexual escalation, tests, playfulness, connection building, more escalation, more tests, and lots of sex. This is normal. Tests are natural part of this dynamic. They respond to whatever frame is introduced by a man with a strong Core, so take responsibility for this. You might be surprised by what you can create once you get more comfortable with this. When you really would have ruined it, she will say goodbye and remove herself from the situation with you, thus ending the male-female dynamic. A woman glaring at you and slapping you is a test. It doesn’t mean you ruined it. For a woman, Sex is surrender. She has to trust you are someone she can surrender to. Women will not create the malefemale dynamic for you. They will participate in it obviously (because they are the feminine), but they will not create it. They do not create, they only respond. You are the creator; she is the responder.

Masculine is action; feminine is reaction. If you question your own steps, she cannot trust you. How can she trust you if you don’t trust yourself? Be sure of yourself and create the dynamic you want to create. She will test you, and then follow you.

Relationship benefits As a man with a strong masculine core, you have established dominance over yourself. By the way you communicate with the chosen woman; you also express dominance over her. This does NOT mean that you are her boss or that you order her around. This is not what the male-female dynamic is about. Men and women are equal. Dominance means that you express yourself in such a way that you end up influencing her emotional and mental state. When you make a sexual statement, you go through her test, when you grab her by her lower back, do this strongly. Hold her like she is your possession. In the sexual dynamic between the masculine and the feminine: the masculine should feel strong, assertive and dominant. When you express yourself intimately towards your woman, do this in a way that feels strong and masculine. This makes her feel safe as well as horny. When you walk with her on the street during a sunny Saturday afternoon, pull her against you as if you own her body. Make her look into your eyes and kiss her strongly and dominantly. “I like how soft you feel”, you then whisper in her ear. This will inevitably make her horny. This is natural. The masculine and the feminine are like the two poles of a magnet. The feminine side gets horny when being touched by the masculine side. You will find that interacting like this with your chosen woman, will feel very naturally. You will also notice that the woman will respond towards this, as she will get wet. In addition, naturally being able to relate in this manner with women will render them unable to use sex as a control mechanism. Most men don’t know how to make a woman horny simply by the way they communicate with her. At the same time, they would like to have sex with her. This is an unbeneficial position to be in, because in this situation, the sexual power that she has over you, is bigger

than the other way around. This is even the case when you haven’t had sex with her before. If you haven’t had sex with her yet, she actually cannot know what it is like to have sex with you. However, she subconsciously still gets a general idea of what you must be like in bed. How is this possible? You have to understand that sex is actually not different from the dynamic you have with your woman outside of the bedroom. If you don’t touch her in a way that makes her horny outside of the bedroom, it is unlikely that you suddenly turn out to be able to drive her crazy inside the bedroom. Who you are in the bedroom, is the same as who you are in general when interacting with your chosen woman and even who you are in life in general. You take ownership of your woman’s body when you are fucking her in the same way that you take ownership of your own life. When you naturally communicate with your chosen woman in this way, it is very unlikely that she is going to try to use sex as a control mechanism. In fact, you could even turn this around completely. Imagine you and your chosen woman are walking home after a dinner. You pull her towards you on her arm, hold her and smell her neck. “I like how you smell”, you say. Then, you strongly kiss and lick her neck region for a while. Stop doing this and use your left arm to lift her chin, making her look into your eyes and the other hand to grab the backside of her hip strongly and dominantly, as if you are the owner of her body. Softly give her a kiss on her forehead and continue walking. Expressing yourself like this as you are walking home will make her horny. If you are sure you have the privacy, you could even push her against a tree and grab her vagina area through her clothes. “Do you mind if I feel this part?”, you say with a commanding voice tone and you start making out with her little while you hold your hand on her vagina. When later in the bedroom, you take of her panties and notice that she is soaking wet, don’t be surprised. In the same way she can make you have an erection by looking gorgeous and kissing you, you can make her wet by

expressing yourself towards her in a very dominant and sexual manner.

The dynamic between the masculine and the feminine is primarily sexual When thinking about the concepts of dominance and sexual escalation, many men seem to think that escalating in a dominant way means forcing her to be intimate with you. This is misconception that is also quite dangerous, for obvious reasons. Sexual escalation is a process that should be well-adjusted to the emotional state the woman is in. After having made the sexual statement, ask yourself: is she still there? You will notice if she accepts or reject the dynamic that you introduce. You will also notice that there is a difference between a test and a clear sign of disinterest. “Get On Your Knees” When having sex with a woman, most men are afraid to unapologetically ask what they want. The next time you have sex with your chosen woman, and you are still in the foreplay stage, command her to go on her knees and give you oral sex. Again, you will notice that you will have to go through some inner resistance to do this exercise. Going through this inner resistance will help you to get used to doing this. It is beneficial to get used to taking the lead in the bedroom. This is your sexual power and women respond to this. In the same way you take leadership over your life and over the male-female dynamic you create, you also take leadership in the bedroom.

Sex When you have sex with your chosen woman, you lead this experience by the way you express yourself. This expression ideally is according to three principles. These principles are dominance, emotion and variance. You walk towards her, put your hands on her hips and push her against the wall. “Look into my eyes”, you say. She looks into

your loving, yet unwavering eyes. “You know I love you right?”, you ask. You hug her. “I love you too”, she answers, while she put your arms around you. You look at her again and you see her looking into your eyes. You move your mouth towards her ear and whisper, “I am going to fuck you crazy”. You put one hand on her lower back and pull her towards you, while you place your other hand on one of her breasts. You then passionately kiss her neck-region. When you have sex with your chosen woman, you take ownership of her body. You are the aggressor and she is the receiver. When you make love to a woman, you penetrate her. The act of penetrating a woman’s body is very dominant. For a woman, allowing herself to be penetrated is an act of surrender to your masculinity and your love. When you fuck your woman, you focus on expressing the love you feel for her in an aggressive and assertive manner. Command her to look in your eyes and say: “say that you’re mine”. Her body is your body. Fuck her like she’s your dearest property. Many women read novels about this kind of stuff. There is a reason for that. Let’s shortly explain the three factors which should ideally be present in the sex live you create with your woman.

Dominance Treat her as if her body is your property. Lift her up, throw her on the bed, grab her arms, and force her to spread her legs. Then, pull of her panties and passionately make out with her wet vagina. Fuck her deep and hard while you grab her neck. Ravish her. The difference between raping and ravishing is the deep connection that the two of you have. A man who has established dominance over himself and expresses himself in a dominant way is a man with a strong masculine core.

Emotion

Express your love. Tell her how much you love her while you are having sex. When you are making out with her vagina, tell her that you love tasting her. As you are fucking her, tell her how much you love feeling so close to her and smelling the scent of her body. “Whisper in my ear my love”, you say to her, “I love hearing your voice”. Women are emotional creatures and want to feel a deep connection with their lover. The moment you are both naked and making love to each other is the moment you are together the most. It is the moment you are the closest to each other you will ever be. This is why sex is actually a very emotional experience. During sex, the connection you have should be emphasized.

Variance Make sure you have sex in different ways. One night, you fuck her dominantly and aggressively; the other night, you make her go on top and let her be the boss as you softly caress her body; the next morning, you pull her towards you and grab the back of her head by grabbing her hair and whisper “go sit on your knees my love”, and you make her give you oral sex; that night, you slowly make love to her softly and tenderly, while looking deeply into each other’s eyes; and the next morning, you wake her up by giving her oral sex. As the man, you are (mostly) the leader of what happens in the bedroom. You take the initiative and she follows. You are responsible to creating a wide variety of sex and lovemaking in the relationship. This doesn’t mean that you can’t let her take the lead once in a while. The masculine assertively takes the feminine as its own; while the feminine allows itself to be taken by the masculine There is an endless variety of ways in which you can have sex with your chosen women. Give her a long, full-body massage and massage your way all around her vagina, without touching her clitoris or entering her

vagina. Massage her hips, inner thighs and legs. After that, fuck her slowly from behind. Make her have a clitoral orgasm using cunnilingus, then massage her back for half an hour while letting her clitoris recover, then turn her on her back and then fuck her deeply while holding her tightly and telling her how much you love her. Blindfold her and make her give you oral sex until you come, then give her oral sex until she comes, then give her a full body a massage and repeat the process. Keep her blindfolded. Throw her on the bed, fuck her dominantly and deeply while calling her your “property”. If you are having sex without a condom; before you go to sleep, penetrate your penis into her vagina and leave it there while you are half-sleeping. Slowly make some fuck-movements from time to time to maintain your erection. Having her fall asleep while she feels you inside of her can be a very emotional experience. During a Friday afternoon, when you are walking through the city, establish physical contact and tell her how much you want to fuck her. “I am serious” you tell her when she laughs your comment away (test). You then pull her into a disabled bathroom, push her against the wall and fuck her while standing. After you have woken up, put her on top and have her slowly ride you. “I love waking up next to you”, you tell her as you hold her hips and look into her morning eyes. If you really have a strong connection with your woman, you can tell her to look deeply into your eyes while having sex and try to keep this eye contact during the entire lovemaking session. Having her look into your eyes as she orgasms and vice versa can create a bond that lasts for the rest of your lives. Being able to create such a wide variety of experiences within the male-female dynamic, strengthens your sexual power in the relationship. Most men are unable to do this. For these men, sex is a tool that women use to control them. Sex is their reward for good

behavior. These men do not understand the male-female dynamic nor their own sexual power. It can even be stated that these men do not understand their own role in life. The reality is that after having gained some experience in expressing yourself towards your chosen woman in a way that is according to the principles of dominance, emotion and variance; you could even turn the sexual power around, meaning that she wants to have sex with you more than the other way around. Of course, because we are men; it seems unlikely that we wouldn’t want to have sex with the woman we love

Female Orgasm When you make express yourself sexually by acting in accordance with the three principles of dominance, emotion and variance; you will notice that your chosen woman will start to have orgasms during intercourse. How is this possible? Most men think that giving a woman an orgasm can only be done by patiently stimulating the clitoris in a very smooth manner, by using your tongue and lips. While this is definitely something that I recommend, it is neither the only way nor the best way to give her a powerful orgasm. Women can have two types of orgasm: a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm. A clitoral orgasm is the type of orgasm just described. More interesting is a vaginal orgasm. Most people, including women themselves, don’t know that a vaginal orgasm even exists. A vaginal orgasm is experienced deeper in the vagina and is not so much caused by the physical sensation of fucking her deeply, as it is by the psychological aspect of the experience. It has more to do with feeling dominated, feeling loved, feeling safe and feeling a deep connection with her lover. The vaginal orgasm is the feminine completely surrendering itself to the masculine

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Take a pen and paper and write down three different types of lovemaking sessions. You can take inspiration from the examples just described, or you can invent your own lovemaking sessions. The next three times you have sex, execute these three written down examples. This way, you will get used to taking the leadership in bed. In addition, you will notice how powerfully a woman responds to you doing this. She doesn’t know what is going to happen, so she has to surrender to you and just experience it. You will notice that she will have orgasms more easily when you are in control.

Chapter 8 Online Dating Techniques Now you know the approaches to avoid, it’s time to go on the offensive. In this section, you will learn about the subtle things that will grab her attention.

What to "notice" about her-- clue: it's not her natural beauty The natural tendency of a man to capture the attention of a woman is to appreciate her beauty. But the thing is, girls know that their beauty can attract a guy, but her beauty alone cannot make any relationship last. In the end, she will be more enamored with a guy who likes her for more than just her looks. Here’s a list of things a woman wants you to notice about her: 1. Her fashion - Her natural beauty may have nothing to do with her style choices. Praising her for her beauty is not the right approach because again, you are giving away your power. You can compliment her once or twice at first about how she looks in her photos and that you are attracted to her, but don't overdo it. Gently praise her for her looks only as long as it’s not the only thing you’ll notice about her over and over again. Doing so is like saying she has nothing else to offer except her beauty. So instead of her beauty, why not mention how great her fashion is (her clothes, shoes, accessories, etc.). Unlike her beauty, her fashion statement is her choice - praising it is an outright declaration that she has a good taste. These types of compliments separate you from the rest of the wimps who gush over her looks. 2. Her sense of humor - If there is something she says that made you laugh, comment on it. A girl always likes it when someone laughs at her jokes and sense of humor. Laughing with her means her humor is something you can grasp-- meaning you are good together because what’s funny for her is funny for you too. Don’t overdo it, though. If there is absolutely nothing funny in what she says, laughing can make her feel offended. 3. The new haircut - You may notice that her profile picture changed and it appears she has a new haircut. What do men usually do? Right, ignore it as if having a new haircut is nothing short of a trivial thing. Well, to be honest, it’s kind of is, but for girls, it isn’t. If she has a new hairdo, the least you can do is notice it. If it looks good on her, then tell her so, but if it does not, don’t lie! Girls know when their

haircut is good or not, so telling the opposite will not do you any good! 4. Her birthday’s coming up - If her birthday is coming up, perhaps in a couple of days, try to start a casual conversation and mention it. Simply ask her something along the lines of “Hey, you’ll be turning... next week... what’s the plan?” It’s actually very subtle-- your question is very harmless (just you interested in her plans), but who knows if she’ll invite you over?! 5. The witty comments - Don’t pass up on opportunities to commend her for her witty remarks. You can find these remarks either through her social media accounts (provided she shares this with you) or in her online dating profile. Perhaps she is witty in her emails and phone conversations with you. If you agree with her statements, then back her up. If you don’t support or agree with her thoughts, then provide a logical argument. After all, always agreeing with her is like insulting her intelligence-- as if you’re telling her “Okay fine, you’re right, now shut up...” You’ll be surprised at how well women like it when they get an honest argument out of men. Women like to be challenged, so always keep this in mind and avoid being the agreeable wimp.

The Art of Backhanded Compliments Another great way of getting her attention is to be a little mean. The operative word there is little, being too mean can cost you the opportunity to get to know her. Another way of saying this is to be a little cocky, but in a funny, teasing way. How do you do that? Well, simple. Just offer some backhanded compliments. Backhanded compliments are a lot more effective than merely winking at her or gushing over her. Doing nothing else but wink at her will irritate her to the core. It’s like saying that you want her, but she has to send the first message first. It’s also saying that she’s not good enough to get a real message from you. So, stop doing it! Below are five examples of backhanded compliments that will capture her interest. The only reminder for you here is to use your judgment when using them-- the goal is to catch her attention. If she replies back, then you have succeeded. These types of compliments are nifty because they indirectly take a swipe at her in some way. Attractive women are used to men fawning over them. When you frame your statements a certain way, she will recognize that you are not a wimp and have some alpha male qualities. Women always say they want a nice guy, but deep down they want men to take the position of authority and not be too nice. So, if you decide to use the following, make sure that you reiterate that it was not an insult if she becomes offended. Remember, you were just teasing. 1. Your hair is great, is that real? There is nothing more provoking than telling her that her beauty is unnatural, especially if it is! In the compliment above, what exactly are you trying to imply? That she’s wearing a wig? Or that she has photo-shopped her picture? Either way, she will definitely go into defensive mode so fast that she may send you a message with tons of typos since she wrote it so fast. This gets their attention and lets them know you may be a bit of a jerk. You pose a bit of a mental challenge to her. She is going to want to prove to you that she is worth your attention. Try it, you’ll see. It works.

2. You remind me of someone back in high school At first glance, there is nothing wrong with this compliment, only that if you’ll break it down, it is not really a compliment... who was that someone you remembered? Was she pretty or ugly? Was she smart or dumb? The girl you’re talking to will probably want to know too! It will make her wonder what you meant by it. This is good, because she hasn't figured you out yet. 3. Hey, you really look great in your pictures Now... this is really a backhanded compliment out in the open. If you tell her this, you are basically telling her that she looks good ONLY in pictures-- Which, if you’ll consider is just an observation because you have not really met her in person yet. Follow it up with something cool like “...and your profile picture looks stunning, so perhaps if we’re a match I get to see for myself?” This tells her that her looks will only be validated once you see her in person. Remember, you are the person of authority. She has to meet your approval, not the other way around. 4. Black really suits you well... Are you telling her that she’s fat? Make sure that when you give out this compliment, the woman is nowhere near fat! If she is, you will really insult her. But, if she’s sexy, then the conversation will flow smoothly. She will most likely reply “Are you telling me I’m fat?” and you can reply with “How could you even think that?!” You are controlling the tone of your conversation with these types of compliments. It tells her that you are teasing her in an indirect way. Subconsciously, you will begin to feel more attracted to you. 5. Seems like you’ve got a great personality How can you even say that when you have not met her yet? She will most likely ask you the reason why you thought so, thus, you need to be prepared with your answer. Respond with something she stated in her profile, or her previous comments, or something related to her photos where she was singing karaoke or something. It implies by having a great personality, you may not feel she is attractive enough

for you (because you haven't complimented her looks). This is exactly what you want her to think, even if she is an extremely beautiful woman. Again, the best thing to remember is, after getting her to respond to you, the backhanded compliment should just be a compliment, something that she should appreciate. She may not think so – and you have gotten her attention in a very subtle way. The effect these backhanded compliments have are invaluable.

Taunting her to like you Now, that you have opened the line of communication between you and the girl you are interested in, it’s time to make her like you. Since you cannot meet her in person (at least not yet), you must challenge her to like you through your e-mails.

What e-mails to send her to get her attention In the light of e-mails, you must understand that there are three goals-- the first is to make her open your message (through the subject line), the second is to make her like you (through the body), and the third is to make her reply to you (through the closing). If you fail in any of this three, then, nothing good will come out of your effort.

The Subject Line The subject line should be really catchy that she can’t help but click on it. Below are some of the best subject lines you can use to get her to open your message: 1. You probably don’t know this, but your profile is/has... This will make her nervous, what’s wrong about her profile? Did she, by any way, get anything wrong in it? Did someone else manipulate it? 2. (Insert her name here), you should never be too busy for this... Again, her curiosity will be picked. 3. I should commend you for what you did... Everyone loves compliments, but what are you going to compliment her for? If you receive an e-mail with this subject line, admit it, you are most likely to click on it. 4. Be realistic! Are you angry with her? Did she do something that merits this kind of reaction? Well, she will absolutely want to know what’s to be realistic about because no girl likes it when she’s being reprimanded! 5. Last night, I was reminded of your profile What did she do to be remembered-- was it because she said something great or memorable? Or was it because she did something horrible or embarrassing? There’s no other way to know other than to open the e-mail!

The Body Now, the body of the message is the tricky part here... It should never be scripted because what should deliver to the girl is your personality. So instead of examples, here are some tips on what to include in the body of your e-mail: 1. Something about her profile - Perhaps there was a wrong spelling or incorrect grammar in her profile there? Perhaps you can tease her about it in a playful way. Maybe she made a statement in her profile that allows you to comment on in a casual way. Perhaps make a comment about how her sense of adventure is appealing because she posted a photo of her travels to Europe. Something like “Hey, I see you like to travel. Was that picture taken in Rome?”. This will tell her that you have actually read her profile and second, that you noticed something in her pictures and made an observation about it. Maybe there is simply something interesting in what she has mentioned in her profile. Tell her but make it casual. Again, we want to avoid mentioning anything about her looks. It is assumed that because you are engaging her that you are attracted to her physically, but she doesn't need to know that just yet. 2. Be casual - Introduce yourself but don't give too much away. Be somewhat mysterious, but still show your sense of humor. In other words, make it short! 3. Flirt - It won’t be good if your message doesn't have the element of flirtation. After all, that’s the reason why you’re contacting her: to know whether you’re a good match for each other or not! 4. About her, about you - As much as possible, include the both of you in the message. What qualities she has that match yours and vice versa. This will make her think of the possibilities, too! 5. Be courteous - Never disrespect the girl. Sure, you want to be funny and perhaps insert a few naughty innuendos here and there but be very careful. Poke little innocuous jabs at her when you write to her-teasingly playing with her. Make a comment about an outfit she is wearing but be funny about it. Don’t be mean. Just ensure it is

somewhat of a backhanded compliment. No woman wants to be mistreated, especially by a complete stranger!

The Ending The ending of your e-mail should be a form of sales-pitch. Give her the contact number you’ll be comfortable in handing out, or perhaps the social media account you have. The thing here is make it clear that you want to be in contact with her-- plain and simple. There are no hidden tricks, the sincerity in your conclusion will perform better than any scripted one-liners as an ending.

Example of An Effective Email: A nice email should be simple. Something like, “Hey, I kind of liked your profile. You seem pretty cool. Ah, but don’t think you are going to win my affections that easy. You are going to have to work for it. I’d like to get to know you better.” Or try this: If you notice the girl misspelled something in her profile. Subject:” You probably don't know this, but your profile has....” -Begin emailHey, I kind of liked your profile, and you sound like someone I might want to get to know better. You seem like and interesting girl. Tell me more about (something she wrote in her profile). Your name P.S. You probably don't know this, but it was your misspelling of the word (insert word here) in your profile that first got my attention. -End emailLet’s recap what I did. When a woman’s got 20 + other emails from guys coming in like clockwork everyday who are all trying to impress her, if you’re trying to do the same, odds are that she’s not going to respond. You need to say the same thing, but in a SPECIFIC way. You don’t want to just hit on her because that is what every other guy is trying to do. You want to come off different. Rule number one, you want to get your emailed opened. It all starts from this point. If she doesn’t open the email, your efforts were futile. In this case, we use the subject line, “you probably don't know this, but your profile has...”….. Has what? The only way for the girl to find out is to open the email -and by doing so, you’ve accomplished your first goal. The body of the email is cool, not confrontational. It shows I am interested in her, but still not quite sure about her. The ending is the ‘jab’ that you send to her. It is a subtle way to poke fun at her. And at

that point, its like ending a conversation with someone, turning your back, and then saying, “Oh, by the way…” Well, I hope you all get the gist of what I’m saying. It all stems from confidence and approach. If you follow my lead, women will sense that you are of strong mind and personal authority. The hottest women don’t like wimps, so don’t be one.

Other Techniques Aside from the above-mentioned things, you should also incorporate other techniques that are proven effective: 1. Find an Online Dating Site that works for YOU There are a lot of online dating sites, which one do you think will work for you? There are sites that offer hook-ups, sites that offer only casual dating, sites that encourage long-term commitments. As for now, what are you looking for? 2. Create the best profile If you want to be successful, then dedicate time for your profile. 3. Be patient You have to be patient. The girl that caught your eye will definitely catch the eyes of others as well. That’s why it is important to send her the best e-mail message you can create. If you do not get a response, don’t be frustrated. It’s not because your e-mail sucks, it’s probably because she got 500 messages in a week or so that she has not visited her profile! 4. Online vs. Real Time Don’t be too blinded by the conveniences of online dating. As much as possible try to reach out to her in a personal level-- literally. If you feel that the time is right, ask her out on a date! 5. Don’t rely too much on the suggestions As we have discussed earlier, most online dating sites offer suggestions or 'daily matches' based on the information you have given. If not matches or suggestions, then they have statistics (available mostly on paid sites). Although it’s good to have them, don’t rely too much on the data! It’s still better if you’ll hand pick the girl.

Chapter 9 Texting Game Gentlemen, welcome to the home stretch. Now there will be a lot more on actually applying the concepts that have been discussed and that are to be discussed. Stay locked in and don’t give up now! You’re on the way to actually change your life so let’s get it done. Inturn to get that done, texting is what this chapter is all about. The one thing that I realized when it came to using all of these concepts is that people get good at them in person; but then when they get to texting that same beautiful woman, they just have no clue what to say and how to use the content in that way. That is why I am making this chapter, because if you know how to create attraction in a person but don’t know how to text, it doesn’t matter; it is over for you. Stay focused and take this all-in gentleman. The first thing that I want to emphasize with texting in general, is the importance of your mindset. It is important to not just try to look up texting tricks for getting girls or to find texts already made that you just copy. This is stupid. First of all, most likely, the texts that you find won’t really fit the conversation and she’ll be a little confused and feel like she isn’t talking to the real you, because she isn’t. Second of all, looking up tricks for texting makes you come across as very incongruent. Some psychological strategies are used during texting and I will teach you them but if you do not first have the proper mindset, they’ll blow up in your face too. Women are not stupid and you can’t just trick them into liking you by using other people’s texts and using “tricks” from so-called dating gurus. Instead, focus on having the qualification and abundance mindsets throughout the entire texting period that you have with her. This will consistently keep you on the correct path when adding in anything else and will keep the momentum and personality that you portrayed to her in person. You’ll be congruent and she’ll like you a hell of a lot more than someone faking it all to get her into bed. The alpha mindset (basically keeping in mind everything I teach and learning more and more) will not fail you. Stay focused, and it will happen for you.

I want to get into some strategies that you can use that actually work now. They work because they have been researched a lot throughout psychology, and they have been proven to work in most cases. So, let’s jump in. The first strategy that you can use to make sure that you portray high value is to not text her all the time. Many guys respond right away and all the time to the girl that they like. They think giving her this attention is making her more attracted to them. Hint: it isn’t. Every other fucking man is doing the same thing. What you need to do instead is draw her in and then disappear being busy with your own life. Don’t make this girl your source of happiness and number one thing in your life. She doesn’t deserve that kind of power first of all, and second of all, she doesn’t want that power. She wants you to be a high-quality male that has stuff going on in his life and she wants you to be interesting. If you get her interested in a conversation and then go do something else, not only will she be left hanging and wanting more, but she’ll also respect that you have other things that you have to do. Following that, she will gain much more attraction for you. If she complains about your lack of responding, this is actually a good thing. It shows that she cares if you are talking to her or not which means she is definitely interested or you are deep in the friendzone. Follow what I have said and it will be the former. Now for the gist of all this information, I really just want to preach that it is important to not respond all the time and right away to women and to instead get busy with your life and come across as a more interesting person. Here is another huge tip for you: think “would she feel compelled to respond to this message?” whenever you are texting. This works off of what I said in the previous paragraph. A lot of guys will send a lot of fluff (unneeded information) and meaningless texts to women (what’s up, hey, how are you, etc.). They say the same thing that every other guy does and then wonder why it doesn’t work. You have to be unique, to the point, interesting, etc. Instead of asking her out to a movie, say “I want to take you somewhere I think you’ll find fun. But it is a secret”. Don’t say “Would you want to do something tonight?”. That is so fucking boring and she feels no real need to

respond. With the first one however, she will feel compelled to respond because it is so interesting. You see where I am going with this? It keeps her on her toes and curious. Keeping her curious is a great thing because it means that you are mysterious, and girls love guys with some mystery behind them. Remember that. So, whenever you are texting a girl, make sure that most texts would be something that she would actually want to respond to. This gets rid of fluff (which will ruin attraction) and keeps her interested the entire time. Now continuing on with texting strategies, I want to emphasize one specific thing again: the importance of not agreeing with everything that she (or anyone) says. This is a part of qualification again, but it is even more important to keep in mind when texting. Why? It is so much easier for a woman to get bored when texting. If you just agree with everything that she says then she will not only get bored; but she will lose attraction for you and stop talking to you. On top of that, you’ll be very incongruent and uninteresting, and you won’t even see if she’s a good fit for you. Do yourself a favor and stop being a very agreeable person. It really isn’t attractive to anyone so get far away from it. The next idea that I want to talk about is the actual content of what you send. The content of your messages should be mostly questions because they get the woman investing and talking. However, they shouldn’t just be any old questions. They have to be unique, interesting, thought provoking, and tie in some kind of emotion. Now every text and every question does not have to have all of those qualities, but they should all have some of them sprinkled in. The more, the better, as long as it still sounds natural. Don’t send anything that doesn’t seem natural to you. Basically, keep your texts interesting and filled with interesting messages that are specifically designed by you to attract her using different psychological concepts. All while keeping your personality and who you truly are at heart. This all is very important. I have already discussed the idea of not responding right away and to stay busy and be interesting in your life. To continue on with

that idea,i have another detailed topic related to that. I want to give you a general rule. It is to invest a little bit less into the conversation than she is whenever possible to keep her as the chaser. This means that if she takes an hour to respond, you take an hour and a half. If she takes three hours, then you take five. Don’t be too predictable with the amount of time you take to respond though but follow that rule with the amount of time in-between messages. You can also follow this rule when it comes to the amount of texting too. If she is sending one sentence at a time, then you do the same or less. If she is sending paragraphs, then send smaller paragraphs back. This makes her feel like she hasn’t truly won you over yet, but she may be close. Once in a while invest more and then take it away and she will work so hard to get it back. Give her more attention when she says or does things that you like and give her less attention when she says or does things that you don’t. This is the most effective strategy for keeping her attraction but as a rule of thumb, at least just make sure to invest a little less overall than she does, at most times. Following that, another great strategy that I want to discuss with you is being spontaneous. Most men don’t realize how effective and important this is. Women are attracted to being put on an emotional rollercoaster as weird as that sounds and being random and spontaneous keeps her on her toes at all times. Yes, you do want to keep structure to the relationship and your life as a whole; but it is very important to do things that are out of the ordinary or are unexpected. This will make the women that you are talking to much more attracted to you. Every woman likes a different amount of spontaneity but almost all women need it to an extent in order to remain attracted to someone for a longer period of time. The number one reason that relationships die is because the spark dies. The spark may die because things just aren’t interesting anymore. That is the exact reason that you want to remain spontaneous whenever you can. It develops and keeps attraction, which is exactly what you want. This can include random gifts, random dates, changing the routine, etc. It is also important to do this over text obviously. One of

my favorite things to do is send texts or responses over text that make sense but are also not expected at all. For example, I will say “shitting” when asked “what’s up?”. It makes sense but she doesn’t see it coming. You have to own it however or it will not be funny or work. Another helpful strategy is to make your length of messages and time that you take to respond random once in a while too. It’ll throw her off a bit but it’ll just increase the attraction overall for both of you. Therefore, be spontaneous. Now that I have talked about most of the basic texting strategies, it is important to understand exactly what not to do. What you should not do is become her texting buddy. Do not let her text you all the time to complain about other boys. Do not be at her beck and call. Do not let her lead the conversation too much but instead, stay in control yourself. Do not respond to her right way. All of these things put you directly into the friendzone. No man ever wants to be in the friendzone, so here’s a little tip. Stop acting like a friend. That is exactly what a texting buddy is and what a lot of men become to women. They try to attract a woman by being her “friend”. If you want her to like you, why would you act like all you want is a friendship? She’s obviously going to treat you like a friend if that is how you frame the interaction. Don’t be her texting buddy and make the mistakes that I mentioned in this paragraph, and instead, follow what I have said the rest of this chapter. Please. Don’t throw it an interaction away because you can’t text correctly because that would be no fun. Also, as a little note because I didn’t cover it: when calling or video chatting, keep all the same mindsets as in person, but it isn’t as complicated as texting can be.

Chapter 10 How to Pre-Select and Court Women Approaching Women, The Right Way “You are who you date” Hello and welcome to this chapter. We'll be learning how to properly set dates and seal the deal with women -a.k.a. hooking up. We will also discuss Apex male time management techniques. When it comes to the pre-selection and the courting of women, it is absolutely essential that you know exactly what it is you want in a woman. What it is you want with the interaction. I would typically advise a lot of gentlemen to start with one thing in mind, especially when you are beginning to learn this process-Sex. Okay, I know how it sounds, but a lot of women are just as horny if not hornier than the guys. So gone are the days in which men thought they were the only horndogs. Ladies need sex as well and a lot of them gravitate towards the sexuality embodied in a masculine man. This brings us back to the three Ms. Make a date, make her laugh and make love. It’s almost impossible to develop any strong emotional attachment to a woman without the sexual element and not just any sexual interaction, you've got to give her the ride of her life. These are the pros, which are the qualities you embody as well and also desire in a woman. Then write 10 more things you absolutely cannot deal with. These are the cons. If you have not done that you need to go back and do this exercise. Use the activity sheet provided in this book or your own diary. The point of this exercise is to have written documentation, so you know exactly what it is you want. This helps your subconscious and higher self, conspire and deliver it to you Look at the pros and the cons, the stuff you want and the stuff you don't want and do so periodically. In the morning just as soon as you

wake up, glance at the list, just as you peruse a few other goals you may have written down for your business and personal development. Have a look at these things and internalize them because it's important. You need to realize that the caliber of women in your life is so critical to your journey, to your own prosperity and success and to the fulfillment of your purpose. The kind of people you surround yourself with is extremely important. In fact, the adage “show me five of your closest friends and associates and I will show you who you are” could not be any truer. You are typically a compendium of the five people you spend the most time with. And if you're going to be spending time with numerous women, they have to be quality women that embody not just the physical traits you desire but also the spiritual, emotional and financial traits. So, don't be shy. Don't feel like you need to hold back when you are putting this list together. If you want the women in your life to be financially stable then you need to make it clear on that list. If you want her to look in a particular way or have a certain level of beauty, then go for it. What you find is that when you have preselected your preference, are patient and do the work on yourself, the right kind of women will begin to gravitate into your life as a result of the Law of Attraction. You are going to begin to see viable women pop into your life and create opportunities for you to interact with them. This is the secret of pre-selection. Don't just go into the game of life in a shotgun fashion, only going after whatever comes your way. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything and that is the same with women. As you get more experience in this game you will realize that you have so much choice with women, hence you have to be quite granular and specific about what it is you want. So, you need to have standards and you need to have a preselective mindset.

I personally think online dating is a good way to start for those of you who are still cutting their teeth with this process. It offers you quite a selection of different women and you can begin to interact with them. What you will generally be looking for are high levels of interest and attraction from the very start. With some women, you can build the interest up gradually, but let’s keep things simple. We want this to be an exciting process for you. A painless process, as it should be. Why should you or anybody waste their time with someone with a low interest in them? You are more valuable than that. You’re more important and elegant than that. When you put together all the sub-processes, like the way you talk, dress, smile, smell, walk and you've got in your head exactly the kind of woman you're looking for, success is inevitable. You're going to vibrate in such a way that women will begin to notice something vibrant and incredibly attractive about you. Because you are walking with confidence, understanding, discernment, and purpose, They are no longer the ones pre-selecting you. Make no mistake about it women are masters of preselection. So, when you flip the game back at them, it gives you the power. Power switches back into your able hands. A lot of men don't do this. They follow their dicks. Women can never really understand this type of behavior in beta males because women are the masters of preselection. They know within moments whether you're their type or not. They know within moments whether they want to fuck you or not. Yes, men do know and do have the same powers of discerning who they would like to fuck, however for mainly different reasons. She's got phat ass, she's got a pretty face or she's got nice tits. With most women, their intuition works differently. It's about the energy you exude. They think "Oh he's kind of cute and he makes me feel really nice.”

So, pre-selection is king. If you're finding women from online dating sites, your profile should be succinct, maintaining your mystery. Have a picture or two showing your fun side. They should be showing you as an active person with a bit of social proof. What you are ideally waiting for is the right woman to message you first. This indicates a high level of interest. A lot of times with online dating, it really depends on how high quality your pictures look. The same goes for women. There are some women that'll put up pictures that are not an accurate representation of what they look like currently. Which is why at the initial meeting you have to gauge what you see when you meet the woman. If she is not what she represented herself as in her profile then you are within your right to end the date because you've pre-selected what you want. Plus you're setting your standards and your boundaries regarding what and who enters into your life. You are an Apex man. So ideally, she's going to message you first and then you're going to reply and kick back and forth with her very briefly. You're not there to chit and chat because you can’t create rapport via messaging. You can only initiate it. Don’t be a cold fish though. Ask questions that do not betray your interest but lets her know you see her as a human being like yourself. Be charming, fun and calm. When she messages you first, reply with something like "Nice, thank you for sending me that email or message. I like your profile. Can you tell me what you love to do for fun? She's going to hit back with a response. Wait for the response. Never double text a woman. That is needy behavior. If she does not respond to your message, forget about it. Something's wrong somewhere. You have to out-wait women. Sometimes they don't reply immediately on purpose just to test how needy or otherwise you are. So, when you send a message you must wait for a response before you send another one. It's like ping pong. Now when she responds you can ask for her number. Ask her

to call you or promise to call her and get off the chat. Call her not earlier than 36 hrs. afterward. Speak for a few moments on the phone to further gauge her personality and then end it by saying "I would like us to get together, when are you free later this week or next?" When she answers, fix a date and then you fix a time and place to meet. Then get off the phone. Give her time and space to wonder about you between the date, which is why are you fix it for three to five days after the call. Plan to meet women in social situations in the real world and not just through online means. I recommend you have initially a nice healthy mix of the two. However, don't live your life online alone. Yes, online dating is perfect for a busy person and offers an avenue for getting access to a lot of women. This enables you to practice these techniques and get better. This is especially useful for guys who have trepidity in regard to real-world approaches. In normal real-world approaches, you are ideally looking for body language and choosing signals. You are looking at whether a woman is willing to make eye contact or if she's smiling at you. Those subtle physical gestures will tell you if she's open to being approached. If she is showing you those choosing indicators, you must walk up to her straight away without hesitation. If you hesitate you masturbate. Move straight up to her and open up with: " Hi what's your name?". She'll likely give you her name. If she's bold and interested enough she will ask you for your name. This is also a strong indication of interest from her and you must banter back and forth a little bit and then end the conversation first by saying "okay it was lovely speaking to you, but I have got to run now. I would love to see you again. What's your number?” Said with enough conviction and boldness she will give you her number, especially if her initial interest is high. If she refuses then you should take it calmly. "No problem, it was nice meeting you anyway, have a nice day.”

It's not the end of the world if a woman doesn't give you a number or rejects your advances. Some are attention whores and approaches are a good way of weeding them out. This is a numbers game. And you will find as you continue to make approaches that you get more confident and you get more hits. If you do get her number you will move on with your purpose and give her a call in a couple of days not straight away. You don't call her the next day like 90% of guys would. You call her two to three days afterward to create that anticipation. You are just going to say "hey this is such and such how are you doing?". No reminders of where you met. This conveys your importance and that you expect her to remember who you. Don't act cheap with women. Doesn't matter if you have got a million dollars or not in the bank. Don't act cheap regardless. Take yourself as someone of value. Take yourself as confident and assured. Not arrogant. Assured. You must be that self-assured. Women love it. A lot of women say they hate cocky guys but take a look at the type of people these gorgeous women end up dating. Not Mr. Nice guys So, what women say they want and what they are attracted to are not necessarily the same thing. Make a mental note of that So, in regard to pre-selection and courting women effectively you understand the need and importance of pre-selection which is knowing exactly what you want. The physical, mental and emotional attributes of the woman you desire. This is so when she comes into your life, your spider senses begin to pick up on it. Because you already know what you want, that's the power of pre-selection. The importance of setting dates and using the phone to set those dates only and not to create rapport is quite important. We've touched on that. We've also touched on the importance of the sexual act and how it is critical in engaging women emotionally. We have discussed how to drastically improve your chances of making love on the first date by taking her to several places to

simulate the experience of multiple dates since most women will typically sleep with a gentleman on the second to third date. Take her to a few places in one night and you will dramatically improve your chances of sleeping with her or sealing the deal on the first night. Afterwards, she will typically text or call you thanking you for a lovely date, Simply say "your welcome, I had a good time as well" and use that as an opportunity to set another date for three to five days in the future. This is important for the Apex man’s time management, because when a woman calls you and you set a date and then get off the phone it gives you so much time not only to circulate among multiple women but also to spend time on what really matters which is your purpose, your business, your family, your career or what drives you as a man. At the end of a date never attempt to set another date while on the date. Some men will start asking the girl when they would like to see them again. There's no need for that. To her, it screams and communicates neediness, like this never happens to you. Women can sniff out neediness like a bloodhound and it repels them. It's part of their pre-selection mechanism for evolutionary purposes. You are NOT constantly on the phone wasting time, chatting with women unnecessarily and talking them out of sleeping with you or talking them out of liking you. Realize that attraction is automatic. You cannot simulate attraction. Attraction is organic. Attraction is not a choice. It’s symptomatic. All you can do is uncover it. This is why you need to circulate with women because you never know the caliber of women that can actually be attracted to you when you are vibrating as your true self- as an Apex man. In summary to preselect and court women entail having a list of what you are looking for. Being able to set a date and then getting off the phone and not using the messaging and emails as a form of rapport creation but only for setting dates.

The hack that enables you to seal the deal on the first date or improves your chances radically is taking women to multiple places on the first date. Now you have to realize that at the end of the day to keep things simple and to keep you managing your time effectively as an Apex man, all you need to do is rinse and repeat the process. Make a date, make her laugh, make Love. And then when she calls you, thanking you for the date always use it as an opportunity to set the next date. Assume she's contacting you because she wants to feel your masculine core again. It becomes automatic. It becomes a lifestyle and becomes so easy, so effortless. And that is how to pre-select and court women effectively

Chapter 11 Behaviors And Habits For Better Results What to do differently in order to change your dating life and the results you get with women…

Don’t Be A Girly Man The term “girly man” is NOT something I made up or I’m using to sound funny. I’m not intending that a woman’s behavior is inferior to a man’s and I’m also not referring to men who dress up in drag or anything weird in that sense. I learned this term “girly man” FROM WOMEN I’ve met to describe a guy who doesn’t have it together when it comes to attraction. A guy who’s “too nice”, clingy, needy, and overly sensitive and emotional. A guy who will inevitably end up in the “friend zone”. This is NOT the type of guy women want. This behavior not only causes women to lose ALL attraction and NEVER care to see him again, but these women also feel the need to tell their girlfriends and OTHER MEN how lame this guy is and how he’ll never have another chance with her. That sucks! Yes, WOMEN ACTUALLY DO THIS, especially with their girlfriends. So, what is it that causes women to someone a “girly man”? In one way or another, it’s failing to communicate you’re a strong, dominant, independent, and secure male. Your behavior and habits communicate weakness and your weakness causes her to compare you to a female. Weakness sends women RUNNING in the other direction and ruins your chances of succeeding with the women you want. Men who consistently have success with women and don’t struggle to get dates with great women have worked hard to rid themselves of weakness and “girly man” behaviors. I got called a girly man many years ago by a girl I really liked.

I was acting like a wuss, complaining that she didn’t give me attention, complained about how she chose other men over me, and a bunch of other embarrassing things. When she called me a “girly man” and I heard the disgust in her voice when she said it, it opened my eyes to my behavior and habits. It opened my eyes to my lack of emotional control. It opened my eyes to my neediness and clinginess. And because of that, I worked REALLY HARD to make the appropriate changes so I never get called a “girly man” again. You can do the same. Stop being so emotional. Stop being so needy and clingy. Stop whining and complaining. Stop doing things that make you look and sound like a pussy, wuss, pansy, and “girly man”.

Never Chase Women A lot of men say things like, “back when I was a youngster, I was busy chasing tail.” I don’t believe in “chasing” women. It’s more destructive than it is productive. A lot of women SAY they like persistent men but then get annoyed and turned off by men who never let up or get the hint. Being too persistent makes you look needy and desperate. It might work 1 out of 100 times, but is it really worth all that trouble? No way. And what is being too persistent? Calling if she doesn’t call back, showing up at her place, buying things to show how much you like her, constantly asking her out, etc. You shouldn’t push the subject if she doesn’t seem interested. Take those hints she’s giving you. Like the dog and cat story, when you RELAX and almost ignore women, they’ll likely CHASE YOU. Don’t put all your energy into believing that persistence and determination alone will impress women and cause them to want to be with you. Grant Cardone, a friend who I really admire, said that he called his wife and asked her to go out with him once a week for 27 weeks straight! In his case, it worked and she gave in. But in most cases, don’t expect that to happen. The effort made on both sides should be equal.

Apologize Only When Necessary When interacting with women we really like, it’s easy to become selfconscious and over apologetic if we’re afraid of offending her and scaring her away. Becoming too self-conscious and over apologetic communicates we’re weak and unsure of ourselves. Apologizing is also a form of approval seeking because we’re apologizing so she won’t disapprove of us. Am I right? We’ve all done it. Don’t be concerned with getting approval and NEVER apologize for who you are. Women notice when we’re being a “girly man” and apologizing too much and it doesn’t help to build the attraction. It destroys it. The exception to the rule is that it’s VERY POWERFUL and humble to swallow your pride and apologize when you’re clearly in the wrong. No matter how hard it is to do. It shows maturity. Women feel much more attraction when you can set aside your ego and be authentic. Now if she’s mad because you were brutally honest and called her out on her shitty behavior – something most men are afraid of doing, then don’t apologize because you think you hurt her feelings. She’ll get over it and respect your honesty. If you apologize for being mean and honest, you’re communicating weakness and that it’s OK for her to behave in that manner. Big no no. Stand your ground.

Never Manipulate Women A lot of men are good at building attraction through various forms of deception and manipulation – something I’ve never agreed with. Manipulating and deceiving women is cowardly. The ONLY REASON we would need to deceive or manipulate a woman would be because we’re AFRAID she wouldn’t like us otherwise. You think women are attracted to cowardly men? No way! What do I mean by manipulation? I mean lying, exaggerating, and twisting stories and situations to make ourselves look better and sound more interesting so she’ll think we’re awesome. I’ve known a few men like this in my life and even though they may have gotten away with it for a while, it eventually caught up to them. They developed a very bad reputation with women as a LIAR. Once you develop a reputation as a liar and a manipulator just to get what you want, you’ll always find that women will want nothing to do with you and they’ll NEVER trust you. When we lie, exaggerate, fabricate stories, and we’re not authentic, it communicates we have low ethics and values and we don’t respect her or ourselves. And if you want to attract women who don’t lie to you, cheat on you, manipulate you, or exaggerate things, it’s important not to do it yourself. Remember, YOU ARE THE WOMAN ON YOUR ARM and the way you are with women is exactly how they’re going to be with you. If you lie and manipulate, that’s the kind of women you will attract.

Examples Of Being Manipulative (Yes men really do this!) Borrowing a friend’s house or car and saying you own it Lying about who you know Lying about your occupation/ hobbies/ past Telling a woman, you have similar interests as her when you actually don’t Lying about the women in your life As the old saying goes, “Honesty is always the best policy.” Even if the truth sucks and you know it might piss her off, don’t exaggerate, lie, or be manipulative. Suck it up and deal with it the right way. But wait… What about when we buy a woman drinks at the bar in hopes that she’ll loosen up and go home with us? Or what about when we give women compliments and buy flowers and gifts to make her like, approve of us, and think we’re a nice guy? Is that manipulation? Of course, it is. WE’RE NOT BEING STRAIGHTFORWARD AND HONEST ABOUT OUR INTENTIONS. We’re being SNEAKY about it. Most of the time, we don’t really mean it when we compliment her, and we don’t’ really want to buy her drinks or flowers - we do it to be sneaky. We do it to persuade her to like us and think we’re a nice guy. I have the most success with women when I’m straightforward and I don’t try to cover up my intentions with her. I DON’T SNEAK AROUND IT. I just come right out with it.

Start paying attention and notice when you’re being manipulative and learn to be straightforward and DIRECT about what you want. When you stop being manipulative, women will TRUST YOU and be more attracted to you because they know you’re not trying to be sneaky or weird about anything.

Learn To Say “No” Once again, why do so many of us have SUCH A HARD TIME telling a beautiful woman “no”? Because we’re AFRAID of her disapproving of us! Noticing the cycle yet? When you do learn to say “no” to women, especially a woman you like, something magical happens: she becomes EVEN MORE attracted to you! But how? Women don’t want a “yes man”. Some will take a “yes man” and use the poor guy for everything he’s got, but not all women do this. Women WANT Boundaries Now, this may sound a little strange, but she wants to know her limits with you. She wants to know you have a backbone, you’re going to draw the line, and not going to let her walk all over you. I’ve lost count of the number of women who have told me something like, “I hate that you don’t let me have my way! But that’s also what I REALLY like about you. Most guys just say yes to everything I want because they don’t have any balls.” Dead serious. Women say stuff like this! Contrary to what you’ve heard, women do not enjoy being told “yes” to everything. Think of it this way: A little girl who gets everything she wants from her daddy and has no boundaries becomes spoiled, rotten, and HAS LESS RESPECT for her dad and less appreciation for the things he gets her and allows her to do.

BUT, a little girl who is told “no”, is given boundaries, and isn’t spoiled by her dad will have more love and respect for him and she’ll have MORE APPRECIATION for the things he gets her and allows her to do. Not much is different with a grown woman because she still has those child-like tendencies to need boundaries and have limits set. That little girl who climbs all over her daddy is still in there. If you say “yes” to EVERYTHING, she gets spoiled, loses respect for you, and doesn’t appreciate you or what you do for her. If you learn to say “no” and set boundaries, she’ll have more respect and appreciation for you and won’t walk all over you. Being a “yes man” only causes the women you like to lose attraction for you but learning to say “no” causes women to be more attracted to you.

Stop Seeking Permission Women don’t want us asking permission to be who we’re going to be or do what we’re going to do. Saying, “I got to get permission from the Mrs.” Or “I got to check in with the boss” communicates weakness and a lack of dominance in a relationship. I believe it’s important to discuss things with the woman you’re dating or in a relationship with, but you shouldn’t need to get her permission to do things like she’s your mother. She should respect you and give you your space to be an adult and make the right decisions in her absence. Getting her permission for everything you do isn’t going to increase the attraction. Many of us also think we have to ask if “it’s ok” to hold her hand, kiss her, touch her, etc. Women want a man who takes charge, takes a chance, and doesn’t seek permission to do anything. A woman would MUCH RATHER you lean in to kiss her and her turn away than for you to ask if “it’s ok” to kiss her. She’d rather you hold her hand or put your arm around her WITHOUT asking if “it’s ok”. Asking permission makes many women feel weird and uncomfortable around us. As you’ve learned, women don’t want us to care about approval or what she thinks of us. WOMEN ARE FLATTERED when we take charge. I was in a bar one night and I noticed a beautiful woman sitting alone. I walked over, looked her in the eyes, grabbed her hand and said, “Come with me really quick.”

Without hesitation, she smiled, said, “Oh ok”, got up, and followed me to where my friends and I were sitting. She was cool with it. I didn’t act like a “girly man” and ask her if “it was ok”. I took charge and took a chance. If she would’ve said “no” and told me to go away, I would’ve looked stupid. I was ok with taking that chance. That’s the risk associated with not asking permission but it’s not going to kill you. It doesn’t hurt to be assertive. When doing anything, if you act like “it’s no big deal”, she won’t see it as a big deal but IF you do something without asking and she’s not cool with it, don’t get weird and apologetic. Just be cool and relaxed about it and she won’t make a big deal of it. Make sense? So, if you want to INSTANTLY spark attraction with women, stop asking permission to do things. Just do them. IMPORTANT: I’m NOT talking about being rude, disrespectful, or inconsiderate in any way and I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH WOMEN WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. Rape is a serious issue and a serious crime. I would never condone it. "Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another." Madonna Ciccone

Don’t Be Her Girlfriend If you, for sure, want to live in the dreaded “friend zone”, then acting like you’re best friends with a woman you want to be more than friends with or acting like one of her girlfriends will for sure get you there. Many of us make the mistake of thinking if we act like a really cool friend, be supportive, always be there for her, listen to her problems about other guys, go shopping with her, take her wherever she wants, and agree with everything she says and does, that we’ll be able to slip under the radar and get her in bed. I’ve only seen this work IN THE MOVIES. In the world we live in, she isn’t going to feel any sort of attraction for you if you act like her “girlfriend”. She’s just going to think you’re “nice” to hang out with. But there will be nothing in the attraction department. Want to hear something even worse? SHE WON’T TELL YOU that you don’t have a chance with her. She’ll just keep stringing you along until you figure it out. Some women are afraid to hurt your feelings and that’s why they don’t speak up. They don’t want to feel guilty in any way for breaking your heart. They don’t want to have to deal with the tension and drama that comes with it.

How Do You Unknowingly Become Her Girlfriend? 1. Being too available. Don’t be the guy who will be there for her any time day or night. It doesn’t present a challenge to her. 2. Letting her drag you along shopping with her or any activity that doesn’t involve guys. That’s when you should hang back and tell her to go by herself. 3. Listening to her tell you about other guys she likes hoping that she’ll like you and think you’re “nice” for listening. NEVER give a woman advice on guys either. That’s NOT your department if you’re trying to attract her. 4. Agreeing with everything she says and does. When you never disagree with women, they see you as “fake” and desperate for approval. 5. Having too much in common with her. Don’t be the “me too!” guy who thinks he’s going to get laid because he has so much in common with a woman. It never works. 6. Being her taxi or her ATM. Giving a woman a ride or money whenever she calls or snaps her fingers is the best way to make sure SHE NEVER feels attraction for you.

Don’t Try Fixing Her Problems Sure, a knight in shining armor who comes in, swoops her off of her feet, and makes all her problems go away sounds lovely... but is it going to help us attract a woman we really like? Well, first of all, the problem she’s facing isn’t ours. It’s hers. She created it SO it’s up to her to fix it. Second, if we try to be the hero and rescue her from something, SHE BROUGHT ON HERSELF, we’re taking away her responsibility and the opportunity to become more mature and grow up a little. We’re ENABLING her to make problems and not have to deal with them in a responsible manner. Is that helping? No way! Many of us have big hearts and we don’t want to see a woman we care about struggling with a problem that we can easily make go away. But even though we can easily fix it, letting her fix her own problems IS NOT going to make her feel less attraction for us. She’ll actually appreciate that we kept our nose out of it and didn’t screw it all up or make it worse. It definitely earns cool points. So, when a woman has issues, don’t interfere with her life, get involved in her affairs, or be a hero. Let her clean up the mess she makes in her own life. You can help by offering some advice but leave it at that.

Stop Giving Women Your Money I don’t know why many of us think we can buy our way to a woman’s heart or she will like us more if we help her out by giving her money. I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We all have. Scientists even tried teaching monkeys the concept of using money and found out the male monkeys were giving the female monkeys their money for attention and sex! Of course, letting women use you as an ATM definitely keeps them around, but it’s always for the wrong reasons. She won’t respect you and she’ll lose interest FAST if she knows she can use you to bail out of her own financial responsibilities. The same is true with paying her bills for her. If she falls behind, it’s not your fault. Let it be. Don’t give her money or pay her bills to get her approval. Ultimately, women will feel more attraction for you if you know when to say “no” and not let them use you or take advantage of you. They’ll respect you more and won’t see you as a guy they can use.

Never Use Women To Get Your Friends’ Approval A lot of us like to kiss and tell. “Dude you won’t believe the chick I was with last night!” Or “You’ve got to see this girl I’m talking to!” Why do we do this? Because we want the approval of other people. We want them to think we’re cool so they’ll look up to us and tell other people how cool we are. I used to do this A LOT, and from experience, it never got me any approval and it didn’t make my friends like me more or think I was cooler than anyone else. So, don’t date women just to BE SEEN with them and to feel like you’re better than other guys. Date women because you genuinely like them and you don’t care who does or doesn’t see you with them. Not needing your friends’ approval WILL cause them to look up to you more, think more highly of you, and be impressed when you DO bring hot women around.

Don’t Be The Guy Who’s Nicer Than All The Others Yes, I know you’ve heard it over and over and over but you’re going to hear it again… quit being such a nice guy! I’m not saying to be a complete jerk but stop thinking that being really sweet and pleasing women will get you in their pants. Women find it ANNOYING and can’t “feel” attraction for a “super nice” guy. And on top of that, WOMEN DON’T WANT US TO KISS THEIR ASS. They don’t want us to put them on a pedestal. They don’t want to see us as “too nice”. Forget the stuff you heard from your mom and other people about women liking guys who are nice and treat them like princesses. It’s NOT TRUE. This bad information has screwed up a lot of our dating lives and if this belief wasn’t so widespread, we wouldn’t struggle and screw up so much with women! Being a super “nice guy” doesn’t cause her to “feel” any sort of emotion for us. It doesn’t cause her to “feel” any DEEP ATTRACTION that she would feel around a jerk or a bad boy. Find a really nice guy who treats women like they’re better than him and ask him how many times he’s been cheated on. Go ahead I’ll wait… What you’ll find is that women leave him for other guys PRETTY OFTEN. Here’s an example: A while back my buddy came to visit me and brought an attractive woman with him that said they were just “friends”.

I had been busy all-day getting things done and my head was in 10 different places at once. So, when I met her, I wasn’t super nice and friendly. I was just “whatever” and said “hi”, introduced myself, and went on about my business and didn’t pay her much attention. Later that day, my buddy asked if I was ok and that she was concerned I didn’t like her because she didn’t feel welcomed and I wasn’t being “nice” to her. I told him everything was fine and that I didn’t mean to be rude and I just had a lot on my mind. Then, that night while we were playing beer pong, I told her I didn’t mean to be rude and she’s totally cool and welcome in my home. But I still wasn’t incredibly friendly and I wasn’t kissing her ass. What happened? She practically ignored buddy who was being “nice” and trying to impress her and was paying a lot more attention to me. I’m not trying to sound cocky or arrogant about this because he’s one of my best friends in the whole world and I would never attempt to steal a woman away from him. It was her behavior in response to my behavior that I was observing. I didn’t intend for that to happen but that story reinforces the fact that women naturally respond better to men who treat her like a normal person than to be overly nice and attentive to her. What I learned when I started treating women like NORMAL human beings and I quit treating them like they were better than every woman I’ve ever met, THEY FELT MORE ATTRACTION FOR ME. I also learned that I was “nice” to women because I was terribly afraid of them disapproving of me. Being “too nice” makes women feel weird and uncomfortable. They’d MUCH RATHER you be little mean than to be the nicest guy they’ve ever met.

I want you to think hard about this stuff and QUIT CARING about getting her approval. I promise you, she isn’t going to run away if you don’t kiss her ass. It’s important to show interest, but don’t put her on a pedestal. If you’re not the nicest guy she’s ever met, TRUST ME, the chances of her running off with some other guy are A LOT SLIMMER than if you kiss her ass and try to be the guy who’s nicer than all the others. “Women are not vending machines that you put kindness coins into until sex falls out. She’s not into you, get over it.” Marat Sverdlov

Learn To Be More Of A Bad Boy So, what’s the opposite of a guy who’s “too nice”? A bad boy of course. What is a bad boy? If you look up the definition you’ll find: “A man who does not conform to approved standards or behavior, esp. in a particular sphere of activity.” Think about that… A man who doesn’t CONFORM to APPROVED BEHAVIOR. What is this the opposite of? A “nice” guy who behaves in a manner that most people would approve of! Now, I’m not talking about the bad boy who robs banks, steals cars, shanks people, goes to jail, and slaps his woman around... That’s the dark side of it and it’s important to find the right balance between bad boy and nice guy. I’m talking about the side of the bad boy who isn’t overly nice to women, doesn’t kiss their ass or care what they think, doesn’t do what is “socially acceptable”, goes against the grain, and isn’t a big fan of rules. In essence, a bad boy doesn’t always have “good behavior”. Why do women love bad boys? Because MOST WOMEN HAVE A BAD SIDE. A side that wants to be naughty and do things their mommy and daddy would NEVER approve of… and a bad boy is the perfect guy to bring that naughty side out! Bad boys make women feel a DEEP SEXUAL ATTRACTION that they don’t feel with nice guys.

You need to accept this: Women aren’t perfect angels. They have dirty thoughts, deep sexual desires, and don’t always enjoy being “a good girl”. Women aren’t going to shun you for acting like a “bad boy” or think you’re a bad person. In fact, from personal experience, WOMEN LOVE when you bring out the “bad girl” side in them and they will do things with you that they would NEVER do with a “nice guy”. And to make it even better, they’ll enjoy EVERY SECOND of it. On a regular basis, I hear, “I can’t help myself, you make me act SO BAD.”

Nice Guy / Bad Boy Cares what women think / doesn’t care Is really nice to women / isn’t “too nice” Tries to always please / pleases himself Compliments women / teases women Afraid to talk about sex / enjoys it Afraid to take control / prefers control Not dominant / very dominant Gets nervous, shy / always relaxed Afraid to speak his mind / not afraid Seeks permission / does as he pleases Sensitive, needy / tough, not needy Puts all women first / puts himself first Tries to make women happy / makes himself happy Tries to be someone else / is just himself Is a follower / is a leader Afraid to make the first move / makes the first move Tries to manipulate/deceive / be straightforward Tell women everything / quiet, mysterious Emotionally weak / emotionally strong Whines, complains, cries / keeps it to himself Gives women money / doesn’t give $$ Weak, out of shape / exercises daily Low self-esteem / high self-esteem Low self-value / high self-value Avoids personal problems / handles them Timid, overly humble / a bit cocky

Women tell him what to do / wears the pants Predictable / unpredictable

Conclusion I want to thank you once again for choosing this book. I hope it proved to be an entertaining and helpful read. It might seem like some men have all the luck when it comes to dating while you are left dealing with challenges that you aren’t able to overcome. Well, some men do have it easy because they know what they are supposed to do and say. You must learn to come across as being smooth and charming instead of awkward and creepy. So, to make sure that you don’t lose out any chances with potential love interests, it is important that you have a foolproof system in place designed to help you get what you want. With a little guidance, you can turn your dating life around. This book will help you attain this goal. With the help of this advice, you will not only be able to talk to women, but you will also be able to date them. All that you need is a little boost and the right information. In this book, you were given everything you need to not only attract and charm women but to talk and hold their attention, too. Once you get the hang of dating do’s and don’ts, you will be able to enjoy success in your dating life. The first thing you must do is change your mindset about dating. A lot of men seem to think that dating requires no effort. Well, if you have any such thoughts, then think again. You need to change your mindset about yourself, women, and what dating entails. Learn to maintain a positive and confident mindset. Now, all that’s left for you to do is start implementing the tips and tricks in this book. Thank you and all the best!