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A COURSE OF STUDY IN SOCIAL GRACES
A P r o je c t P r e se n te d t o t h e F a c u l t y o f t h e S c h o o l o f E d u c a tio n The U n i v e r s i t y o f S o u th e r n C a l i f o r n i a
In P a r t i a l F u l f i l l m e n t o f t h e R e q u ir e m e n ts f o r t h e D e g r e e M a ster o f S c i e n c e i n E d u c a tio n
by D a v id W illia m A rbor A u g u st 1 9 5 0
UMI Number: EP46174
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ii TABLE OF CONTENTS CHAPTER
PAGE PART I .
PERSONAL APPEARANCE
HOW TO MAKE A FAVORABLE IMPRESSION UPON YOUR ASSOCIATES 1,
DRESS:
HOW TO DRESS IN SUCH A MANNER THAT
OTHERS WILL BE PROUD TO BE IN 1.
NEATNESS:
YOURCOMPANY .
.
. .
3
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.
3 ,
.
4
How t o w ear y o u r c l o t h e s i n
su c h a m anner t h a t y o u w i l l b e t h e e n v y o f th o se you m eet 2.
STYLE:
How t o s e l e c t t h e t y p e o f c l o t h e s
fo r v a r io u s o c c a s io n s 3.
COLOR:
How t o c h o o s e c o l o r c o m b in a t io n s
t o a c c e n t y o u r c o m p le x io n 4.
CARE:
SPEECH:
4
How t o g e t t h e m o st o u t o f t h e
t h i n g s y o u h a v e t o w ear 2.
•
* ...............................................
HOW TO DEVELOP THE TYPE OF VOICE
THAT WILL BE PLEASING TO YOUR LISTENERS 1.
PITCH:
».
• .
.
POWER:
lo u d o r t o o s o f t QUALITY:
9
How t o d e te r m in e w h e th e r t h e
ran ge o f your v o ic e i s
3.
9
How t o d e v e lo p a p l e a s i n g
sou n d i n t h e t o n e o f y o u r v o i c e ............................... 2.
5
e ith e r
to o
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10
How t o d e v e lo p t h e k in d o f v o i c e
t h a t w i l l make p e o p le l i k e t o h e a r y o u t a l k
•
10
iii CHAPTER 1.
PAGE EGOTISM:
How t o make a c o n v e r s a t i o n m ore
th a n a m ere r e p o r t o f y o u r p e r s o n a l s u c c e s s e s or f a i l u r e s ................................... . 2.
3.
♦ . •
14
c o n v e r s a t i o n .............................................................................
15
MONOTONY:
How t o be v e r s a t i l e
UNPLEASANTNESS:
in your
How t o make y o u r c o n
v e r s a t i o n s i n t e r e s t i n g and e x c i t i n g t o * lis te n 4.
t o
GOSSIP:
........................................
16
How t o k e e p y o u r c o n v e r s a t i o n
f r e e o f u n p le a s a n t rem arks ab ou t o th e r s 5.
TACT:
.
16
How t o b e t a c t f u l i n t a l k i n g
w ith o th e r s 6*
.
COURTESY:
....................................................
. . . . .
17
How t o d e v e lo p t h e a r t o f
d i s p l a y i n g an i n t e r e s t i n w h a t o t h e r s a r e s a y i n g .................................................. PART I I .
18
THE HOME
HOW TO BUILD A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH MEMBERS OF YOUR FAMILY GROUP""^ 4.
MOTHER:
HOW TO GAIN AND MAINTAIN THE APPROVAL
OF M O TH ER .............................. 1.
AFFECTION:
. .
How t o make m o th er go o u t o f
h er w ay t o s u p p ly y o u r n e e d s and d e s i r e s * • 2.
OBEDIENCE:
23
23
How t o g e t t h o s e e x t r a p r i v i l e g e s
t h a t c a n o n ly come th r o u g h o b e d ie n c e t o m o th er
24
iv CHAPTER 3.
PAGE RESPECT;
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n
su c h a way t h a t y o u w i l l command t h e r e s p e c t o f m o t h e r ..................................................................... 5,
FATHER:
25
HOW TO MAKE FATHER REGARD YOU AS
A LITTLE BROTHER........................................................................ 1.
CONFIDENCE:
29
How t o d i s c u s s y o u r d a i l y
p r o b le m s w i t h f a t h e r ......................................................... 2.
RECOGNITION: o f you .
3.
.
.
USEFULNESS:
How t o make f a t h e r p rou d . - ................................................................................
PRIVILEGES:
30
How t o a s s i s t f a t h e r i n
p r o v i d i n g a d e q u a t e l y f o r t h e home 4.
29
. . . . .
31
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r b e h a v io r
i n s u c h a way a s t o g e t s p e c i a l p r i v i l e g e s from f a t h e r 6.
SISTER:
..................... .....
.
32
HOW TO MAINTAIN A WHOLESOME
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR S I S T E R ......................................... 1.
CHEERFULNESS:
36
How t o d i s p l a y an
o b lig in g a t t it u d e in th e p resen ce o f s is te r
e v e n i f w o r r i e s and d i s t a s t e f u l
d u t i e s make y o u f e e l o u t o f s o r t s ...................................... 2.
LOYALTY;:
36
How t o p r o v e t o y o u r s i s t e r
t h a t y o u c a n b e t r u s t e d .......................................................
37
V
CHAPTER 3.
PAGE QUARRELING:
How t o k e e p y o u r i r r i t a b l e
and i m p a t i e n t t h o u g h t s t o y o u r s e l f 4.
PRIVACY:
BROTHER:
*
...............................................................
PRIVACY:
42
How t o r e s p e c t t h e p r i v a c y
o f y o u r b r o t h e r ......................................................... 2.
39
HOW TO MAINTAIN A HAPPY RELATION
SHIP WITH YOUR BROTHER.................................................... 1.
38
How t o r e s p e c t t h e p r iv a c y
o f your s i s t e r 7.
* . . .
QUARRELING:
42
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n
s u c h a manner a s t o a v o id u n p l e a s a n t n e s s w h er e b r o t h e r i s 3.
RESPECT:
LOYALTY:
43
How t o command t h e r e s p e c t
your b r o th e r 4.
concerned of
...............................................................................
44
How t o w in t h e c o n f i d e n c e o f
your b r o th e r
.................................... PART I I I .
. . . . . . . .
45
THE PUBLIC
HOW TO LIVE HAPPILY WITH THE PEOPLE IN PUBLIC PLACES 8.
THE STREET:
HOW TO CONDUCT YOURSELF IN THE
STREET SO AS TO BE PLEASING TO OTHERS . . . . 1.
COURTESY:
How t o d i s p l a y t h e t y p e
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of
c o u r t e s y t h a t w i l l show y o u up t o a good a d v a n ta g e i n p u b l i c .....................................
49
vi CHAPTER 2.
PAGE MANNERS:
How t o a v o id s u c h i ll - m a n n e r e d
a c t s a s e a t i n g and d r i n k in g i n p u b l i c 3.
. •
50
t o a d ru n k p e r s o n i n t h e s t r e e t
. ♦
51
INTOXICATION: a tta ch ed
4.
.
How t o a v o id t h e s tig m a
BOISTEROUSNESS:
How t o show y o u r s e l f up
t o a good a d v a n t a g e i n t h e s t r e e t s 5«
POLITENESS:
* . . . • •
51
How t o c a l l d e s i r a b l e a t t e n t i o n
t o y o u r s e l f w h i l e i n t h e s t r e e t s ................. 6.
51
CONVERSATION;, How t o t a l k t o p e o p le y o u m e e t i n t h e s t r e e t .........................
9»
THE STREET CAR:
58
HOW TO TRAVEL ON THE STREET
CAR WITH A MINIMUM OF F R U ST R A T IO N ............................. 1.
CONDUCTOR:
55
How t o make t r a n s a c t i o n s
w i t h t h e c o n d u c to r w i t h o u t b e in g o f f e n s i v e ♦ 2.
PASSENGERS: tr ip
How t o t a k e an e n j o y a b l e
on t h e s t r e e t c a r w i t h o u t b e i n g
o f f e n s i v e t o t h o s e w i t h whom y o u c o n t a c t • • 3.
READING:
TALKING:
........................................................
56
How t o c o n v e r s e w i t h y o u r
t r a v e l i n g c o m p a n io n w i t h o u t d i s t u r b o t h e r s • 5.
CONDUCT:
56
How t o am use y o u r s e l f w h i l e
r i d i n g on t h e c a r 4.
55
57
How t o a v o id a n t i - s o c i a l
c o n d u c t on t h e s t r e e t c a r ............................... ....
•
57
v ii CHAPTER 10.
PAGE
THE TRAIN:
HOW TO OBTAIN THE MAXIMUM PLEASURE
OUT OF A LONG TRIP BY R A I L ..................................................... 1*
TICKETS:
61
How t o a v o id s u c h u n p l e a s a n t n e s s
t h a t m ig h t a r i s e fro m w a i t i n g t o o l a t e
to
p u r c h a s e y o u r t i c k e t .......................................................... 2.
LUGGAGE:
How t o h a n d le y o u r l u g g a g e
w ith o u t o f fe n d in g you r f e l l o w 3*
61
PERSONNEL:
tr a v e le r s
♦ .
62
How t o g i v e t h e t r a i n p e r s o n
n e l th e n e c e s s a r y c o o p e r a tio n so a s to make y o u r t r i p 4.
FACILITIES:
e n jo y a b le
. . . . . . . . .
63
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n
m a k in g u s e o f t h e c o n v e n ie n c e o f f e r e d by th e t r a in 11•
THE SCHOOL:
* ...............................................................................
64
HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF YOUR
SCHOOL L I F E ......................................................................................... 1.
THE CLASSROOM:
How t o make y o u r c la s s r o o m
t h e e n v y o f t h e cam pus 2.
THE CAFETERIA:
THE LIBRARY:
.................................
68
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n
th e s c h o o l c a f e t e r ia 3.
68
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How t o u t i l i z e
70
th e f a c i l i t i e s
o f th e l ib r a r y w ith o u t b e in g o f f e n s i v e t o o t h e r s ...................................................................................... 4.
THE PLAY GROUND:
How t o e n r i c h y o u r s c h o o l
d a y s th r o u g h t a k i n g a d v a n ta g e o f t h e e x t r a -
70
v lii CHAPTER
PAGE c u r r ic u la r a c t i v i t i e s
12.
THE CHURCH:
o ffer ed
71
HOW TO CONDUCT YOURSELF IN CHURCH
WITHOUT CALLING UNDESIRABLE ATTENTION TO YOURSELF 1.
.
.............................................................................. .
APPEARANCE:
.
75
How t o d r e s s i n su c h a m anner
a s n o t t o b e a d i s t r a c t i n g e le m e n t t o t h o s e who may 2.
CONDUCT:
d e s i r e t o w o r s h i p ...................................
75
How t o a v o i d u n p l e a s a n t n e s s
t h a t m ig h t a r i s e from u n d e s i r a b l e c o n d u c t i n c h u r c h ................................... ...... ........................................ 3*
USEFULNESS:
How t o s e r v e some w o r th y
p u rp ose in ch u rch 13.
THE THEATER:
76
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77
HOW TO CONDUCT YOURSELFIN SUCH
A WAY THAT OTHERS WILL WELCOME YOU ON THEATER P A R T IE S ............................... ..... 1.
APPEARANCE: m anner a s n o t
2.
CONDUCT:
...........................
.
81
How t o d r e s s i n su c h a to d is tu r b o th e r s a b o u t you .
81
How t o a c t i n su ch a way t h a t
o t h e r s w i l l e n j o y y o u r company a t t h e th e a te r 14.
PLACES OF AMUSEMENT:
82 HOW TO GET ALONGWITH
PEOPLE YOU MEET AT SPORT EVENT OR AMUSEMENT PARKS.................................................................. .....................................
85
ix CHAPTER 1.
PAGE THE FOOTBALL GAME:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f
a t a f o o t b a l l g a m e .................................................... 2#
THE PARK:
85
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n t h e
c i t y p a r k ................................................................................. 3#
THE BEACH:
87
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n
s u c h a m anner t h a t o t h e r s w i l l w elco m e y o u on t h e i r b e a c h p a r t i e s FUNCTIONAL EDUCATION COLLECTION:
• • » « • • • •
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A s p e c ia l
r e s e r v e s h e l f f o r u s e i n t h i s c o u r s e o f stu d y
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PREFACE TO TEACHERS I n a t t e m p t in g t o f i n d an an sw er t o some o f t h e p e r p l e x i n g p r o b le m s c o n f r o n t i n g our p r e s e n t day s o c i e t y , one t b i n g a p p e a r s t o b e p r e v a l e n t i n a l l o f our s o c i a l i n t e r co u rse. We a r e g r o s s l y l a c k i n g i n t b e s k i l l o f g e t t i n g a l o n g w i t h our f e l l o w m en. E d u c a to r s a r e i n a g r e e m e n t t h a t t h e f u t u r e o f t h e w o r ld t o d a y l i e s i n t h e h an d s o f t h e y o u n g l i v e s we h ave a c c e p t e d a s ou r r e s p o n s i b i l i t y t o g u i d e . T h is b e i n g t r u e , y o u c a n r e a d i l y s e e t h e n e c e s s i t y o f m a k in g some p r o v i s i o n s i n our d a i l y program f o r t h e d e v e lo p m e n t o f t h o s e s k i l l s * , v i t a l t o h a r m o n io u s r e l a t i o n s h i p w i t h t h e p e o p l e w i t h whom we m u st l i v e . T h is p r o b le m o f how t o l i v e h a p p ily w i t h o th e r s w as t a k e n r e c e n t l y t o a g ro u p o f h ig h s c h o o l s t u d e n t s . I t w as f e l t t h a t some e f f o r t s h o u ld b e made t o d e t e r m in e fro m them w h a t t h e y e x p e c t e d fr o m o t h e r p e o p l e and t o p la n w i t h themm ore a c c e p t a b l e w a y s o f f u l f i l l i n g t h e s e w a n t s . From t h e s u r v e y , su c h t h i n g s a s p e r s o n a l a p p e a r a n c e , c o n d u c t i n t h e home and i n p u b l i c p l a c e s w e r e d i s c u s s e d . The t h r e e m ain h e a d in g s o f t h i s c o u r s e o f s t u d y a r e d e v o t e d t o t h e s e p r o b le m s . The c o u r s e i s in t e n d e d t o p o i n t o u t t h e d i f f i c u l t i e s e n c o u n t e r e d by m o st s t u d e n t s i n t h e t h r e e c a t e g o r i e s men t i o n e d a b o v e and t o p r o v id e l e a r n i n g e x p e r i e n c e s i n t h e c l a s s t o h e lp them o v e rc o m e t h e s e d i f f i c u l t i e s . The A u th or
PREFACE TO PUPILS In our c o n s t a n t q u e s t f o r k n o w le d g e , o r i n our s i n c e r e e f f o r t t o e q u ip o u r s e l v e s w i t h t h e t y p e o f t r a i n i n g t h a t w i l l e n a b l e u s t o make a d e f i n i t e and w o r t h - w h i le c o n t r i b u t i o n t o t h e s o c i e t y i n w h ic h we l i v e , we t o o o f t e n o v e r lo o k t h e o n e t h i n g t h a t i s v i t a l t o a n y f i e l d we may c h o o s e a s a p r o f e s s io n . T h at we m u st l i v e i n t h e w o r ld w i t h p e o p l e i s an e s ta b lis h e d f a c t . As we c lim b t h e e d u c a t i o n a l l a d d e r , w o u ld i t n o t g i v e im p e tu s t o our t r a i n i n g i f we c o u ld d e v e lo p s k i l l in th e a r t o f g e t t i n g a lo n g e f f e c t i v e l y w ith o th e r p e o p le ? A l l t o o o f t e n we f i n d p e o p le i n t h e p r o f e s s i o n a l w o r ld who a r e , w i t h o u t a d o u b t , m a s t e r s i n t h e i r r e s p e c t i v e f i e l d s , b u t who f a i l t o a c h i e v e g r e a t n e s s b e c a u s e t h e y f a i l t o know how t o g e t a l o n g w i t h t h e p e o p le w i t h whom t h e y m u st a s s o c i a t e th e m s e lv e s . Your s u c c e s s i n l i f e i s n o t o n ly d e t e r m in e d t o a l a r g e e x t e n t by t h e i m p r e s s i o n y o u make u p o n t h e p e o p le w i t h whom y o u a s s o c i a t e , b u t i n many i n s t a n c e s , w h e r e a b i l i t y i n t e c h n i c a l f i e l d s w as l i m i t e d , g r e a t n e s s h a s b e e n a c h ie v e d a s a r e s u l t o f u n u s u a l s k i l l i n t h e a b i l i t y t o p e r s u a d e p e o p le t o y o u r way o f t h i n k i n g . I f t h i s be t r u e , how much g r e a t e r i s your ch a n ce f o r s u c c e s s i f you have th e n e c e s s a r y t e c h n ic a l a b i l i t y p l u s some s k i l l i n t h e a r t o f d e a l i n g w i t h p e o p l e . No o n e w i l l q u e s t i o n t h e f a c t t h a t f i n a n c i a l s u c c e s s i s t h e s e c r e t a m b it io n o f m o st p e o p l e , seco n d t o t h i s is perhaps a d e s ir e to e x c e l in th e f i e l d you have ch o sen a s your l i f e * s w ork. I f y o u , a s a g r o w in g i n d i v i d u a l , a r e t o s e e t h e r e a l i z a t i o n o f s u c c e s s i n an y p e r s p e c t i v e , s k i l l i n t h e a r t o f g e t t i n g a lo n g w i t h p e o p l e m u st b e d e v e lo p e d e a r l y in l i f e . T h er e a r e many s u c c e s s f u l p e o p le i n t h e w o r ld who a r e f a r fro m b e in g happy i n d i v i d u a l s . The c r u x t o t h e w h o le s i t u a t i o n i s t r a c e a b le to u n s a t is f a c t o r y a d ju stm e n t t o th e p e o p le ab ou t y o u . I t i s hoped t h a t y o u r p r o b le m s i n s o c i a l l i f e w i l l be l e s s e n e d a s a r e s u l t o f k n o w le d g e g a in e d fro m t h i s co u rse o f stu d y . The A u th o r
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PART I .
PERSONAL APPEARANCE
HOW TO MAKE A FAVORAELE IMPRESSION UPON YOUR ASSOCIATES The f i r s t im p r e s s io n y o u make up on an i n d i v i d u a l i s u s u a l l y p e r c e iv e d th r o u g h t h e v i s u a l s e n s e s f i r s t . In o th e r w o r d s , you u s u a l l y s e e an i n d i v i d u a l b e f o r e y o u h a v e a c h a n c e t o h e a r w h at he or s h e t a l k s l i k e or w h a t t h e p e r s o n a l i t y or p e r fo r m a n c e i s l i k e . The way y o u l o o k , a c t , and t a l k , t h e n , i s t h e b a s i s f o r m o st o p i n io n s fo rm ed o f y o u . I f you d o n 't p r e s e n t t h e d e s i r e d im p r e s s io n t h e f i r s t tim e a p e r s o n s e e s y o u , ch a n ces a r e you w i l l n ev er have th e o p p o r tu n ity to p r o v e y o u r w o r th . Thus y o u ca n r e a d i l y s e e t h a t i t i s n o t o n ly im p o r t a n t t h a t y o u p r e s e n t a c l e a n and n e a t a p p e a r a n c e b u t you s h o u ld h a v e some k n o w le d g e o f t h e t y p e o f c l o t h i n g t o w ear on c e r t a i n o c c a s i o n s . A g a in , t h e r e i s a t r i c k t o c h o o s in g c o l o r c o m b in a t io n s t o e n h a n c e y o u r c o m p le x io n and show y o u o f f t o a good a d v a n t a g e . L a s t ly , im p r e s s io n s a re made on o t h e r s by t h e t h i n g s we s a y . The o ld s a y i n g : ’’N o th i n g w i l l r u i n a d u ck q u ic k e r th a n h i s b i l l , " i s v e r y sound and d e s e r v e s much t h o u g h t . I f y o u h a v e had d i f f i c u l t y i n g e t t i n g o f f t o a good s t a r t i n y o u r a s s o c i a t i o n s w i t h o t h e r s , you s h o u ld a v a i l y o u r s e l f o f t h e s u g g e s t i o n s i n t h e n e x t th r e e c h a p te r s.
CHAPTER I .
DRESS
HOT TO DRESS IN SUCH A MANNER THAT OTHERS WILL BE PROUD TU BE IN YOUR COMPANY A.
MOTIVATION:
R ew ards w h ic h a r e so m e tim e s p r o m ise d and
c la im e d a s a r e s u l t o f t h i s s t u d y . 1.
GOOD LOOKS;
By s e l e c t i o n o f f l a t t e r i n g
s ty le s
s u ite d
to your p e r s o n a lit y . 2.
BETTER uOLOR COMBINATIONS:
You w i l l b e a b l e t o
c h o o s e c o l o r s s u i t e d f o r t h e o c c a s i o n and y o u r p e r s o n a lity . 3.
MORE POISE;
A w e l l d r e s s e d man u s u a l l y h a s ad d ed
c o n fid e n c e in h is a b i l i t y 4.
FIRST IMPRESSION GOOD:
t o p e r fo r m .
The way y o u l o o k m ig h t w e l l
p r e j u d i c e t h e i m p r e s s io n made on o t h e r s * B.
DIRECTIONS:
H e l p f u l s u g g e s t i o n s on t h e m ain d i f f i c u l t i e s
i n d r e s s and c l o t h i n g 1.
NEATNESS:
s e le c tio n .
How t o w ear y o u r c l o t h e s i n su c h a m anner
t h a t y o u w i l l be th e en vy o f th o s e you m e e t. a.
C heck y o u r c l o t h e s f o r m i s s i n g b u tto n s * or s o i l e d
b.
sp o ts b e fo r e d r e s s in g .
C heck y o u r s h o e s and o t h e r w e a r in g a p p a r e l t o be su re e v e r y th in g i s
c.
h o le s ,
in o r d e r .
Em ploy t h e u s e o f a f u l l l e n g t h m ir r o r , w h e r e v e r p o s s ib le ,
t o gu ard a g a i n s t i l l - f i t t i n g
c lo th e s .
d.
R eq u est a d v ic e o f f r ie n d s or r e l a t iv e s #
STYLE:
How t o
s e l e c t th e ty p e o f c lo t h e s fo r v a r io u s
o c c a s io n s . a.
Employ t h e u s e o f a p p r o v e d f a s h i o n m a g a z in e s f o r w h at t o w ear on s p e c i a l o c c a s i o n s .
b.
C h oose w h a t y o u c o n s i d e r t o be y o u r m o st d e s i r a b l e and y o u r l e s s d e s i r a b l e p h y s i c a l f e a t u r e s , and d e te r m in e th r o u g h c o n s u l t a t i o n and e x p e r i m e n t a t i o n w h ic h d r e s s e m p h a s iz e or m in im iz e t h e s e
c.
N o tic e
fe a tu r e s.
t h e way o t h e r s o f s i m i l i a r p h y s i c a l f e a t
u res s e le c t th e ir
s ty le s .
d.
S tr iv e
fo r s im p lic it y in s t y l e .
e.
C h o o se
s ty le s to
s u i t your p o c k e tb o o k .
( I f you
o n ly h a v e m oney en o u g h t o buy on e g a r m e n t, be su re i t COLOR:
is
a s ta n d a r d s t y l e ) .
How t o c h o o s e c o l o r c o m b in a t io n s t o a c c e n t
y o u r c o m p le x io n . a.
T ry d i f f e r e n t c o m b in a t io n s o f c o l o r s and p a t t e r n s to
b.
s e c u r e harm ony b e tw e e n d r e s s and a c c e s s o r i e s .
C o n s u lt c l a s s m a t e s and f r i e n d s on v a r i o u s c o l o r c o m b in a t io n s .
c.
Em ploy t h e u s e o f w a te r c o l o r s t o d e t e r m in e how v a r io u s c o l o r c o m b in a t io n s m ig h t be u s e d t o a g r e a t a d v a n ta g e t o y o u .
d.
A n a ly z e y o u r own c o m p le x io n and d e t e r m in e w h at
5 c o l o r c o m b in a t io n s w i l l a c c e n t t h e s e f e a t u r e s * 4.
CARE:
How t o g e t t h e m o st o u t o f t h e t h i n g s y o u h a v e
to w ear. a.
C le a n c l o t h e s r e g u l a r l y t o p r e s e r v e t h e f a b r i c s .
b.
Hang c l o t h e s n e a t l y on a h a n g er w h en ev e r t h e y a r e ta k e n o f f .
c.
B r u sh c l o t h e s r e g u l a r l y , d ir t is
d.
e v e n th o u g h t h e d u s t o r
n o t v i s i b l e a t t h e tim e*
D ress fo r th e o c c a s io n .
( I f y o u p la y f o o t b a l l ,
w ea r c l o t h e s f o r t h a t p u r p o s e ) . e. 5.
Dry c l e a n c l o t h e s b e f o r e p a c k in g them a w a y .
SOURCES FOR THIS CHAPTER:
W here t o g e t f u r t h e r
a s s is ta n c e . a.
B o o k s: (1 )
E tiq u e tte c o lle c t io n .
B a d t, E . L . , : and G i r l s .
E v ery d a y Good M anners f o r B o y s L a id la w B r o t h e r s ,
San F r a n c i s c o ,
1939, pp. 7 -1 9 . (2 )
B arbour, R . A . , :
Good M anners f o r B o y s .
D . A p p le to n -C e n tu r y Company, I n c . ,
New Y o r k ,
1937, pp. 5 -1 4 . (3 )
G a r d n e r , H. J . , B ook.
and F a r r e n , P . , :
C o u rte sy
J . P . L i p p i n c o t t Com pany, P h i l a d e l p h i a ,
1937, pp. 5 -1 8 . (4 )
W oodward, E . , :
P e r s o n a lity P r e fe r r e d .
H ar
p e r and B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s , New Y o r k , 1 9 3 5 ,
6 pp. 3 -4 5 . b.
C.
OTHER SOURCES:
D a i l y p u b l i c a t i o n s and m a g a z in e s *
(1 )
E s q u ir e .
(2 )
V ogu e.
(3 )
H a r p e r 's B a z a a r
(4 )
Charm.
(5 )
M a d e m o is e lle .
(6 )
S e v e n te e n *
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o e n h a n c e
y o u r s k i l l i n d r e s s and c l o t h i n g s e l e c t i o n . 1.
NEATNESS, STYLE, AND COLOR:
G iv e a s c h o o l f a s h i o n
show and d e m o n s t r a t e v a r i o u s t y p e s o f c l o t h i n g f o r s p e c i a l o c c a s i o n s , c o l o r c o m b in a t io n s and h i n t s on m ak in g o ld c l o t h e s l o o k n e a t . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p les o f t h e way i n w h ic h y o u r m a s te r y o f
th e le a r n in g e x p e r ie n c e s w i l l be c h e ck ed . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e a n X i n
th e c o r r e c t sp a ce f o r tr u e
or f a l s e . T a.
F
( )(
) The b e s t way t o s e l e c t c o l o r s i s
by w a t c h
in g o t h e r s . b.
( )(
) F la s h y s t y l e s a r e a lw a y s b e s t a s t h e y t e n d t o make on e p o p u l a r .
c.
( )(
) You c a n d r e s s n e a t l y w i t h o u t s p e n d in g a
7
EXHIBIT B FORMAL DRESS FOR THE MEN
A fter s i x P. M.
8 g r e a t d e a l o f money* 2.
BEST ANSWEES:
P la c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw er i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
(
) A good way t o c a r e f o r y o u r c l o t h e s i s
to :
( 1 ) Hang?; them c a r e f u l l y w hen n o t i n u s e . ( 2 ) Wash them i n c o ld w a t e r .
( 3 ) Lay them
n e a t l y on t h e f o o t o f y o u r b e d .
(4 )
P ack
them i n m oth b a l l s e v e r y n i g h t . b.
(
) You c a n b e s t d e t e r m in e w h a t t o w ear on c e r t a in o c c a s io n s b y: io n b o o k s. c lo th e s .
( 1 ) H e a d in g a p p r o v e d f a s h
( 2 ) P a y in g good p r i c e s f o r y o u r ( 3 ) T a lk in g a b o u t y o u r c l a s s m a t e s .
(4 ) L is te n in g to th e r a d io . 3.
HATING SCALE:
P la c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify . a.
(
) Y our c l o t h e s a r e t h e e n v y o f t h o s e y o u m e e t .
b.
(
) You d r e s s i n a c c o r d a n c e w i t h y o u r c o m p le x io n an d c o l o r .
c.
(
) Your s t y l e s a r e s e l e c t e d from l e a d i n g f a s h i o n m a g a z in e s .
(
)
T o ta l.
9 CHAPTER 2 .
SPEECH
HOW TO DEVELOP THE TYPE OF VOICE THAT WILL BE PLEASING TO YOUR LISTENERS A . , MOTIVATION:
R ew ard s w h ic h a r e p r o m is e d and a r e s o m e tim e s
c la im e d a s a r e s u l t o f t h i s 1*
SOCIAL STATUS: l e c t groups a s
stu d y *
You w i l l r e a d i l y b e a d m it t e d t o s e c lu b s and f r a t e r n i t i e s p r e f e r
p e o p le
w ith a p le a s in g v o i c e . 2.
OCCUPATIONAL OPPORTUNITY:
Your c h a n c e s f o r g e t t i n g
a jo b w i l l be g r e a t ly en h an ced . 3.
ACADEMIC SUCCESS:
T here i s
a d ir e c t r e la tio n s h ip b e
tw e e n t h e m anner i n w h ic h y o u e x p r e s s y o u r s e l f and t h e k in d o f g r a d e s y o u r e c e i v e i n s c h o o l . 4.
MARITAL B L ISS:
The t o n e o f v o i c e y o u u s e may m ean t h e
d i f f e r e n c e b e tw e e n s u c e e s s or f a i l u r e i n m a r r ie d l i f e . B.
DIRECTIONS:
P o i n t s t o b e n o te d i n a c q u i r i n g a p l e a s i n g
v o ic e . 1.
PITCH:
How t o d e v e lo p a p l e a s i n g sou n d i n t h e t o n e
o f your v o ic e . a.
Make r e c o r d i n g o f v o i c e i n a n e f f o r t t o d e t e r m in e w eak p o i n t s .
b.
R e q u e s t o f c l a s s m a t e s and f r i e n d s i f
th e y fin d
y o u r v o i c e t o o h ig h or t o o lo w . c.
I f v o i c e t e n d s t o b e t o o h i g h and s q u e a k y ,
m a n ip u la t e b a s e o f to n g u e s u c h t h a t t o n e w i l l come d i r e c t l y fr o m t h r o a t # d.
I f v o i c e t e n d s t o b e t o o lo w , n a s e l i z e y o u r t o n e s u n t i l y o u s t r i k e a hap p y m edium .
e.
R e q u e s t c a n d id o p i n i o n o f c l a s s m a t e s and f r i e n d s a s t o t h e h i g h n e s s or l o w n e s s o f y o u r v o i c e .
f.
M em orize s h o r t poem s and p r a c t i c e s a y i n g them t o y o u r c la s s m a te s f o r
POWER: v o ic e i s a.
c r itic is m .
How t o d e t e r m in e w h e th e r t h e r a n g e o f y o u r e i t h e r t o o lo u d o r t o o s o f t .
Make r e c o r d i n g o f v o i c e and a l l o w c l a s s m a t e s t o r e c o r d v a r i a t i o n s i n pow er m e t e r .
b#
D e te r m in e a t w h a t p o i n t n e e d l e o f pow er m e te r i s c o n s t a n t and a d j u s t v o i c e a c c o r d i n g l y .
c.
p r a c t i c e s p e a k in g i n t h i s t o n e o f v o i c e u n t i l i t b eco m es n a t u r a l f o r y o u t o do s o .
d.
Make t e l e p h o n e c a l l t o a f r i e n d and r e q u e s t t h e i r o p i n i o n a s t o t h e l o u d n e s s or s o f t n e s s o f y o u r v o ic e .
e.
Make an a n n o u n ce m en t o n t h e p u b l i c a d d r e s s s y s t e m and n o t e a u d ie n c e r e a c t i o n t o sa m e .
QUALITY:
How t o d e v e lo p t h e k in d o f v o i c e t h a t w i l l
make p e o p l e l i k e t o h e a r y o u t a l k . a.
A v o id e x t r e m i t i e s i n p i t c h o f v o i c e .
b.
A v o id e x t r e m i t i e s i n pow er o f v o i c e .
c.
P r a c t i c e s p e a k in g i n m o d e r a te t o n e s a t a l l t i m e s .
d.
S p ea k e v e n l y
and g i v e e a c h w ord i t s c o r r e c t t o n a l
a c c e n t. e.
p r a c t i c e r e a d in g a l o u d .
f •
M em orize s h o r t poem s and p r a c t i c e r e c i t i n g , them b e fo r e th e c la s s .
g.
P r o n o u n ce a l l w o rd s s l o w l y and d i s t i n c t l y .
h.
T ake d e e p b r e a t h b e f o r e b e g i n n in g t o t a l k .
i.
A v o id t a l k i n g th r o u g h y o u r n o s e .
j.
A v o id s p e a k in g i n m o n o to n e s .
k.
P u t en ou gh a n im a t io n i n t o y o u r v o i c e t o make i t so u n d i n t e r e s t i n g t o y o u r l i s t e n e r s .
1.
T ake d e e p b r e a t h b e f o r e s p e a k in g t o sm o o th o u t h a rsh t o n e s .
m.
E m u la te w e l l t r a i n e d r a d i o v o i c e s .
SOURCES FOR THIS CHAPTER:
W here t o g e t f u r t h e r
a s s is ta n c e . a.
B a d t, E. L . , : G ir ls .
E v e r y d a y Good M anners f o r B oys and
L a id la w B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s , S an F r a n c i s c o ,
1931, pp. 7 3 -8 3 . b.
B e tz, B . , :
Your M anners A re S h o w in g .
G r o s s e t and
D u n lap P u b l i s h e r s , New Y o r k , 1 9 4 6 , p p . 8 0 - 8 3 . c.
B a l t h o r p , C. G . :
d.
P o st,
E .:
How t o Make and K eep F r i e n d s .
E t i q u e t t e . Funk and W a g n a lls Company
P u b l i s h e r s , New Y o r k , 1 9 4 3 , p p . 4 0 - 4 8 .
12 C.
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o k e l p y o u
d e v e lo p a p l e a s i n g v o i c e # 1*
PITCH, POWER, AND QUALITY OF VOICE: v e r s e s p e a k in g c h o i r i n c l a s s . n a l s e le c tio n
O r g a n iz e a
Make u s e o f a n o r i g i
c o n s i s t i n g o f v o w e l and c o n s o n a n t
so u n d s y o u h a v e fo u n d m o st d i f f i c u l t f o r g r o u p t o pronou nce.
D i v i d e t h e c l a s s i n tw o s e c t i o n s a c c o r d
in g to p itc h o f v o ic e .
D r i l l on t h e s e d i f f i c u l t
so u n d s u n t i l t h e d e s i r e d r e s u l t s i s
o b ta in e d .
r e c o r d in g o f s e l e c t i o n and u s e i t a s f u r t h e r
Make im p r o v e
m en t on pow er and q u a l i t y o f v o i c e . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p les o f som e e v a l u a t i o n t e c h n i q u e s w h ic h
may b e a p p l i e d t o y o u r d e v e lo p m e n t o f a p l e a s i n g v o i c e . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e an X i n th e c o r r e c t sp a c e f o r
tr u e or f a l s e . T a.
( )(
F )
C o r r e c t b r e a th in g i s
a ,g o o d way t o sm o o th
o u t h a rsh sou n d s i n you r v o i c e . b.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld r e c o r d y o u r v o i c e t o d e t e r m in e w eak p o i n t s .
2.
BEST ANSWERS:
P la c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
A good way t o d e t e r m in e t h e l o u d n e s s o r s o f t n e s s o f your v o ic e i s c o r d in g o f you r v o i c e .
to :
( 1 ) Make r e
( 2 ) Go t o a f o o t b a l l
gam e.
( 3 ) A sk y o u r b e s t f r i e n d .
( 4 ) A lw a y s
h a v e s o m e th in g i n t e r e s t i n g t o s a y . b.
{)
You c a n b e s t by:
d e v e lo p q u a lit y i n your v o ic e
( 1 ) T a lk in g t h r o u g h y o u r n o s e .
T a lk in g a s r a p i d l y a s y o u c a n . i n t h e same t o n e o f v o i c e .
(2 )
( 3 ) s p e a k in g
( 4 ) P r o n o u n c in g
a l l w o rd s s l o w l y and d i s t i n c t l y . RATING SCALE:
P la c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
can q u a lif y . a.
()
You s p e a k i n
m o d e r a te t o n e s a t a l l t i m e s .
b.
()
Each word i s
g iv e n th e c o r r e c t to n a l a c c e n t.
c.
()
R e c o r d e d v o i c e t o d e t e r m in e w eak p o i n t s .
(
)
T o ta l.
14 CHAPTER 3 .
CONVEBSATION
HOW TO DELIGHT OTHERS THROUGH YOUR CONVERSATION A.
MOTIVATION:
A d v a n ta g e s t o b e g a in e d i f y o u c a n c a r r y on
a good c o n v e r s a t i o n # 1.
POPULARITY:
You w i l l h a v e m ore f r i e n d s , m ore d a t e s ,
b e i n v i t e d t o m ore p a r t i e s , a s p e o p l e w i l l e n j o y b e i n g i n y o u r company* 2.
OCCUPATIONAL OPPORTUNITY: a jo b w i l l b e g r e a t ly
Your c h a n c e s f o r
g e ttin g
en h a n ce d and y o u w i l l b e a b l e
t o c o n v in c e y o u r b o s s o f y o u r w o r t h . 3*
ACADEMIC SUCCESS:
T e a c h e r s p ay o f f i n b e t t e r
grades
f o r t h o s e who a r e a b l e t o e x p r e s s t h e m s e l v e s w e l l * 4.
SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE:
C h o o s in g t h e c o r r e c t t h i n g t o
s a y a t t h e r i g h t t im e h a s l e d t o m a r r ia g e , and t h e sam e t e c h n i q u e h a s b e e n a f a c t o r i n m a i n t a i n i n g a s u c c e s s f u l m a r r ia g e l i f e . B.
DIRECTIONS:
Some h e l p f u l h i n t s on how t o b e a good c o n -
v e r s a t i o n a l i S t.* 1.
EGOTISM:
How t o m ake y o u r c o n v e r s a t i o n m ore th a n a
r e p o r t o f your p e r so n a l su c c e ss o f f a i l u r e . a.
S t r i v e t o show y o u r f r i e n d s up t o a good a d v a n t a g e ..
b.
Make som e comm ent a b o u t s u b j e c t u n d e r d i s c u s s i o n , w ith o u t r e l a t i n g a s i m i li a r
e x p e r i e n c e y o u m ig h t
h a v e had a l o n g t h e same l i n e * c*
A v o id s u c h t h o u g h t l e s s i l l - b r e d a c t s a s:; (1 )
I n t e r r u p t in g a n o th er p e r s o n b e fo r e th e tr e n d o f th o u g h t i s
c o m p le t e .
(2 )
B e in g i n a t t e n t i v e t o w h a t i s
b e in g s a i d .
(3 )
S h o w in g l a c k o f i n t e r e s t i n w h a t i s b e i n g s a id .
(4 )
C o n s t a n t ly r e f e r r i n g t o y o u r s e l f a s a n e x am p le o f w h a t s h o u ld o r s h o u ld n o t b e d o n e ,
(5 )
D o m in a tin g , t h e c o n v e r s a t i o n w i t h d e t a i l e d a c c o u n ts o f you r p e r s o n a l e x p e r ie n c e s *
(6 )
M aking r e s p o n s e o n l y i n m o n o s y l l a b l e s .
(7 )
C o n s t a n t ly y a w n in g , or sh o w in g s i g n s o f b e in g b ored *
MONOTONY:
How t o b e v e r s a t i l e i n y o u r c o n v e r s a t i o n ,
a.
R ead n e w sp a p e r d a i l y t o s e e w h a t i s
g o in g on*
b*
F a m ilia r iz e y o u r s e lf w it h su ch p e r s o n a l i t i e s in t h e new s a s :
^ " (1 )
O u ts ta n d in g m em bers o f t h e f e d e r a l g o v e r n m ent •
(2 )
O u ts ta n d in g m em bers o f t h e s t a t e and c i t y g o v ern m en t*
(3 )
L e a d in g m i l i t a r y p e r s o n n e l .
(4 )
T h o se who h a v e a c h i e v e d g r e a t n e s s i n t h e w o r ld o f s p o r t s *
(5 )
T h o se who h a v e a c h ie v e d g r e a t n e s s i n t h e fie ld
(6 )
o f m u s ic , a r t , and l i t e r a t u r e *
Our r e p r e s e n t a t i v e s i n f o r e i g n c o u n t r i e s .
c.
R ead c u r r e n t b e s t s e l l e r s and i n t e r e s t i n g n o v e l s .
d.
T ake a d v a n t a g e o f e v e r y o p p o r t u n i t y t o t r a v e l .
UHPLEASANTUESS:
How t o m ake y o u r c o n v e r s a t i o n i n t e r
e s t i n g and e x c i t i n g t o y o u r l i s t e n e r s . a.
F in d s o m e t h in g good t o s a y a b o u t a l l i n d i v i d u a l s .
b.
S p ea k o f y o u r s e l f o n ly w hen r e q u e s t e d t o d o s o .
c.
F in d s o m e t h in g c o m p lim e n ta r y t o s a y t o y o u r l i s t ener .
d.
Rem em ber, y o u r p e r s o n a l a f f a i r s h o ld i n t e r e s t o n ly to y o u r s e lf,
f.
A v o id d e t a i l e d
a c c o u n t s o f s u c h t h i n g s a s::
(1 )
P r o lo n g e d i l l n e s s .
(£ )
Y our f a v o r i t e r e l a t i v e .
(3 )
R e lig io u s b e l i e f s .
(4 )
P o l i t i c a l id e o lo g y .
(5 )
R a c ia l i d e n t i t y .
(6 )
E con om ic d i f f i c u l t i e s .
(7 )
O c c u p a t io n a l d i f f i c u l t i e s .
(8 )
P e r s o n a l a c h ie v e m e n t s
GOSSIP:
How t o k e e p y o u r c o n v e r s a t i o n f r e e fro m u n -
p l e a s a n t rem a rk s a b o u t o t h e r s . a.
B e f o r e s p e a k in g l o o s e l y o f o t h e r s , c h e c k t o s e e
i f y o u may n o t b e g u i l t y b*
D iv id e c l a s s
o f t h e same t h in g *
i n t o s m a l l g r o u p s and h o ld s h o r t
p r a c t i c e c o n v e r s a t io n s on su ch s u b j e c t s a s : (1 )
What i s
g o in g on i n t h e s p o r t w o r ld .
(2 )
A current b est s e lle r
or som e i n t e r e s t i n g
n o v e l*
c.
(3 )
F a v o r i t e m u s ic c o m p o s it io n *
(4 )
I n t e r e s t in g p la c e s v is ite d *
P la c e y o u r s e l f i n t h e s i t u a t i o n o f t h e p e r s o n under d is c u s s io n .
d.
R e la t e your r e a c t io n s i f you w ere c a ll e d upon to r e p e a t th e sta te m e n t in th e p r e se n c e o f th e p e r s o n u n d er d i s c u s s i o n .
TACT:
How t o b e t a c t f u l i n t a l k i n g w i t h o t h e r s .
a.
K eep y o u r e y e s on t h e s p e a k e r .
b.
S m ile w h e n e v e r t h e o c c a s i o n d e m a n d s.
e.
Laugh h e a r t i l y i f
th e sta te m en t i s
su p p osed t o b e
hum orous* d.
D e te r m in e by e x p e r i m e n t a t i o n t h e c e n t e r o f i n t e r e s t and l e t
t h a t be th e s u b j e c t o f th e c o n
v e r s a tio n . e.
w a i t u n t i l t h e s p e a k e r h a s c o m p le te d h i s t h o u g h t b e f o r e m ak in g a com m ent.
f.
Make som e comment a b o u t t h e p o i n t a d v a n c e d by t h e s p e a k e r b e f o r e c h a n g in g t h e s u b j e c t .
*g.
A v o id t h e u s e o f s l a n g t o e x p r e s s y o u r s e l f *
h.
D o n 't b e t i r e s o m e l y e x t r a v a g a n t i n y o u r sp e e c h * (1 )
You c a n b e e n t h u s i a s t i c w i t h o u t b e i n g i n s in c e r e .
(2 )
Say " T h is i s a p e r fe c tly
COURTESY:
a b e a u t i f u l d a y , ” n o t ”T h is i s g o r g e o u s d a y ."
How t o d i s p l a y an i n t e r e s t i n w h a t o t h e r s
a re s a y in g . a*
F o llo w t h e t r e n d o f t h o u g h t w i t h a p p r o p r i a t e f a c i a l e x p r e s s io n s , (1 )
s u c h a s::
T a k in g a q u ic k b r e a t h i f w i t h som e t r a g i c
e v e n t*
(2 )
F r o w n in g i f
(3 )
P e r m i t t i n g a s m i l e t o grow on y o u r f a c e i f it
(4 )
is
it
th e s to r y d e a ls
i s d i s t a s t e f u l to th e sp ea k er .
h u m o ro u s.
B u r s t i n g f o r t h w i t h a h e a r t y la u g h i f
it
is
a jo k e . b.
P r a c tic e lo o k in g in t o th e e y e s o f th e sp ea k er .
c.
Have s o m e t h in g t o s a y a b o u t t h e s u b j e c t .
d.
A sk q u e s t i o n s f o r c l a r i f i c a t i o n .
e.
Make i t
f.
A v o id o c c u p y in g y o u r s e l f w i t h o t h e r t h i n g s w h i l e
e v id e n t th a t you a r e l i s t e n i n g .
som eon e e l s e
is
s p e a k in g ,
s u c h a s::
(1 )
S i n g i n g o r humming a t u n e .
(2 )
T u r n in g y o u r b a c k t o s a y s o m e t h in g t o
19 som eo n e e l s e .
h.
(3 )
R e a d in g a b o o k or n e w s p a p e r .
(4 )
W r it in g a l e t t e r .
(5 )
C le a n in g y o u r f i n g e r n a i l s .
A p o lo g i z e im m e d ia t e ly i f
th e sp eak er i s
in te r
r u p te d . C.
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d y o u i n
b e i n g a good c o n v e r s a t i o n a l i s t . 1.
COURTESY:
D iv id e c l a s s in t o
s m a ll i n f o r m a l g r o u p s
and h o ld r o u n d - t a b l e d i s c u s s i o n s on s u b j e c t s o f i n t e r e s t to th e p a r t ic u la r 3.
GOSSIP:
group.
P r a c t i c e im a g in a r y tw o-w ay t e l e p h o n e c o n v e r
s a t i o n s i n t h e c la s s r o o m .
Make a l i s t
o f th e th in g s
d i s c u s s e d d u r in g c o n v e r s a t i o n . 3.
EGOTISM:
K eep a n a c c u r a t e a c c o u n t o f t h e number o f
t i m e s t h e w ord WI M i s u s e d i n t h e c o u r s e o f a d a y * s c o n v e r s a t i o n and add them u p a t t h e end o f t h e d a y . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f t h e w ay i n w h ic h y o u r m a s t e r y o f
th e le a r n in g e x p e r ie n c e s w i l l be ch e ck ed . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P l a c e an X i n t h e c o r r e c t s p a c e f o r
tr u e
or f a l s e . T a.
( )(
F )
It is
c o n s i d e r e d good t a s t e t o s i n g w h en
e v e r som eon e e l s e
is
ta lk in g .
b.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld k e e p y o u r e y e s on t h e p e r s o n t o whom y o u a r e t a l k i n g *
c*
( )(
)
I t is
p o l i t e t o w a i t u n t i l t h e sp e a k e r
h a s c o m p le te d h i s t h o u g h t b e f o r e m a k in g an o b s e r v a t io n * d.
( )(
)
To w r i t e w h i l e c a r r y i n g on a p e r s o n a l c o n v e r s a t i o n sh ow s i n t e r e s t i n w h a t i s b e i n g s a id *
BEST ANSWERS:
P la c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t an sw er
in th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
A g o o d way t o show c o u r t e s y w h i l e c o n v e r s i n g w i t h a n o th e r i s
to :
( 1 ) K eep s i l e n t
th r o u g h o u t e n t i r e c o n v e r s a t io n .
(2 )
a s m i l e on y o u r f a c e a t a l l t im e s *
K eep (3 )
A p o lo g i z e im m e d ia t e ly w h e n e v e r i n t e r r u p t i o n s a r e made* b.
( )
(4 ) S tic k to one su b je ct*
You c o u l d b e s t a v o id s h o w in g e g o t i s m you r c o n v e r s a tio n by:
in
(1 ) T e l l i n g o n ly
th o se th in g s o f i n t e r e s t ab ou t y o u r s e lf . (2 )
F in d i n g s o m e th in g o f i n t e r e s t t o
about th e sp ea k er .
sa y
( 3 ) A v o id in g an y s t a t e
m en t b e g i n n in g w i t h t h e w ord 111 ."
(4 )
T e l l i n g t h e l i s t e n e r how y o u becam e s u c c e s s f u l in l i f e . RATING SCALE:
P la c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h
El you q u a lify . a.
( )
You d i s p l a y a k e e n i n t e r e s t i n w h a t i s
b e in g
s a id . b.
( )Your u s a g e o f t h e w ord "I" i s
h e ld t o a
m inim um . e.
( )
You n e v e r s p e a k l o o s e l y o f o t h e r p e o p l e .
d.
( )
You a r e v e r s a t i l e i n y o u r c o n v e r s a t i o n s .
e.
( )
You c a n a p p r e c i a t e a good j o k e .
(
)
T o ta l.
22
PART I I .
THE HOME
HOW TO BUILD A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH MEMBERS OF YOUR FAMILY GROUP Do y o u f i n d i t d i f f i c u l t t o p u t y o u r b e s t f o o t fo r w a r d w h en ev e r y o u a r e o u t i n t h e p u b l i c ? When y o u a r e a t t e m p t in g t o show y o u r s e l f u p t o a good a d v a n t a g e b e f o r e t h e p e o p le y o u m e e t, do y o u f i n d y o u r s e l f cram ped i n y o u r a c t i o n s ? The b e s t way t o a v o id t h e s e s t r a n g e f e e l i n g s o f i n s e c u r i t y i s t o make i t an e v e r y d a y p r a c t i c e t o b e p o l i t e , c o u r t e o u s , and r e s p e c tfu l. T h ere i s no b e t t e r p la c e t o p r a c t ic e y o u r b e h a v io r th a n i n t h e home w i t h t h e m em bers o f t h e im m e d ia te fa m ily . I f y o u h ap p en t o be a member o f a f a m i l y w h er e s o c i a l g r a c e s a r e n o t a common p r a c t i c e , rem em ber t h e s e t h i n g s a r e m ore e a s i l y i n c u l c a t e d by f o r c e o f ex a m p le th a n a n y t h i n g th a t can be s a id or ta u g h t. The o t h e r m em bers o f t h e f a m i l y c o u ld n o t h e lp b u t n o t i c e y o u i f , f o r e x a m p le , y o u make i t a common p r a c t i c e t o s a y good m o rn in g t o y o u r p a r e n t s e a c h d a y , go od b y w hen y o u l e a v e t h e h o u s e , s t a n d w h en ev e r y o u r m o th e r o r a n y a d u l t w a lk s i n t o y o u r room , s e a t f e m a le mem bers a t t h e d in n e r t a b l e b e f o r e t a k i n g a s e a t y o u r s e l f . B e fo r e you know i t , o t h e r s i n t h e f a m i l y w i l l c a t c h t h e s p a r k and s o c i a l g r a c e s w i l l be a m a tter o f ev ery d a y p r a c t i c e . I f you t h i n k y o u n e e d m ore a s s u r a n c e , m ore c o n f i d e n c e , and m ore e a s e in y o u r d e a lin g s w ith o t h e r s , your a t t e n t io n i s c a ll e d t o ex a m in e c a r e f u l l y t h i s s e c t i o n o f t h i s c o u r s e .
CHAPTER 4 .
MOTHER
HOW TO GAIK AND MAINTAIN THE APPROVAL OF MOTHER A*
MOTIVATION:
Some a d v a n t a g e s o f m a i n t a i n i n g m o t h e r s a p
p r o v a l* 1.
PHYSICAL EASE AND COMFORT:
M ost o f y o u r p h y s i c a l
n e e d s i n t h e home a r e m et th r o u g h m o t h e r ’ s p l a n n i n g . 2.
EMOTIONAL STABILITY:
Many a d u l t f r u s t r a t i o n s a r e
t r a c e a b l e t o som e u n p l e a s a n t a s s o c i a t i o n s w i t h m o th e r 3.
BETTER EDUCATION:
I n many i n s t a n c e s , m o t h e r ’ s man
agem ent o f th e f a m ily b u d g et w i l l be t h e d e c id in g fa c to r 4.
i n your g o in g t o c o l l e g e .
MORE PRIVILEGES:
You w i l l b e a b l e t o
e n j o y many
p le a s u r a b le e v e n t s . B.
DIRECTIONS:
Some h e l p f u l s u g g e s t i o n s on how t o g a i n
m o th e r ’ s a p p r o v a l. 1.
AFFECTION:
How t o make m o th er go o u t o f h e r w ay t o
s u p p ly y o u r n e e d s and d e s i r e s . a.
Make a l i s t
o f t h e f o l l o w i n g o c c a s i o n s and p la n
t o d o s o m e t h in g a b o u t i t . (1 )
M o th e r ’ s b i r t h d a y . (a )
S en d a b i r t h d a y c a r d or t e l e g r a m .
(b )
G iv e a s u r p r i s e b i r t h d a y p a r t y o r d in n e r •
(2 )
M o th e r ’ s d a y .
(a )
S end m o t h e r s d ay c a r d o r t e l e g r a m .
(b )
O rder a c o r s a g e f o r m o th e r on t h i s d a te .
(c)
I n v i t e her to ch u rch , d in n e r ,
th e a te r
or som e p u b l i c p l a c e w h e r e s h e c a n r e v e a l you r th o u g h fu ln e s s t o her f r i e n d s (3 )
S t . V a le n tin e * s d ay. (a )
S en d a g r e e t i n g a p p r o p r i a t e f o r t h i s day.
(b )
A b o x o f c a n d y or f l o w e r s a r e a l s o n ic e .
(4 )
E a ste r d a y . (a )
Send m o th er a n E a s t e r g r e e t i n g or t e l e g r a m on t h i s d a y .
(b )
S en d f l o w e r s , in
OBEDIENCE:
e it h e r f o r th e h o u se or
t h e fo r m o f a c o r s a g e .
How t o g e t t h o s e e x t r a p r i v i l e g e s t h a t
c a n come o n ly th r o u g h o b e d ie n c e t o m o th e r . a.
E x e c u t e a l l a s s ig n m e n t s p r o m p tly and t o t h e b e s t o f your a b i l i t y . (1 )
When y o u a r e s e n t on an e r r a n d ,
go d i r e c t l y
n o t a f t e r you v i s i t w ith your f r i e n d . (2 )
When m o th er c a l l s
t o y o u , go i m m e d ia t e ly ,
n o t a f t e r you have f in is h e d w hat you a r e d o in g . b.
A v o id w a i t i n g t o be r e m in d e d o f d a i l y
chores
a ro u n d t h e h o u s e , e#
A v o id m a k in g e x c u s e s f o r a n y m is c o n d u c t o r n e g l i g en ce around th e h o u se ,
d.
Take d i r e c t i o n s p l e a s a n t l y and c a r r y them o u t p r o m p tly .
RESPECT:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n s u c h a way t h a t
y o u w i l l command r e s p e c t fro m y o u r m o th e r . a.
Work o u t p l a n f o r
e q u a l l y d i s t r i b u t i n g h o u s e h o ld
d u tie s . b.
Work o u t p l a n f o r w i s e s p e n d in g o f y o u r a llo w a n c e or e a r n i n g s .
c.
W r ite a l i s t lite
d.
o f t h i n g s y o u s h o u ld do t o b e p o
t o o t h e r members o f t h e f a m i l y .
L ea rn t o c a r e f o r y o u r c l o t h e s , s e c tio n o f t h is
e.
as ta u g h t in th e
s y lla b u s d e a lin g w ith d r e s s .
A v o id s u c h u n p l e a s a n t n e s s i n t h e h o u s e a s : (1 )
Q u a r r e lin g w i t h o t h e r m em bers o f t h e f a m i l y .
(2 )
F i g h t i n g w i t h o t h e r m em bers o f h o u s e h o ld .
(3 )
s h o w in g e v i d e n c e o f d i s h o n e s t y .
(4 )
B e in g d i s l o y a l .
(5 )
C o n s t a n t u s e o f s l a n g or v u lg a r e x p r e s s i o n s to ex p ress y o u r s e lf.
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E v ery d a y Good M anners f o r B o y s
26 and G i r l s * c is c o , b.
L a id la w B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s , S a n F r a n
1 9 3 1 , PP. 2 0 - 3 3 *
D u n le e , N * , :
The C o u r te s y B o o k *
B e c k le y - C a r d y
Company, C h ic a g o , 1 9 2 7 , PP. 2 1 - 2 4 . c.
R o b e r t s , H. L .
The C y c lo p a e d ia o f S o c i a l U s a g e .
G. P# P u tm a n 's S o n s , New Y o r k , 1 9 1 3 , PP. C.
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
5 4 9 -5 5 7 *
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d y o u i n
y o u r e f f o r t t o p l e a s e m o th e r * 1*
AFFECTION;
Make a p e r s o n a l c a le n d a r c o n t a i n i n g mem
o r a b l e d a t e s f o r m o th er s u c h a s t h e f o l l o w i n g , a n d p l a n o n e t h i n g y o u c a n do on e a c h o f t h e s e d a t e s :
2.
(a )
M o th e r 's d a y .
(b )
S t . V a le n tin e s d a y .
(c)
B ir th d a y .
(d )
E a s t e r day*
(e)
C h r is tm a s day*
OBEDIENCE:
la k e a l i s t
w h er e m o th er i s
o f s t a n d a r d s f o r o b e d ie n c e
concerned.
M em orize t h e s e s t a n d a r d s
and u s e them a s a c h e c k a g a i n s t y o u r b e h a v i o r .
Your
l i s t may be c o m p ile d fr o m t h e s u g g e s t i o n s g i v e n i n th e d ir e c tio n s * D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f how y o u r m a s te r y o f t h e l e a r n i n g
e x p e r i e n c e s w i l l be c h e c k e d . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e an X in
th e c o r r e c t sp a c e f o r tr u e
or f a ls e * T
F
X )(
a.
)
I t is
n o t im p o r t a n t f o r y o u t o rem em ber
M other on S t . V a l e n t i n e s d a y a s i t
is
th e
d a y f o r new l o v e r s . b.
( )( )
You s h o u ld a n sw er y o u r m o th e r when s h e c a l l s w h e th e r y o u p l a n t o g o t o h er or n o t,
e.
( )( )
S m a ll t o k e n s o f a p p r e c i a t i o n a r e a good way t o p l e a s e y o u r m o th e r .
BEST ANSWERS:
P l a c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r
in th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( ) A g o o d way t o rem em ber s p e c i a l d a t e s o f i n t e r e s t t o m o th er i s :
( 1 ) R e p e a t them ,•
o v e r i n y o u r m ind many t i m e s . c a le n d a r i n t h e s c h o o lr o o m .
( 2 ) Mark t h e ( 3 ) A sk y o u r
m o th e r t o r em in d y o u o f t h e s e d a t e s .
(4 )
Make a p e r s o n a l c a le n d a r c o n t a i n i n g t h e s e d a te s. b.
(
)
The b e s t r e a s o n why y o u s h o u ld remember m o th e r on h er b i r t h d a y i s :
(1 ) B e ca u se sh e
m ig h t rem em ber t o g i v e y o u s o m e t h in g .
(2 )
To show h e r how much m oney y o u h a v e s a v e d . (3 )
B ecau se i t
is
a good way t o e n j o y many
p r i v i l e g e s w h ic h y o u n o r m a lly w o u ld n o t .
(4 )
B e c a u s e y o u s h o u ld n o t l e t o t h e r s be
n ic e r c.
( )
t o y o u r m o th er th a n y o u r s e l f *
A go o d w ay t o show y o u r o b e d ie n c e t o y o u r m o th er i s :
( 1 ) To k e e p h e r in fo r m e d a s t o
th e a c t i v i t i e s ly *
o f o t h e r members o f t h e f a m i
( 2 ) To s t a y i n
t h e h o u se w h er e s h e c a n
k e e p h e r e y e s on y o u a t a l l t i m e s , fo r m a l l d u t i e s (4 ) RATING SCALE:
(3 ) p e r
c h e e r f u l l y and p r o m p t ly ,
Run w h en ev e r a f i g h t s t a r t s i n t h e s t r P l a c e a n X i n t h e s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify * a.
( )
You a v o id q u a r r e l i n g w i t h o t h e r s i n t h e .h o m e .
b.
()
You n e v e r make e x c u s e s f o r m is c o n d u c t*
c.
()
You a r e l o y a l t o o t h e r m em bers o f t h e f a m i ly *
d.
()
You n e v e r f o r g e t im p o r t a n t d a t e s t o m oth er*
e*
()
You p e r fo r m d a i l y m ind ed *
(
)
T o ta l*
c h o r e s w ith o u t b e in g r e
29 CHAPTER 5 .
FATHER
HOW TO MAKE FATHER REGARD YOU AS A LITTLE BROTHER A.
MOTIVATION:
Some p o s s i b l e o u tc o m e s o f t h i s t y p e o r r e
l a t i o n s h i p w ith f a t h e r , 1.
COMRADESHIP:
Y ou w i l l f i n d
in y o u r f a t h e r
th e ty p e
o f p a l who u n d e r s t a n d s y o u r e v e r y n e e d and w i l l go o u t o f h i s way t o m e e t th e m . 2.
PRIVILEGES:
You w i l l b e a b l e t o go many p l a c e s and
d o many t h i n g s t o g e t h e r . 3.
PHYSICAL COMFORT: se e to i t
4.
F a th e r i s
t h e b r e a d w in n e r and w i l l
t h a t y o u a r e a d e q u a t e l y p r o v id e d f o r .
BETTER EDUCATION:
It is
p o s s ib le fo r fa th e r to
ta k e
o u t an i n s u r a n c e p o l i c y t h a t w i l l c o v e r y o u r e d u c a tio n B.
th r o u g h c o l l e g e .
DIRECTIONS:
P o in ts to be n o te d in d e a lin g w ith you r f a
th e r . 1.
CONFIDENCE:
How t o d i s c u s s y o u r d a i l y p r o b le m s w i t h
fa th e r . a.
la k e a l i s t s im ila r
o f your p erso n a l d i f f i c u l t i e s ,
t o t h e f o l l o w i n g and p l a n t o a s k y o u r
f a t h e r * s a d v i c e a b o u t them : (1 )
F in d i n g w ork a f t e r tio n .
s c h o o l and d u r in g v a c a
(3 )
B u d g e t in g a l lo w a n c e o r e a r n in g s *
(3 )
D iffic u ltie s
e n c o u n te r e d in t h e s t r e e t s w ith
p la y m a te s . (4 )
D iffic u ltie s
e n c o u n te re d in s c h o o l w ith
p la y m a t e s . (5 )
D iffic u ltie s
e n c o u n te r e d w ith s u b j e c t s in
y o u r s c h o o l* (6 )
F i r s t i n t e r e s t i n m em bers o f t h e o p p o s i t e se x *
b.
(7 )
Scout a f f i li a t io n s
and c l u b s .
(8 )
W ise e x p e n d i t u r e o f l e i s u r e tim e *
O vercom e i n i t i a l f e a r by r e s o r t i n g t o s u c h c o u r t e s ie s as: (1 )
S p e a k in g t o y o u r f a t h e r w h e n e v e r y o u g e t u p i n t h e m o r n in g s .
(8 )
S a y in g g o o d b y w h e n e v e r y o u l e a v e f o r s c h o o l .
(3 )
S a y in g g o o d n ig h t w h e n e v e r y o u r e t i r e f o r bed*
c.
I n v it e your fa th e r
t o v i s i t y o u r s c h o o l and
c la s s r o o m and a s k h i s r e a c t i o n s t o t h e t h i n g s he sa w . RECOGNITION:
How t o make f a t h e r p roud o f y o u .
a.
W r ite a p l a n f o r b a l a n c i n g t h e f a m i l y b u d g e t .
b.
Make a l i s t
o f th in g s t o d is c u s s w ith y o u r f a
t h e r s u c h a s:.
31 (1 )
O c c u p a t io n a l i n t e r e s t s .
(2 )
P la n s f o r l e i s u r e tim e a c t i v i t i e s
and v a c a
tio n . (3 )
A ca d em ic a c h ie v e m e n t s *
(4 )
D e s i r a b l e t y p e o f b e h a v io r f o r c e r t a i n o c c a s io n s .
e.
Make a l i s t
o f t h i n g s y o u s h o u ld d o t o s a v e t im e
and money i n t h e hom e, s u c h a s : (1 )
C a re o f c l o t h e s w hen n o t i n u s e .
(2 )
C o n s e r v in g u t i l i t i e s
(3 )
S h o p p in g w i s e l y f o r t h e f a m i l y .
(4 )
How t o r e d u c e a c c i d e n t s i n t h e hom e.
(5 )
How t o b u i l d u s e f u l t h i n g s f o r t h e hom e.
(6 )
How t o r e p a i r t h i n g s made o f w o o d .
(7 )
How t o r e p a i r e l e c t r i c a l a p p l i a n c e s .
(8 )
How t o m a in t a in t h e body o f a n a u t o m o b i l e .
(9 )
D i s t r i b u t e e q u a l l y d u t i e s i n t h e h om e.
i n t h e hom e.
d.
Draw up p l a n f o r e l i m i n a t i n g f a m i l y w a s t e .
e.
O u t l in e a n i n e x p e n s i v e v a c a t i o n f o r e n t i r e fa m ily .
USEFULNESS:
How t o a s s i s t y o u r f a t h e r
a d e q u a t e ly f o r
in p r o v id in g
t h e hom e.
a.
Go s h o p p in g f o r
th e fa m ily g r o c e r i e s .
b.
Compute e l e c t r i c l i g h t b i l l s fr o m m e t e r s and com p are y o u r c o m p u t a t io n s w i t h b i l l s
s e n t o u t by
e le c tr ic
com pany, t o c h e e k a g a i n s t l e a k s , w a s t e ,
or o v e r c h a r g e . c.
Make p e r s o n a l b u d g e t t o k e e p a c c o u n t o f y o u r i n come and e x p e n s e s .
d.
I n s p e c t y o u r hom e, y a r d , and g a r a g e f o r p o s s i b l e a c c id e n t h a za rd s su ch a s f a u l t y w ir in g , dark h a l l w a y s , d a n g e r o u s s t e p s , and make n e e d e d c o r r e c tio n s .
PRIVILEGES:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r b e h a v io r i n s u c h a
way a s t o g e t s p e c i a l p r i v i l e g e s fro m f a t h e r , a.
Make a l i s t
o f t h i n g s y o u s h o u ld d o t o g e t s p e c
i a l p r i v i l e g e s fro m f a t h e r .
(Y our l i s t
s h o u ld
in c lu d e su ch t h in g s a s th e f o llo w in g r ) (1 )
P e r fo r m a l l a s s ig n m e n t s p r o m p tly and c h e e r fu lly .
(2 )
A v o id su c h u n p l e a s a n t n e s s i n t h e home a s : (a )
Q u a r r e li n g w i t h o t h e r m em bers o f t h e fa m ily .
(b )
F i g h t i n g w i t h o t h e r m em bers o f t h e f a m ily *
(3 )
(c )
S h o w in g e v id e n c e o f d i s h o n e s t y .
(d )
S h o w in g e v i d e n c e o f d i s l o y a l t y .
A v o id s u c h u n p l e a s a n t n e s s i n p u b l i c t h a t w i l l r e f l e c t u p o n t h e home a s : (a )
F ig h t in g i n th e s t r e e t s w ith g a n g s.
33
(b )
B e in g d i s r e s p e c t f u l t o n e i g h b o r s and a d u lt f r ie n d s o f th e fa m ily .
(e )
C o n s t a n t l y b e in g i n t h e com pany o f u n d e s ir a b le gan gs.
(d )
B e in g d e s t r u c t i v e o f com m u n ity p r o p e r ty .
(e)
M aking u n n e c e s s a r y n o i s e i n n e i g h b o r hood.
(f)
D i s c u s s i n g i n t i m a t e f a m i l y p r o b le m s w ith d i s i n t e r e s t e d
C.
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
in d iv id u a ls .
H e l p f u l l e a r n i n g e x p e r i e n c e s w h ic h
w i l l a id you in you r d e a lin g w ith f a t h e r . 1.
USEFULNESS: u res fo r
K eep a n a c c o u n t o f t h e f a m i l y e x p e n d i t
one w eek .
Com pare t h i s w i t h t h e t o t a l i n
come i n t h e f a m i l y . w ith your f a t h e r )
Draw up p l a n s
( to be d is c u s s e d
o f how y o u w o u ld b e s t b u d g e t t h e
f a m i l y in c o m e . 2.
BECOGNITION:
Make a l i s t
t o d o on y o u r v a c a t i o n . p l a c e s y o u w o u ld l i k e
o f t h i n g s y o u w o u ld l i k e I n c lu d e su ch t h in g s a s ,
t o g o , l e n g t h o f s t a y , and
ite m s o f c lo t h in g n eed ed f o r th e t r i p .
I n c lu d e in
t h i s l i s t y o u r p la n s f o r e a r n in g t h e m oney w i t h w h ic h to fin a n c e th e t r i p .
Take t h i s l i s t
fo r your f a t h e r ' s a p p r o v a l.
home w i t h y o u
34 D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f how y o u r m a s t e r y o f t b e l e a r n i n g
e x p e r ie n c e s w i l l be c h e ek ed . 1*
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e a n X i n t h e c o r r e c t s p a c e f o r t r u e
or f a ls e * T . F a.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld n o t t r o u b l e y o u r f a t h e r w i t h s u c h s m a ll m a t t e r s a s f i r s t i n t e r e s t i n m em bers o f t h e o p p o s i t e se x *
b.
( )(
)
Your f a t h e r in te r e s te d
is
g e n e r a l l y t o o b u sy t o b e
in you r p la n s f o r l e i s u r e
tim e a c t i v i t i e s * c*
( )(
)
You c a n a s s i s t y o u r f a t h e r
by m ak in g a
p e r s o n a l b u d g e t an d k e e p in g a n a c c o u n t o f y o u r e a r n in g s and e x p e n d i t u r e s . 2.
BEST ANSWER:
P l a c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
A good w ay t o make y o u r f a t h e r p rou d o f y o u is
to :
tim e s . (3 )
( 1 ) K eep y o u r c l o t h e s c l e a n a t a l l (2 )
Go t o s c h o o l on tim e e a c h d a y v
W r it e a p l a n f o r b a l a n c i n g t h e f a m i l y
b u d g e t.
( 4 ) Whip e v e r y o n e who s t a r t s a
f i g h t w ith y o u . b.
( )
You c a n b e s t a s s i s t y o u r f a t h e r
in p r o v id
i n g a d e q u a t e l y f o r t h e home b y:
(1 ) S e l l
i n g p a p e r s on t h e s t r e e t c o r n e r .
(2 )
I n s p e c t i n g home s u r r o u n d in g s f o r p o s s i b l e a c c i d e n t h a z a r d s an d m ak in g n e e d e d c o r r e c t io n s . (4 )
( 3 ) C o u n tin g h i s m oney on p a y d a y .
K e e p in g t h e f a m i l y c a r w a sh e d an d p o l
is h e d . RATING SCALE:
P la c e a n X i n t h e s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify . a.
()
You c a n d i s c u s s f r e e l y a n y s u b j e c t w i t h f a th e r .
b.
()
Y our f a t h e r
is
e x t r e m e ly p ro u d o f y o u r c o n
d u c t. c.
()
You p e r fo r m a l l d u t i e s c h e e r f u l l y and p r o m p t ly .
d.
()
You a r e l o y a l t o a l l m em bers o f t h e f a m i l y .
e.
()
You c a n sh o p w i s e l y f o r t h e f a m i l y .
f -
()
Y our f a t h e r c a n t r u s t y o u i n m a t t e r s o f im p o r ta n c e .
(
)
T o ta l.
36 CHAPTER 6 .
SISTER
HOW TO MAINTAIN A WHOLESOME RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SISTER A.
MOTIVATIONS:
R ew ards- o r p o s s i b l e o u tc o m e s a s a r e s u l t
o f t h is stu d y . 1.
EMOTIONAL STABILITY:
Many o f t h e f r u s t r a t i o n s i n t h e
home a r i s e fro m d i f f i c u l t i e s
i n c o n n e c t i o n w i t h som e
u n h e a lt h y r e l a t i o n s h i p w i t h y o u r s i s t e r . 3.
MORE FUN:
T here i s
no l i m i t t o t h e a c t i v i t i e s
th a t
c a n he p la n n e d i n t h e home w i t h y o u r s i s t e r . . 3*
HAPPIER HOME LIFE:
Your s i s t e r
c a n make l i f e
q u ite
e n j o y a b l e f o r y o u a ro u n d t h e h o u s e a s s h e v e r y o f t e n t a k e s t h e p l a c e o f m o th er i n p r e p a r in g t h e m e a ls and a t te n d in g t o fa m ily c h o r e s . 4.
A FAITHFUL FRIEND:
S i s t e r w i l l g e n e r a l l y com e t o
y o u r r e s c u e , n o m a t t e r w h a t t h e s i t u a t i o n m ig h t b e* B.
DIRECTIONS:
Key p o i n t s t o g u id e y o u i n y o u r d e a l i n g s
w ith you r s i s t e r . 1*
CHEERFULNESS:
How t o d i s p l a y a n o b l i g i n g a t t i t u d e
in th e p r e se n c e o f your s i s t e r ,
e v e n i f w o r r ie s
and d i s t a s t e f u l d u t i e s make y o u f e e l o u t o f s o r t s , a.
Make a l i s t
o f m em orab le d a t e s w h er e s i s t e r
is
c o n c e r n e d and p la n on e i n t e r e s t i n g t h i n g t o do on t h a t d a t e .
The f o l l o w i n g i s
a n e x a m p le :
(1 )
Your s i s t e r ' s
(2 )
b ir th d a y .
(a )
Send a b i r t h d a y g r e e t i n g .
(b )
I n v i t e h er o u t t o d in n e r .
S t . V a l e n t i n e ' s d ay* (a )
Send a n a p p r o p r i a t e g r e e t i n g o n t h i s d a te .
(b ) (3 )
b.
P la n a d in n e r or a t h e a t e r p a r t y .
C h r is tm a s d a y . (a )
Send a C h r is tm a s g r e e t i n g on t h i s d a t e .
(b )
Remember y o u r s i s t e r
on f a m i l y t r e e .
P la n a s c h o o l p a r t y and i n v i t e y o u r s i s t e r
as
your g u e st fo r th e day. c.
Show t h e sam e c o u r t e s i e s t o y o u r s i s t e r
in p u b lic
a s y o u w o u ld y o u r g i r l f r i e n d o r s w e e t h e a r t . d.
T reat your s is t e r
t o h e r lu n c h a t s c h o o l ,
i f your
e a r n in g s e x c e e d h e r a l lo w a n c e f o r t h e w e e k . LOYALTY:
How t o p r o v e t o y o u r s i s t e r
th a t you can be
tr u ste d . a.
Make a l i s t your s i s t e r ,
o f d i s l o y a l a c t s i n c o n n e c tio n w ith and u s e them a s a c o n s t a n t c h e c k on
y o u r b e h a v io r i n d e a l i n g w i t h h e r . is (1 )
a n e x a m p le o f how y o u r l i s t
The f o l l o w i n g
s h o u ld l o o k :
S h i f t i n g th e r e s p o n s i b i l i t y f o r any d i f f i c u l t i e s a r is in g in s c h o o l.
(2 )
S h if tin g th e r e s p o n s ib ilit y
f o r an y
d iffic u ltie s (3 )
a r is in g in th e s t r e e t .
R e f u s i n g t o a ssu m e y o u r r e s p o n s i b i l i t y f o r d u t i e s arou n d t h e hom e.
(4 )
B o r r o w in g money w i t h n o i n t e n t i o n s it
(5 )
o f p a y in g
back.
A llo w in g h e r t o b e r i d i c u l e d
b y members o f
your gang. (6 )
F o r g e t t in g to a f f o r d her a l l th e c o u r t e s ie s o f a l a d y w hen i n p u b l i c .
b.
I n v i t e y o u r s i s t e r ‘ t o j o i n y o u f o r s c h o o l lu n c h and k e e p t h e a p p o in t m e n t .
c.
Make a c h e c k l i s t your s i s t e r
QUARRELING:
o f a l l o f your o b lig a tio n s to
a s a m eans o f n o t f o r g e t t i n g .
How t o k e e p y o u r i r r i t a b l e and i m p a t i e n t
th o u g h ts t o y o u r s e lf . a.
A v o id j o k i n g or te a m in g i f y o u a r e l i k e l y
to g e t
e m o tio n a lly u p s e t i n th e e n d . b.
R e c a l l a l l t h e u n p l e a s a n t t h i n g s t h a t h a v e h ap p e n e d o r c o u ld h ap p en i n t h e home and make a l i s t o f t h e t h i n g s t h a t m ig h t b e d o n e t o a v e r t i t s recurrence. your l i s t
The f o l l o w i n g i s
a n e x a m p le o f how
s h o u ld lo o k ::
(1 )
B o r r o w in g w i t h no i n t e n t i o n s o f r e p a y i n g .
(2 )
L ack o f s p o r t s m a n s h ip a t p l a y .
(3 )
T e a s in g w i t h o u t b e in g a b l e t o t a k e a jo k e *
39 (4 )
B e in g h a b i t u a l l y l a t e f o r m e a ls *
(5 )
D e lib e r a t e ly m is r e p r e s e n tin g th e tr u th *
(6 )
F e e lin g o f s u p e r io r ity b eca u se o f s e x .
(7 )
R e m a in in g i n bed a f t e r
(8 )
F o r g e ttin g to
(9 )
F o r g e t t i n g t o t i d y up room b e f o r e l e a v i n g *
say,
b e in g c a l l e d .
" E x c u se me p l e a s e . "
(R em em ber, h o u s e h o ld d u t i e s a r e f o r b o y s , t o o , a s w e ll as g i r l s ) ♦ 4.
PRIVACY:
How t o r e s p e c t t h e p r i v a c y o f y o u r s i s t e r .
a.
P r a c t i c e k n o c k in g on a l l doors b e f o r e e n t e r i n g *
b.
A v o id su c h u n p l e a s a n t n e s s t h a t m ig h t a r i s e o u t o f s u c h b e h a v io r a s :: (1 )
R e a d in g y o u r s i s t e r * s m a i l .
(2 )
U s in g t o i l e t a r t i c l e s w i t h o u t p e r m i s s i o n .
(3 )
L o o k in g o v e r h e r s h o u l d e r s w h i l e s h e i s r e a d i n g p e r s o n a l m a i l or n e w sp a p er *
(4 )
L o o k in g o v e r h e r s h o u l d e r s w h i l e s h e i s w r itin g .
(5 ) C.
A s k in g p e r s o n a l q u e s t i o n s a b o u t d a t e s .
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s w h ic h w i l l
a i d y o u i n e s t a b l i s h i n g a w h o le so m e r e l a t i o n s h i p w i t h S is te r * 1.
ATTENTIVE:
G iv e a s c h o o l d in n e r d a n c e and i n v i t e
your s i s t e r
a s your d a t e .
o c c a s io n ,
ch eck her c o a t ,
O rder a c o r s a g e f o r t h e s e a t her a t th e t a b l e
40 b e fo r e ta k in g you r s e a t , dan ce, 2.
j u s t a s y o u w o u ld y o u r r e g u l a r d a t e .
LOYALTY: lo y a lty
R e c a ll c a s e s w h ere y o u have e x h ib it e d d i s to your s is t e r
tu te s fo r D.
g i v e h e r t h e f i r s t and l a s t
EVALUATION:
th is
And w r i t e a l i s t
o f s u b s ti
ty p e o f b e h a v io r .
S a m p les o f som e o f t h e w a y s i n w h ic h y o u r
m a ste ry o f th e le a r n in g e x p e r ie n c e s w i l l b e c h e c k e d . 1.
TRUE-FALSE;
P la c e an X i n t h e c o r r e c t s p a c e f o r tr u e
or f a l s e . T a.
( )(
F )
You s h o u ld k e e p c l o s e c h e c k on y o u r s i s t e r w hen s h e h a s a d a t e a s g i r l s a r e i n c a p a b le o f ta k in g c a r e o f th e m s e lv e s ,
b*
( )(
)
A go o d w ay t o a v o id q u a r r e l i n g w i t h y o u r s is te r
c.
( )(
)
is
t o k e e p h er i n h e r p l a c e ,
The w ord p r i v a c y h a s no y o u r b r o t h e r and s i s t e r
2.
BEST ANSWER:
m ea n in g w h e r e is
concerned.
P la c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
A
good way t o p r o v e t o y o u r s i s t e r
can be tr u s t e d to
s c h o o l.
her.
is :
( 1 ) To
th a t you
c a r r y her b ook s
( 2 ) K e e p in g h e r lu n c h m oney f o r
( 3 ) K e e p in g s e c r e t s a b o u t f i g h t s a t
s c h o o l.
( 4 ) A ssu m in g y o u r r e s p o n s i b i l i t y
f o r d u t i e s a r o u n d t h e home w i t h o u t b e i n g
to ld b.
( )
or r e m in d e d t o d o s o .
When t a k i n g y o u r s i s t e r t h e e v e n i n g , y o u sh o u ld ::
o u t a s your g u e st fo r ( 1 ) Buy a c o r s a g e
j u s t a s y o u w o u ld y o u r r e g u l a r d a t e . See to i t
(2 )
t h a t s h e d o e s n o t m e e t t h e w ro n g
k in d o f p e o p l e .
( 3 ) N ot k e e p l a t e h o u r s a s
s h e m ig h t d e v e l o p bad h a b i t s .
( 4 ) P la n t o
i n t r o d u c e h e r t o som e n i c e f e l l o w
as a fu
tu r e d a te . RATING SCALE:
P l a c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify . a.
( ) You a r e prom pt f o r a l l e n g a g e m e n t s .
b.
( ) You a r e a t t e n t i v e a t a l l t i m e s .
c.
( ) You
a r e c h e e r f u l i n d o in g f a v o r s .
d.
( ) You
a r e c o u r te o u s in c o n v e r s a tio n s .
e.
( ) You n e v e r s t a r t a n a r g u m e n t,
f.
( ) Your w ord i s y o u r b o n d .
(
) T o ta l.
even in fu n .
42 CHAPTER 7 *
BROTHER
HOW TO MAINTAIN A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BROTHER A.
MOTIVATION:
B e n e f i t s t h a t may r e s u l t fro m a b e a u t i f u l
r e l a t io n s h ip w ith you r b r o th e r . 1.
COMRADESHIP:
No f r i e n d s h i p
c a n b e m ore p r o f i t a b l e
th a n t h a t o f a s i n c e r e b r o t h e r . 2.
UNDERSTANDING:
Your b r o t h e r i s ,
i n m o st i n s t a n c e s
i n a p o s i t i o n t o u n d e r s t a n d and a p p r e c i a t e many o f th e d i f f i c u l t i e s you e n c o u n te r in y o u r d a i l y r o u t in e . 3.
HAPPIER HOME LIFE: s h ip i s
I f th e d e s ir e d ty p e o f r e l a t i o n
e s t a b l i s h e d an d m a i n t a i n e d , a l l o f t h e r e
p a i r w ork and many o f t h e f a m i l y c h o r e s a r o u n d t h e h o u se w i l l be h is r e s p o n s i b i l i t y . 4.
MORE PRIVILEGES: , Your b r o t h e r o f t t i m e s c a n s e r v e a s an e x c e l l e n t s u p e r v is o r w h en ever d a t e s a r e n o t a v a i l a b le .
B.
DIRECTIONS:
Some h e l p f u l s u g g e s t i o n s o r t h i n g s t o l o o k
f o r i n d e a lin g w ith you r b r o t h e r . 1.
PRIVACY: a.
How t o r e s p e c t t h e p r i v a c y o f y o u r b r o t h e r ,
Mark o f f s e c t i o n o f c la s s r o o m t o make i t
lo o k
l i k e y o u r b r o t h e r ’ s bedroom and p r a c t i c e k n o c k in g on t h e d o o r b e f o r e g a i n i n g e n t r a n c e . (1 )
P r a c t ic e p la c in g your b r o th e r ’ s p e r s o n a l
m a il i n h i s room* (2 )
P la c e c l e a n l i n e n in g a n y th in g e l s e
b.
i n t h e room w i t h o u t t o u c h
o f p r iv a te n a tu re ,
A v o id s u c h p r a c t i c e s a s t h e f o l l o w i n g : : (1 )
H e a d in g p e r s o n a l m a i l .
(2 )
L o o k in g o v e r h i s
s h o u ld e r s w h ile r e a d in g th e
n ew sp ap er. (3 )
A s k in g p e r s o n a l q u e s t i o n s a b o u t h i s f r i e n d s , d a te s,
or w h e r e a b o u ts.
(4 )
s e a r c h in g h is p o c k e ts .
(5 )
L is t e n in g to p e r s o n a l te le p h o n e c a l l s .
(6 )
U s in g t o i l e t a r t i c l e s w i t h o u t p e r m i s s i o n .
QUARRELING:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n s u c h a m anner
a s t o a v o id u n p l e a s a n t n e s s w h e r e b r o t h e r i s a.
A v o id j o k i n g or t e a s i n g i f
concerned.
you a r e l i k e l y
to g et
e m o tio n a lly u p s e t in th e en d . b.
R e c a l l s u c h u n p l e a s a n t a c t s i n t h e home t h a t h a v e le d
t o an a r g u m e n t, and make a l i s t
m ig h t do t o a v e r t i t s is (1 )
t h e way y o u r l i s t
recurrence.
o f th in g s you The f o l l o w i n g
s h o u ld lo o k ::
N ev er b o rro w money w i t h o u t som e d e f i n i t e p l a n f o r r e im b u r s e m e n t.
(2 )
E x h i b i t s p o r t s m a n s h ip a t p l a y .
(3 )
I n s i s t i n g upon f o llo w in g b r o th e r w h erev er he g o es.
44 (4 )
R e p o r t in g a l l o f b i s a c t i v i t i e s
to your p a r
e n ts • 3.
RESPECT: a*
Hdw t o command t h e r e s p e c t o f y o u r b r o t h e r *
R e c a l l i n s t a n c e s o f i m p o l i t e and r u d e c o n d u c t and make a l i s t in g g u i l t y
o f t h i n g s y o u s h o u ld do t o a v o id b e o f t h e sam e t h i n g s .
Y our 11s t s h o u ld
i n c l u d e s u c h t h i n g s as:: (1 )
A p p e a r in g b e f o r e y o u r b r o t h e r im p r o p e r ly c la d .
(2 )
Com ing t o t h e t a b l e i n n i g h t c l o t h e s .
(3 )
H a b it u a l u s e o f v u lg a r l a n g u a g e .
(4 )
C a r e le s s n e s s w ith p e r s o n a l b o d ily f u n c t io n s .
(5 )
T e llin g d ir ty
s t o r i e s or m a k in g o f f - c o l o r
» w i s e - c r a c k s , ” i n t h e p r e s e n c e o f com pany. (6 )
C a r e le s s n e s s w ith d r e s s .
(7 )
T a l k i n g i n a l o u d , and r u d e v o i c e .
(8 )
S m ok in g o r d r i n k i n g i n t h e s t r e e t s .
(9 )
B e in g d i s r e s p e c t f u l or d i s o b e d i e n t t o p a r e n ts.
b.
Em ploy t h e u s e o f t h e g o ld e n r u l e i n a l l y o u r d e a lin g s w ith your b r o th e r . (1 )
T a lk t o him a s y o u w o u ld h a v e him t a l k t o you*
(2 )
D r e s s i n h i s p r e s e n c e a s y o u w o u ld l i k e t o w ea r h i s c l o t h e s .
him
45 (3 )
C on d u ct y o u r s e l f i n h i s p r e s e n c e i n a m anner i n w h ic h y o u w o u ld h a v e him a c t i n y o u r p resen ce*
4*
LOYALTY: a.
How t o w in t h e c o n f i d e n c e o f y o u r b r o t h e r ♦
I n f l a t e h i s e g o by r e q u e s t i n g h i s a d v i c e a b o u t some o f y o u r l e s s e r
b.
p e r s o n a l p r o b le m s .
Show y o u r w i l l i n g n e s s t o c o o p e r a t e w i t h him by p la n n i n g w a y s o f e q u a l l y d i s t r i b u t i n g t h e d u t i e s i n t h e home* (1 )
Make s c h e d u l e f o r
c le a n in g k itc h e n a f t e r
m e a ls .
C.
(2 )
S u g g e s t p la n s f o r
(3 )
Make p l a n f o r b u d g e t i n g in co m e o r e a r n i n g s .
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
g e n e r a l h o u se c le a n in g .
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d y o u i n
b u ild in g th e d e s ir a b le r e l a t i o n s h i p w ith y o u r b r o t h e r . 1.
RESPECT:
G iv e a s c h o o l d in n e r d a n c e and i n v i t e y o u r
b r o th e r a s you r d a te .
Show him how y o u w o u ld l i k e
t o b e t r e a t e d by y o u r c h o i c e o f d r e s s f o r
th e o c c a s
i o n , y o u r c h o i c e o f c o n v e r s a t i o n a t t h e d in n e r t a b l e , t h e way i n w h ic h y o u a c c e p t or r e f u s e d a n c e s , and y o u r c o n d u c t i n g e n e r a l th r o u g h t h e e n t i r e e v e n i n g . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f w a y s i n w h ic h .your m a s t e r y o f t h e
le a r n in g e x p e r ie n c e s w i l l b e c h e ck ed . 1.
TRUE FALSE:
P la c e an X i n th e c o r r e c t s p a c e f o r t r u e
or f a l s e . T a.
( )(
F ) It
is
fla tte r in g
t o y o u r b r o t h e r t o be
c o n s u l t e d a b o u t som e o f y o u r p e r s o n a l p r o b le m s . b.
( )(
) If
your b r o th e r i s your g u e s t fo r a d a n ce,
h e s h o u ld b e a c c o r d e d t h e sam e r e s p e c t a s you r boy f r i e n d . c.
( )(
) You s h o u ld n o t b o t h e r a b o u t p r o p e r d r e s s i n t h e home..
BEST ANSWER:
P l a c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
It is
n o t good t a s t e f o r y o u t o :
w ith your b r o th e r a t t h e
d in n e r t a b l e .
Smoke i n y o u r b r o t h e r * s b ed room . i n y o u r p e r s o n a l b ed ro o m .
(1 ) Q uarrel
(3 )
(2 ) Smoke
(4 ) I n v it e your
b r o th e r a s a d a te f o r a dan ce* b.
( )
When a t t e m p t i n g g e n e r a l h o u s e c l e a n i n g , y o u s h o u ld :
(1 )
v a n c e how i t
P la n w i t h y o u r b r o t h e r i n a d c o u ld b e s t b e d o n e .
ber t h a t h o u se c le a n in g i s f o r
( 2 ) Remem
g ir ls .
(3 )
A sk y o u r b r o t h e r t o do o n ly t h e h e a v y d u t i e s a s m o v in g f u r n i t u r e .
(4 ) A rrange th e f u r n i
t u r e a f t e r y o u r b r o t h e r h a s d on e t h e w o r k . RATING SCALE:
P la c e a n X i n
e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify . a.
( )
You n e v e r t e l l d i r t y s t o r i e s
or " w is e
crack. " b.
( )
You n e v e r r e a d p e r s o n a l m a i l .
c.
( )
You d r e s s p r o p e r ly a t a l l t i m e s .
d.
( )
You d i s p l a y
c o u r t e s y and r e s p e c t
at a ll
tim e s . e .. ( )
You a v o id u s a g e o f v u lg a r l a n g u a g e and lo u d v o i c e .
(
)
T o ta l.
PART I I I .
THE PUBLIC
HOW TO LIVE HAPPILY WITH THE PEOPLE IN PUBLIC PLACES W henever y o u s t e p o u t o f t h e h o u s e , y o u n o t o n l y r e p r e s e n t y o u r s e l f b u t y o u r f a m i l y and e v e r y o n e who h a s a n i n t e r e s t in you . You h a v e s e e n how y o u r a p p e a r a n c e , t h e t h i n g s y o u s a y , t h e w ay y o u s a y i t , and y o u r c o n d u c t i n g e n e r a l w i l l b e t h e b a s i s o f o p i n i o n s form ed o f y o u . T h is b e i n g t r u e , y o u c a n r e a d i l y s e e how y o u r c o n d u c t i n p u b l i c i s o f e x tr e m e im p o r ta n c e. I f , w h e n e v e r y o u a r e o u t i n p u b l i c ; w h e th e r i n t h e s t r e e t s , on p u b l i c t r a n s p o r t a t i o n , i n p u b l i c e a t i n g h o u s e s , on t h e b e a c h or a t t e n d i n g some s p o r t e v e n t , y o u w o u ld r e g a r d y o u r s e l f a s a n a c t o r on t h e s t a g e p e r fo r m in g b e f o r e a n a u d i e n c e t h i s w o u ld n o t b e a n e x a g g e r a t i o n . E v e r y t h in g y o u s a y o r do o u t o f t h e home w i l l b e n o t i c e d by so m e o n e . I f you a r e e x p e r ie n c in g d i f f i c u l t y i n c h o o s in g th e d e s ir a b le ty p e o f b e h a v io r i n p u b l i c p l a c e s , y o u s h o u ld a v a i l y o u r s e l f o f t h e s u g g e s t i o n s fo u n d i n t h i s s e c t i o n .
49 CHAPTER 8 .
THE STREET
HOW TO CONDUCT YOURSELF IN THE STREET SO AS TO BE PLEASING TO OTHERS A.
MOTIVATION:
R ew ard s w h ic h a r e p r o m ise d and so m e tim e s
c la im e d a s a r e s u l t o f t h i s 1.
SOCIAL APPROVAL: th e s tr e e ts *
stu d y .
You a r e on d i s p l a y w hen y o u a r e i n
and t h e t h i n g s y o u do w i l l r e f l e c t on
y o u a s w e l l a s y o u r hom e. 2.
SAFETY:
W h eth er d r i v i n g or w a l k i n g , y o u r a w a r e n e s s
o f o th e r s a b o u t you w i l l g r e a tly red u ce a c c id e n ts . 3.
RESPECT:
You w i l l b e a b l e t o command r e s p e c t o f
you e n c o u n te r B.
DIRECTIONS:
a ll
a s a r e s u l t s o f y o u r own b e h a v i o r .
H e lp fu l s u g g e s tio n s t o a id you i n your
a sso
c i a t i o n s w ith o t h e r s i n th e s t r e e t s . 1.
COURTESY:
How t o d i s p l a y
th e ty p e o f c o u r te s y th a t
w i l l show y o u up t o a good a d v a n t a g e i n t h e s t r e e t s . a.
G r e e t y o u r a c q u a i n t a n c e s c o r d i a l l y and q u i e t l y ,
b.
A v o id w h i s p e r i n g i n p u b l i c .
c.
O b se r v e s a f e t y r u l e s w hen d r i v i n g i n t h e s t r e e t . (1 )
G iv e s i g n a l s c l e a r and d i s t i n c t .
(2 )
S ta y in you r l a n e .
( 3 ) D o n 't t r y (4 ) (5 ) d.
to ru sh th e l i g h t s .
K eep y o u r e y e s o p e n and a l e r t t o e v e r y t h i n g . U s e y o u r h o rn o n l y w hen n e c e s s a r y .
Show t h e l a d i e s u tm o s t r e s p e c t a t a l l t i m e s .
(1 )
W alk on t h e o u t s i d e , w h e th e r w i t h o n e o r tw o l a d i e s *
(3 )
R em ove y o u r h a t w hen t a l k i n g w i t h l a d i e s .
(3 )
O f f e r y o u r arm w hen n e c e s s a r y .
(N e v e r t a k e
a l a d y by t h e a r m ). (4 )
Open d o o r s w hen e n t e r i n g a b u i l d i n g .
(5 )
Open d o o r s w hen g e t t i n g o u t o f t h e c a r .
(6 )
P ic k up a r t i c l e s
(7 )
C arry p a c k a g e s .
(8 )
Be c a r e f u l o f y o u r l a n g u a g e ,
t h a t m ig h t b e d r o p p e d .
to n e o f v o ic e ,
and c o n v e r s a t i o n . MANNERS: a.
How t o
show g o o d m an n ers i n t h e s t r e e t s .
D r e ss a p p r o p r ia te f o r th e s e c tio n o f t h is
b.
s t r e e t w ear a s d e s c r i b e d
s y lla b u s d e a lin g w ith d r e s s .
W alk e r e c t and w e l l - p o i s e d .
(P o stu r e d e n o te s
your c h a r a c te r ). c.
in
A v o id s u c h i l l - m a n n e r e d a c t s a s : (1
C h ew in g gum i n t h e s t r e e t s .
(2
E a t in g f o o d i n t h e s t r e e t .
(3
V is it in g in th e s t r e e t s .
(4
R u n n in g i n t h e s t r e e t s .
(5
T a lk in g or la u g h in g lo u d ly i n t h e s t r e e t s .
(6
U s in g v u l g a r i t y .
(7
M aking l o v e i n
(8
D r in k in g i n t h e s t r e e t s .
th e s t r e e t s .
(9 )
S m ok in g i n t h e s t r e e t s .
INTOXICATION: a llo w in g i t a.
(E s p e c ia lly l a d i e s ) .
How t o t a k e a s o c i a b l e d r i n k w i t h o u t
to in flu e n c e you r con d u ct in th e s t r e e t s .
R e c a l l many i n s t a n c e s o f u n p l e a s a n t n e s s y o u h a v e e n c o u n te r e d w ith in t o x ic a t e d p e o p le i n th e s t r e e t s and c h e c k t o s e e i f y o u may b e g u i l t y o f t h e sa m e.
b.
Make a l i s t
o f t h i n g s t h a t c o u l d h ap p en t o o n e i n
t h e s t r e e t s who h a s in d u lg e d t o o h e a v i l y and u s e it
a s a s t a n d a r d f o r y o u r own b e h a v i o r .
Y our l i s t
s h o u ld i n c l u d e s u c h t h i n g s a s t h e f o l l o w i n g : (1 )
A c c id e n t w h i l e d r iv in g #
(2 )
D is r e g a r d f o r th e f e e l i n g s
(3 )
E m b arrassm en t t o y o u r s e l f and f r i e n d s .
(4 )
D i s g r a c e t o f a m i l y and l o v e d o n e s .
(5 )
D is r e g a r d f o r m ora l c o n d u c t.
BOISTEROUSNESS:
o f o th e rs.
How t o show y o u r s e l f up t o a good
a d v a n ta g e in th e s t r e e t s . a.
T a lk i n a lo w m o d e r a te t o n e a t a l l t i m e s .
b.
C o n v e r s e w i t h f r i e n d s and a c q u a i n t a n c e s o n l y a t a sh o rt d is ta n c e .
c.
A v o id lo u d la u g h in g or m a k in g j o k e s i n t h e str e e t.
d.
P la c e y o u r hands on l a d i e s
o n l y w hen o f f e r i n g
a s s i s t a n c e i n som e w a y . POLITENESS:
How t o c a l l d e s i r a b l e a t t e n t i o n t o
y o u r s e lf w h ile in th e s t r e e t s . i
a.
R em ove y o u r h a t w hen t a l k i n g t o l a d i e s .
b.
T o s s aw ay c i g a r e t t e s w hen t a l k i n g t o l a d i e s ,
e.
A s s i s t w i t h p a c k a g e s and o t h e r i p e r s o n a l b e lo n g in g s .
d.
O ff e r y o u r arm w hen c r o s s i n g t h e s t r e e t s .
e.
W a it u n t i l t h e w ay i s
c l e a r b e f o r e m ak in g
tu r n s
w h ile d r iv in g in th e s t r e e t . f.
Open d o o r s and o f f e r y o u r arm t o l a d i e s .
CONVERSATION:
How t o t a l k t o p e o p le y o u m e e t i n t h e
str e e t. a.
U s e a q u i e t and lo w v o i c e .
b.
Rem ove y o u r h a t w h i l e t a l k i n g .
c.
T o s s away c i g a r e t t e s
d.
Make c o n v e r s a t i o n s h o r t and t o t h e p o i n t .
e.
A v o id w h i s p e r i n g w h i l e i n t h e s t r e e t s .
in th e p r e se n c e o f l a d i e s .
SOURCES FOR THIS CHAPTER:
W here t o g e t f u r t h e r
a s s is ta n c e . a.
B e tz , B. :
Y our M anners a r e s h o w in g .
D u n la p P u b l i s h e r s , New Y o rk , 1 9 4 6 . b.
D u n le y s , N . :
T he C o u r t e s y B o o k .
Com pany, C h ic a g o , 1 9 2 7 , c.
P o s t , E m ily :
E tiq u e tt.
G r o s s e t and PP.
5 6 -5 9 .
B e c k le y - C a r d y
PP. 5 0 - 6 1 . Funk and W a g n a lls Comp
a n y P u b l i s h e r s , New Y o r k , 1 9 4 2 ,
PP. 4 9 - 5 3 .
53 C.
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
Some l e a r n i n g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d
y o u i n m ak in g a d e s i r a b l e i m p r e s s i o n o n p e o p l e i n
th e
str e e t. 1.
COURTESY: to w n .
T ak e a t r i p
t o th e b u sy s e c t i o n
o f th e
I f a d e q u a t e .p r iv a t e t r a n s p o r t a t io n i s n o t
a v a i l a b l e , r e n t o r b orrow sam e f o r
th is
o c c a s io n .
O b ser v e c o u r t e s y la w s i n d r i v i n g th r o u g h t h e s t r e e t . P ark a u t o and w a lk o n e b l o c k th r o u g h t h e b u sy s e c t i o n o f to w n .
A dhere t o a c t s o f c o u r te s y a s o u t lin e d i n
th e d ir e c tio n s e c t io n . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f t h e w ay i n w h ic h y o u r m a s t e r y o f
th e le a r n in g e x p e r ie n c e s w i l l be c h e c k e d . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e an X i n th e c o r r e c t sp a c e f o r tr u e
or f a l s e . T
F
a.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld n o t l o i t e r
b.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld n e v e r t a k e a w o m a n s arm i n
on t h e s t r e e t s .
th e s t r e e t . c.
( )(
)
T ip p in g y o u r h a t i s
o u t d a t e d and u n n e c e s
sary. 2.
BEST ANSWER:
P l a c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw er i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
A g o o d w ay t o show y o u r s e l f up t o a good a d v a n ta g e in t h e s t r e e t s la u g h in g to o lo u d ly .
(2 )
is r
(1 )
A v o id
D ress in th e
la te s t
s ty le *
of you. b.
( )
( 3 ) K eep y o u r e y e s i n f r o n t
( 4 ) S p ea k t o e v e r y o n e y o u m e e t ,
In t a lk in g w ith p e o p le in s h o u ld :
th e s t r e e t ,
you
( 1 ) U s e a q u i e t an d lo w v o i c e .
N e v er c a l l them by t h e i r f i r s t nam e. R em ind them t h a t i t
(2 )
(3 )
i s n o t go o d t a s t e *
(4 )
P ro n o u n ce y o u r w o r d s d i s t i n c t l y . RATING SCALE:
P la c e an X i n t h e s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify . a.
(
You rem o v e y o u r h a t w hen t a l k i n g t o l a d i e s .
b.
(
Your v o i c e i s
c.
(
You o b ey t h e s a f e t y r u l e s i n d r i v i n g .
a.
(
Your c o n v e r s a t i o n s a r e s h o r t and t o t h e
q u i e t and lo w a t a l l t i m e s .
p o in t. e.
(
You g i v e d i r e c t i o n s t o s t r a n g e r s c o u r t e o u s l y
f*
(
You t o s s away c i g a r e t t e s w hen t a l k i n g t o la d ie s . You a v o i d d r i n k i n g or sm o k in g i n t h e s t r e e t s T o ta l.
55 CHAPTER 9 .
THE STREET CAR
HO1# TO TRAVEL ON THE STREET CAR WITH A MINIMUM OF FRUSTRATION A.
MOTIVATION:
V a lu e s w h ic h y o u may e x p e c t i f y o u l e a r n t o
t r a v e l c o m f o r t a b ly on t h e s t r e e t c a r # 1.
COMFORT:
You w i l l n o t b e u p s e t an d n e r v o u s w hen
rea ch your d e s t in a t io n a s a
you
r e s u l t o f a tir e s o m e
tr ip * 2.
SAFETY:
Your c h a n c e s f o r r e a c h i n g y o u r d e s t i n a t i o n
w i t h o u t c a u s i n g harm t o y o u r s e l f and o t h e r s w i l l b e g r e a te r . 3*
MEETING OLD FRIENDS:
T h e r e i s a lw a y s t h e p o s s i b i l i t y
o f m e e t in g o l d f r i e n d s and c h a t t i n g w h i l e e n r o u t e , t h u s m a k in g y o u r t r i p m ore e n j o y a b l e . 4.
CONVENIENCE:
It
s a v e s w ea r
by b e i n g a b l e t o u s e p u b l i c B.
DIRECTIONS:
and t e a r o n y o u r own c a r tr a n s p o r ta tio n .
Some h e l p f u l s u g g e s t i o n s on how t o t r a v e l
by s t r e e t c a r . 1.
THE CONDUCTOR;
How t o make t r a n s a c t i o n s w i t h t h e
co n d u cto r w ith o u t b e in g o f f e n s i v e . a.
H ave y o u r c o r r e c t c h a n g e i n y o u r hand w hen y o u e n ter th e c a r .
b.
P la c e ch a n g e i n f a r e b o x .
c.
A v o id t a l k i n g t o
c o n d u c to r w h i l e c a r i s
i n m o t io n .
56 d. 2.
Know w h a t y o u w a n t w h en y o u a s k f o r i n f o r m a t i o n .
PASSENGERS:
How t o
ta k e an e n jo y a b le t r i p on th e
s t r e e t c a r w i t h o u t b e i n g o f f e n s i v e t o t h o s e w i t h whom you c o n t a c t . a.
T ake y o u r s e a t q u i c k l y .
b.
P e r m it l a d i e s t o
c.
e n te r f i r s t .
Be s u r e t h a t y o u r b a g g a g e or b u n d le s a r e n o t
mo
n o p o l i z i n g a s e a t t h a t som eon e s h o u ld h a v e . d.
3.
A v o id s u c h d i s t a s t e f u l a c t s as:: (1 )
C r u n c h in g c a n d y .
(2 )
C h ew in g gum.
(3 )
B a tin g f r u i t .
(4 )
T a lk in g o r l a u g h i n g l o u d .
(5 )
S p r e a d in g y o u r n e w sp a p e r a l l
(6 )
R e a d in g o v e r p a s s e n g e r s * s h o u l d e r s .
(7 )
P u s h in g i n t h e c a r .
over th e s e a t .
(8 )
A s k in g p a s s e n g e r s f o r
(9 )
S m ok in g o r d r i n k i n g on t h e e a r .
READING:
in fo r m a tio n .
How t o am use y o u r s e l f w h i l e r i d i n g on t h e
car. a.
F o ld y o u r n e w sp a p e r n e a t l y f o u r t i m e s and h o ld i t d ir e c tly
b*
in fr o n t o f y o u .
H old y o u r m a g a z in e o r b o o k i n y o u r l a p o r i n f r o n t o f , you.
c.
R ead t o y o u r s e l f .
d.
G la n c e up o c c a s i o n a l l y
to s e e w h ere you a r e .
e.
T ake r e a d i n g m a t e r i a l w i t h y o u w hen y o u r e a c h y o u r d e s tin a tio n
TALKING:
How t o c o n v e r s e w i t h y o u r t r a v e l i n g com pan
io n w ith o u t d is t u r b in g o t h e r s . a.
U s e a q u i e t lo w v o i c e .
b.
S ta n d o r s i t
c l o s e enough t o be h ea rd w ith o u t
t a lk in g to o lo u d . e.
R em em ber, o t h e r s may n o t be i n t e r e s t e d
in w hat
you a re s a y in g . d.
A v o id u s i n g v u l g a r i t y
on th e s t r e e t c a r .
e.
A v o id d i s c u s s i n g p e r s o n a l i t i e s .
f.
A v o id s u c h to u c h y s u b j e c t s a s : r e l i g i o n ,
race,
or
p o litic s . g.
A v o id u n p l e a s a n t r e m a r k s a b o u t t h e o p p o s i t e s e x .
CONDUCT:
How t o a v o i d a n t i - s o c i a l c o n d u c t on t h e
str e e t car. a.
K eep a l l p a c k a g e s c o n t a i n i n g f o o d , w rap p ed t i g h t l y u n t i l you r e a c h your d e s t i n a t i o n .
b.
U n se a l liq u o r b o t t l e s
o n ly i n th e p r iv a c y o f you r
hom e. c.
R e f r a i n fr o m t h e u s a g e o f p r o f a n i t y i n
ta lk in g
w ith your f r ie n d s . d.
O b s e r v e s a f e t y la w s i n r i d i n g on s t r e e t c a r . (1 )
T a lk in g w it h c o n d u c to r i s
p r o h ib ite d .
58 (2 ) e.
Be s u r e a l l l a d i e s a r e s e a t e d b e f o r e
f.
F o llo w
g. 5.
Sm ok ing o n c a r s i s p r o h i b i t e d . you s i t .
t h e l a d y w hen e n t e r i n g t h e c a r .
P r e c e d e t h e l a d y when g e t t i n g
SOURCES FOR THIS CHAPTER:
o f f th e e a r .
? /h ere t o
g e t fu r th e r
a s s is ta n c e . a.
D a l t h o r p , C. J . :
How t o Make and K eep F r i e n d s .
The U n i v e r s i t y P u b l i s h i n g C om pany,, New Y o r k , 1 9 4 5 , P. 2 5 . b.
B a d t, E . : G ir ls .
L a id la w B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s , S a n F r a n
c is c o , c.
E v e r y d a y Good M anners f o r B o y s and
1931,
PP. 4 8 - 5 8 .
S t r a t t o n , B . C. and S e h le m a n , H. B .r F o o t F orw ard.
M cG ra w -H ill B ook Com pany, I n c . ,
New Y o r k , 1 9 4 0 , C.
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
Y our B e s t
PP. 1 0 1 - 1 1 8 .
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d y o u i n
t r a v e l i n g on th e , s t r e e t c a r . 1.
CONDUCT:
P la n and t a k e a c l a s s t r i p
on t h e s t r e e t
c a r and c o n d u c t y o u r s e l v e s a s d i r e c t e d . 2.
PASSENGERS:
Make a l i s t
o f a l l th e u n p le a s a n tn e s s
y o u h a v e e n c o u n t e r e d i n c o n n e c t i o n w i t h p a s s e n g e r s on t h e s t r e e t c a r and c h e c k i f y o u w e r e f r e e fr o m t h e s e fa u lts . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f c h e c k - u p s w h ic h may b e a p p l i e d
to
59
y o u r m a s t e r y o f t h e t e c h n i q u e o f t r a v e l i n g by s t r e e t c a r . 1.
TRUE FALSE:
P la c e a n X i n t h e c o r r e c t s p a c e f o r t n u e
or f a l s e . T a.
F
( )( )
You s h o u ld a s k t h e c o n d u c to r t o l e t y o u know w hen t o g e t o f f t h e c a r .
b.
( )( )
The s t r e e t c a r i s
a good p l a c e t o e x c h a n g e
p o l i t ic a l id e a s . c.
( )(
)
I t is
c o n s i d e r e d bad t a s t e
to read th e
n e w s p a p e r on t h e s t r e e t c a r . 2.
BEST ANSWER:
P l a c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw er i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
The b e s t w ay t o c a r r y y o u r p a c k a g e s on t h e s t r e e t car i s :
(1 )
th e s e a t b e s id e y o u . th e c o n d u c to r .
In you r arm s.
(2 ) In
( 3 ) L ea v e th em w i t h
( 4 ) S t a c k them n e a t l y i n
th e rear o f th e c a r . b.
( )
You c a n b e s t a v o i d o f f e n c e on t h e s t r e e t c a r by:
(1 )
P a y in g y o u r own f a r e .
(2 ) N ot a sk
i n g t h e c o n d u c t o r t o o many q u e s t i o n s .
(3 )
N o t p u s h in g o r w a lk in g on a n o t h e r * s f o o t . (4 ) 3.
RATING SCALE:
T a k in g y o u r s e a t q u i e t l y . P l a c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify . a.
( )
You n e v e r chew gum on s t r e e t c a r .
60 You n e v e r e a t f r u i t on s t r e e t ca r* You t a l k i n a q u i e t lo w v o i c e . Y ou n e v e r r e a d o v e r t h e s h o u l d e r s o f a n o t h e r . You a s k d i r e c t i o n s Y ou a lw a y s o f f e r T o ta l.
o n ly fro m t h e c o n d u c t o r .
th e la d ie s your s e a t .
61
CHAPTER 1 0 .
THE TRAIN
HOW TO OBTAIN THE MAXIMUM PLEASURE OUT OF A LONG TRIP BY RAIL A«
MOTIVATION:
R ew a rd s w hich, a r e p r o m is e d and s o m e tim e s
c la im e d a s a r e s u l t o f t h i s 1.
2.
stu d y .
COMFORT:
You w i l l b e f r e s b and r e a d y t o b e g i n y o u r
*a c t i v i t i e s
a s so o n a s y o u r e a c h you r d e s t i n a t i o n .
SAFETY:
Y our s t r i c t a d h e r e n c e t o
s a f e t y la w s w i l l ,
i n m ost c a s e s , r e s u l t in a t r i p w it h o u t a c c i d e n t s . 3.
CONVENIENCE:
The t i m e ,
e ffo r t,
and e n e r g y i t
ta k e s
to o p e r a te your p r iv a te tr a n s p o r ta tio n w i l l be l e f t to 4.
th e c o n d u cto r .
MORE FUN:
You c a n r e l a x and e n j o y y o u r s e l f i n s t e a d
o f t i r i n g y o u r s e l f o u t by d r i v i n g . B.
DIRECTIONS:
Some h e l p f u l s u g g e s t i o n s on how t o
tra v e l
by
tr a in . 1.
TICKETS:
How t o a v o i d
s u c h u n p l e a s a n t n e s s t h a t m ig h t
a r i s e fr o m w a i t i n g t o o l a t e a.
to p u rch ase th e t i c k e t s .
Make r e s e r v a t i o n s f o u r d a y s i n a d v a n c e . (1 )
C a ll th e s t a t io n
t o d e t e r m in e hour o f d e p a r t
u r e , nu m ber, and t r a c k o f t r a i n . (2 )
C a ll s t a t io n
t o d e t e r m in e t o t a l p r i c e o f
t i c k e t in c lu d in g f e d e r a l t a x . b.
P ic k up t i c k e t s t w e l v e h o u r s - b e f o r e l e a v i n g t i m e .
e.
C a ll s t a t i o n
tw o h o u r s b e f o r e l e a v i n g h om e.
(T h e r e may b e som e c h a n g e i n t h e d e p a r t i n g t i m e . ) d.
Go t o t h e s t a t i o n (1 )
o n e hour b e f o r e l e a v i n g t i m e .
C h eck t o s e e i f y o u r t i c k e t s
are in your p o
s s e s s io n . (2 )
p l a c e th em i n a c o n v e n i e n t p l a c e w h e r e t h e y can be e a s i l y r e a c h e d .
LUGGAGE:
How t o h a n d le y o u r lu g g a g e w i t h o u t o f f e n d
in g your f e llo w
tr a v e le r s .
a.
P ack
a l l u n n ecessary a r t ic le s
in your b a g s.
b.
S e c u r e l u g g a g e t o a v o id a r t i c l e s fr o m d r o p p in g o u t.
c.
T ake
e x c e s s lu g g a g e t o s t a t i o n b e fo r e l e a v i n g
tim e and c h e c k i t d.
e.
on your t i c k e t .
T ak e w i t h y o u a s m a l l b a g f o r m i s c e l l a n e o u s i t e m s . (1 )
A v o id p a c k in g i t e m s o f f o o d i n b a g s .
(2 )
P a ck t o i l e t a r t i c l e s
G iv e
lu g g a g e to p o r t e r .
so th ey w on*t b rea k . (He w i l l s t o r e i t
in a
s p e c i a l p l a c e p r o v id e d f o r lu g g a g e n e a r y o u r ' s e a t ) . f.
Be s u r e y o u r b a g g a g e o r b u n d le s a r e n o t m o n o p o liz i n g a s e a t t h a t so m eo n e s h o u ld h a v e .
g.
R e q u e st th e a s s is t a n c e o f th e p o r te r
i f you w i l l
n eed you r lu g g a g e f o r any r e a s o n w h ile en r o u t e . (1 )
Open l u g g a g e i n b a th ro o m o r sm o k in g room o n ly .
(2 )
Rem em ber, y o u r t i c k e t o n l y c a l l s f o r o n e se a t,
(It is
d i f f i c u l t t o open you r bag
w ith o u t b e in g o f f e n s i v e to th e p e r so n s e a te d n e x t t o y o u .) PERSONNEL:
How t o g i v e t h e t r a i n p e r s o n n e l t h e n e c e s
s a r y c o o p e r a t i o n s o a s t o make y o u r t r i p
e n jo y a b le .
a.
A v o id b e i n g l a t e a t t h e s t a t i o n . '
b.
P u t y o u r t i c k e t and l u g g a g e c h e c k s i n y o u r p o c k e t b o o k or w a l l e t w h e r e t h e y c a n b e e a s i l y r e a c h e d . (1 )
A v o id fu m b lin g f o r h o u r s t o f i n d y o u r t i c k e t .
(2 )
A v o id d r o p p in g them w h e r e t h e y c a n b e b lo w n aw ay.
c.
P u t a p i e c e o f c h a n g e i n y o u r hand t o g i v e t h e p o r t e r w h en h i s s e r v i c e i s (1 )
c o m p le te .
Remember t o s a y th a n k s w hen y o u g i v e him t h e s m a ll t i p .
(2 )
G iv e him t h e am ount o f m oney y o u w a n t him t o keep.
( I t i s t im e c o n su m in g f o r
him t o make
c h a n g e .) d.
A v o id p u s h in g on t h e t r a i n .
e.
A v o id a s k i n g t h e c o n d u c to r u n n e c e s s a r y q u e s t i o n s .
f.
U s e d i n i n g room f o r
g.
A v o id f e e d i n g y o u n g c h i l d r e n w h e r e t h e i r
e a tin g p u r p o se s. han ds
m ig h t s o i l t h e c l o t h e s o f o t h e r s on t h e t r a i n . h.
W a it y o u r t u r n t o u s e b a t h f a c i l i t i e s .
i.
A v o id th r o w in g s o i l e d
FACILITIES:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n m a k in g u s e o f
th e c o n v e n ie n c e s o f f e r e d a.
t o w e l s o r m a g a z in e s on f l o o r .
by t h e t r a i n .
When i n t h e d i n i n g ro o m , a v o id s u c h d i s t a s t e f u l t h i n g s a s :: (1 )
E x p e c t in g t h e i m p o s s i b l e fr o m w a i t e r s .
(Re*-
m em ber, y o u a r e n o t a t h o m e .) (2 )
T h ro w in g p a p e r n a p k in s on t h e f l o o r .
(3 )
T a k in g p i e c e s o f t a b le w a r e f o r s o u v e n i r s .
(4 )
P o u n d in g i m p a t i e n t l y on
th e t a b le .
(5 )
G oin g t o d i n i n g room im p r o p e r ly
(6 )
p la y in g w ith s a l t .
(7 )
J u g g lin g s ilv e r w a r e .
(8 )
T w ir lin g g l a s s e s .
(9 )
D r a w in g p i c t u r e s or f a c e s
d r e sse d !.
on t a b l e c l o t h .
( 1 0 ) M aking u n k in d rem ark s a b o u t f o o d . ( 1 1 ) T a lk in g i n a lo u d v o i c e . ( 1 2 ) F i l l i n g y o u r m outh t o o f u l l . ( 1 3 ) L e a v in g t h e t a b l e w i t h f o o d i n fcour h a n d . b.
When y o u a r e i n t h e b a th r o o m , a v o i d s u c h u n d e s i r a b l e a c t s a s:; (1 )
L e a v in g p a p er n a p k in s o r e x c e s s w a te r on t h e flo o r .
(2 ) c.
U s in g i t
f o r a r e a d i n g room or sm o k in g roo m .
W a it y o u r t u r n i n u s i n g an y f a c i l i t i e s tr a in .
on t h e
65 d.
When i n (1 )
t h e lo u n g e o r sm o k e r , a v o i d s u c h a c t s a s :
S t r e t c h i n g o u t on t h e s e a t s a s i f
i t w ere a
bed. (2 )
T h ro w in g l i g h t e d
c ig a r e tte s
(3 )
T h ro w in g p a p e r n a p k in s o r c u p s on t h e f l o o r .
(4 )
L e a v in g it e m s o f f o o d or l i q u i d s fo r o th e rs to s i t
(5 )
in s e a ts
in .
C o n v e r s in g i n a lo u d v o i c e o r m o l e s t i n g fe llo w
C.
on t h e f l o o r .
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
t r a v e le r s i n any w ay. L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d y o u i n
y o u r c o n d u c t on t h e t r a i n . 1.
PREPARATION!
C a ll th e r a ilr o a d
e r v a tio n s fo r a t r ip o f th e t i c k e t s , tr a in ,
s ta tio n
on t h e t r a i n .
and make r e s
F in d o u t t h e p r i c e
t im e o f d e p a r t u r e , name and number o f
and num ber o f t r a c k .
P ic k u p t i c k e t s and c h e c k
e x c e s s lu g g a g e a s d i r e c t e d . 2.
THE TRIP:
A rran ge w ith r a ilr o a d f o r
sh o rt tr ip
on t h e t r a i n .
(T h e f o o t b a l l s e a s o n w o u ld
b e a n i d e a l t im e f o r t h i s a c t i v i t y . ) i n t h e m eth od a s p e r s c r i b e d D.
EVALUATION:
c la s s to ta k e a
C o n d u ct y o u r s e l f
in th e d ir e c t io n s .
S a m p le s o f t h e way i n w h ic h y o u r m a s t e r y o f
t h e a c t i v i t y a s s ig n m e n t w i l l b e c h e c k e d . 1.
TRUE-FALSE: or f a l s e .
P l a c e an X i n t h e c o r r e c t s p a c e f o r t r u e
a.
( )(
) You s h o u ld n o t buy y o u r t i c k e t u n t i l y o u a re read y to c a tc h th e t r a in .
b.
( )(
) A good p l a c e t o
c a r r y y o u r lu g g a g e i s
in
th e s e a t w ith y o u . c.
( )(
) You s h o u ld s l e e p seat is
BEST ANSWER;
i n t h e lo u n g e c a r i f y o u r
n o t c o m fo r ta b le f o r t h i s p u r p o s e .
P l a c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
A go o d t im e t o buy y o u r t i c k e t i s ; w eek b e f o r e y o u r t r i p . your t r ip . tr ip .
b.
( )
( 2 ) An h ou r b e f o r e
( 3 ) T w e lv e h o u r s b e f o r e y o u r
( 4 ) The moment y o u g e t t h e m o n ey .
You c a n b e s t e n j o y a t r a i n t r i p member t o ; gers. n e l.
(1 ) A
i f you
re
( 1 ) Be c o u r t e o u s t o a l l p a s s e n
( 2 ) Be c o u r t e o u s t o t h e t r a i n p e r s o n ( 3 ) C a r ry a d e q u a t e f o o d f o r t h e t r i p .
( 4 ) T ip t h e r e d c a p m an. RATING SCALE:
P la c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h
you q u a lif y . a.
( )
You a v o id w a i t i n g t h e l a s t m in u te t o buy tic k e ts .
b.
( )
Y ou a r r i v e a t t h e s t a t i o n
on t i m e .
c.
( )
You c h e c k e x c e s s l u g g a g e on y o u r t i c k e t .
d.
( )
Y ou o b s e r v e good m an n ers i n t h e d i n i n g
ro o m .
Y our t o i l e t a r t i c l e s
a r e w rap p ed c a r e f u l l y *
Y ou n e v e r sp en d u n n e c e s s a r y t im e i n b ath room * Y our c o n v e r s a t i o n s a r e lo w and q u i e t * Y ou a r e p o l i t e tim e s . T o ta l.
to tr a in p erso n n el a t a l l
68 CHAPTER 1 1 .
THE SCHOOL
HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF YOUR SCHOOL LIFE A.
MOTIVATION:
Some
p o s s i b l e o u tc o m e s o f a n e n j o y a b l e s c h o o l
life . 1 ..
BETTER EDUCATION:
You a r e a b l e t o g e t m ore fr o m y o u r
s c h o o l w ork w h en y o u f i n d 2.
MORE FUN:
it
e n jo y a b le .
You w i l l h a v e a v a r i e t y
command and b e i n p o s i t i o n
of s k ills
a t your
t o p a r t i c i p a t e i n many
e x tr a -c u r r ic u la r a c t i v i t i e s . 3.
OCCUPATIONAL BENEFITS: th e ir p o s s i b i l i t i e s ,
By s t u d y i n g v a r i o u s j o b s and you w i l l have a b e t t e r ch an ce o f
m a k in g a w i s e r s e l e c t i o n o f y o u r own v o c a t i o n .. 4.
RICHER' SOCIAL LIFE:
By y o u r a s s o c i a t i o n w i t h a w id e
v a r ie t y o f p e o p le you r s o c i a l c o n t a c t s w i l l be r ic h e r and f u l l e r . B.
DIRECTIONS: r ic h 1.
som e
s u g g e s t io n s t h a t w i l l h e lp y o u e n jo y a
sch o o l l i f e . THE CLASSROOM;
How t o make y o u r c la s s r o o m t h e en v y o f
t h e cam p u s. a.
Make y o u r (1 )
c la s s r o o m b e a u t i f u l and a t t r a c t i v e .
C h eck t o
see i f
t h e r e :&re—y b i t s o f p a p er
s c a t t e r e d over th e f l o o r . (2 )
K eep
f l o w e r s or s o m e t h in g g r e e n i n y o u r
c la s s r o o m a t a l l t i m e s .
(3 )
C o lle c t in t e r e s t in g p ic tu r e s fo r
th e b u l le t
in board. (4 )
P a in t i n t e r e s t i n g p ic t u r e s f o r t h e b o a r d s .
(5 )
E r a s e b la c k b o a r d s w hen c l a s s
(6 )
See to
it
th a t th e t a b le s ,
is
over.
c h a ir s ,
or ben ch es
are in order. T ak e p r i d e i n y o u r s c h o o l w o r k . (1 )
K eep y o u r e y e s on t h e t e a c h e r a t a l l t i m e s .
(2 )
D on’t c u t c l a s s e s .
(3 )
Go t o s c h o o l e v e r y d a y .
(4 )
D on’ t s e t t l e f o r l e s s
th a n y o u r
b e s t p e r fo r m
a n ce in a l l o f your w ork. Be c o u r t e o u s t o y o u r t e a c h e r and f e l l o w (1 )
A d d r e s s h e r by h e r l a s t nam e. Mr. S m ith i s
C2)
th e d e s ir a b le
c la s s m a te s .
^M rs. J o n e s or
s a lu ta tio n .
D o n ’ t m ove or m i s p l a c e a r t i c l e s
on t e a c h e r ’ s
d esk . (3 )
D on’ t d is t u r b f e l l o w
c la s s m a te s w h ile th e y
a r e stu d y in g . (4 )
A v o id w h i s p e r i n g or t r y i n g t o a c t f u n n y .
(5 )
I f y o u h a v e f i n i s h e d y o u r a s s ig n m e n t ,
read
ahead t o t h e n e x t c h a p te r . (6 )
L is te n w h ile o th e r s a r e r e c i t i n g .
(7 )
A v o id l a u g h i n g a t m i s t a k e s .
(8 )
K eep d e s k n e a t and w ork h a n d ed i n t o t e a c h e r .
(9 )
B a is e you r hands i f you w is h t o sp e a k .
d.
A s s i s t i n o p e n in g o r c l o s i n g d o o r s and w in d o w s .
e.
L if^ * c h a i r s o r o t h e r f u r n i t u r e c l e a r o f^ -th e f l o o r w hen m o v in g them fro m o n e p l a c e t o a n o t h e r .
THE CAFETERIA:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n t h e s c h o o l
c a fe te r ia . a.
K eep i n
th e l i n e .
b.
F o llo w
c.
D i s p o s e o f y o u r t r a y when t h e m e a l i s
d.
P la c e s i l v e r ,
in your tu r n .
d i s h e s , and g l a s s e s i n
over. s p e c ia l p la c e
p r o v id e d f o r t h e s e t h i n g s . e.
P u t n a p k in s i n w a s t e c o n t a i n e r s .
f.
L eave th e t a b le a s c le a n a s p o s s i b l e
f o r th e n e x t
p erson . THE LIBRARY:
How t o u t i l i z e
th e f a c i l i t i e s
lib r a r y w ith o u t b e in g o f f e n s i v e
to
a.
P a ss in t o th e lib r a r y q u ie t ly .
b.
A v o id s u c h d i s t a s t e f u l t h i n g s a s :
o th e r s,
(1 )
T a lk in g i n a lo u d v o i c e .
(2 )
V is itin g
(3 )
W h is p e r in g .
(4 )
W a lk in g a r o u n d n e e d l e s s l y .
(5 )
D r a g g in g c h a i r s o v e r f l o o r .
(6 )
S p r a w lin g o u t i n t h e c h a i r s .
(7 )
S le e p in g on th e t a b l e s .
in th e lib r a r y .
o f th e
c#
H a n d le l i b r a r y p r o p e r t y w i t b c a r e #
d.
D o n 't m ark or m u t i l a t e b o o k s .
e.
C h eck o u t b o o k s t h r o u g h r e g u l a r c h a n n e l s .
(T h e
b o o k e r e p la c e d i n th e l ib r a r y f o r p u b lic u s e . ) THE PLAY GROUND:
How t o e n r i c h y o u r s c h o o l d a y s
th ro u g h ta k in g a d v a n ta g e o f th e e x t r a - c u r r ic u la r a c tiv itie s
o ffe r ed .
a#
P a r t i c i p a t e i n a s many a c t i v i t i e s a s y o u c a n .
b.
Rem em ber, good s p o r t s m a n s h ip r e q u i r e s f a i r p l a y . (1 )
D o n 't c h e a t .
(2 )
Remember t h a t t h e p o l i t e
b oy o r g i r l w i l l
a c c e p t th e d e c is io n o f o f f i c i a l s w ith o u t q u e s tio n .
c.
(3 )
C o n g r a t u la t e t h e w in n e r s #
(4 )
P r a is e th e s k i l l o£ s u c c e s s f u l p la y e r s /y%of w h e t h e r / t h e y b e lo n g t o t h e home tea m -or- n o t .
P la y game f o r t h e p l e a s u r e o f p l a y i n g and n o t f o r a sc o r e or a p r iz e .
SOURCES FOR THIS CHAPTER:
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a s s is ta n c e . a.
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E v e r y d a y Good M anners f o r B o y s and
L a id la w B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s , S a n F r a n c i s
c o , 1 9 3 1 , PP. 3 4 - 3 7 . b.
B a r b o u r , R . H. :
Good M anners f o r B o y s .
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ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
A m e rica n
PP. 1 7 3 - 1 7 6 .
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d y o u i n
g e t t i n g t h e m o st o u t o f s c h o o l l i f e . 1.
HELPFULNESS IN CLASSROOM; s i n g d o o r s and w in d o w s; heavy o b j e c t s ; b oard s. flo o r
A s s i s t i n o p e n in g o r c l o
i n m o v in g t a b l e s ,
in p a s s in g m a t e r ia ls ,
c h a i r s , and
in c le a n in g b la c k
L i f t c h a ir s or o th e r f u r n it u r e c le a r
t o a v o id d r a g g in g .
C heck t o
see i f
o f th e
era sers are
c l e a n i n o r d e r t o a v o id b lo w in g d u s t i n a n y o n e * s f a c e . 2.
SPORTSMANSHIP: e v e n t.
E n gage r i v a l c l a s s
in
som e s p o r t
O r g a n iz e team and p l a y t h e game a c c o r d i n g t o
sta n d a r d s a s s u g g e s te d i n th e d i r e c t i o n s . 3.
CAFETERIA:
Go t o t h e s c h o o l c a f e t e r i a f o r l u n c h .
K eep a s t r a i g h t l i n e and w a i t y o u r t u r n f o r s e r v i n g . E a t y o u r l u n c h and d i s p o s e o f t r a y ,
s ilv e r ,
d is h e s ,
and g l a s s w a r e a s o u t l i n e d i n t h e d i r e c t i o n s . 4.
LIBRARY:
Go t o
th e sc h o o l lib r a r y fo r
stu d y p e r io d .
73 F o llo w D>
sta n d a r d s o f co n d u ct a s d ir e c te d *
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f t h e way i n w h ic h y o u r
th e a c t i v i t y 1*
m a ste ry o f
a s s ig n m e n t w i l l be c h e c k e d *
TRUE FALSE:
P la c e an X i n t h e c o r r e c t sp a c e f o r t r u e
or f a l s e * T
a.
( )(
f
)
You s h o u ld s t r i v e t o w in t h e game a t a l l co st*
b.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld n o t b o t h e r w i t h t a b l e m a n n ers a t a sc h o o l c a fe te r ia *
e.
( )(
)
It
is
p e r m is s a b le t o a d d r e s s you r te a c h e r
by h e r f i r s t name w hen y o u a r e on t h e ca m p u s. 2.
BEST ANSWER:
P la c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
It
is
n o t good s c h o o l s p i r i t t o :
a gam e. (3 )
( 2 ) Laugh a t y o u r v i s i t i n g
A p p la u d f o r t h e r i v a l te a m .
to p a r tic ip a te b.
( )
(1 ) L o se te a m .
(4 ) R e fu se
in a t h l e t i c s .
Ag o o d w ay t o make y o u r c la s s r o o m t h e e n v y o f t h e cam pus i s : : every n ig h t. a ttr a c tiv e . fo r
( 1 ) To e r a s e t h e b la c k b o a r d s ( 2 ) To make i t
b e a u t i f u l and
(3 ) C o lle c t in t e r e s t in g p ic tu r e s
th e b u lle t in
h on ors o ffe r e d
board.
in s c h o o l.
( 4 ) Win a l l o f t h e
HATING SCALE:
P la c e an X i n
e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
q u a lify . a.
(
You w i l l n o t c h e a t i n a gam e.
b.
(
You w i l l k e e p t h e r u l e s .
c.
(
You n e v e r t a l k o r w a lk i n t h e l i b r a r y .
d.
(
Y our l i n e
e.
(
You n e v e r l e a v e t h e d i n i n g room w i t h f o o d i n
is
y o u r m o u th . )
T o ta l.
k ep t s t r a ig h t in th e c a f e t e r ia .
75 CHAPTER 1 2 .
THE CHURCH
HOW TO CONDUCT YOURSELF IN CHURCH WITHOUT CALLING UNDESIRABLE ATTENTION TO YOURSELF A.
MOTIVATION:
Some b e n e f i t s t o b e d e r i v e d fro m a w o r s h ip
s e r v ic e . 1.
SPIRITUAL GROWTH: in te g r a te d l i f e
You w i l l d e v e l o p a w e l l - r o u n d e d ,
a s a r e s u l t o f w h o le s o m e f o o d d e r iv e d
fr o m a n i n t e r e s t i n g w o r s h ip s e r v i c e . 2.
WHOLESOME CONTACTS: th e b e tte r c la s s
You w i l l b e i n p o s i t i o n
o f p e o p le ,
t o m eet
a s p e o p l e who s t a n d f o r
a n y t h i n g i n t h e com m u n ity a t t e n d c h u r c h r e g u l a r l y . 3.
POPULARITY:
M ost c h u r c h e s s p o n s o r c l u b s and o r g a n i
z a t i o n s w h ic h w i l l b e h ap p y t o w e lc o m e y o u a s a m em ber. 4.
BUSINESS OPPORTUNITIES:
I t i s a common p r a c t i c e t o
h a v e em p lo y m en t a g e n c i e s o p e r a t i n g i n c o n n e c t i o n w i t h t h e l a r g e r c h u r c h e s i n t h e co m m u n ity . 5.
USEFULNESS:
T here i s
a lw a y s a p l a c e i n t h e c h u r c h
w h e r e y o u c a n w ork i f y o u a r e i n t e r e s t e d . B.
DIRECTIONS:
Some h e l p f u l s u g g e s t i o n s t o a i d y o u i n m a k in g
t h e d e s i r e d i m p r e s s i o n on t h e p e o p le i n t h e c h u r c h . 1.
APPEARANCE:
How t o d r e s s i n s u c h a m anner a s n o t t o
be a d i s t r a c t i n g e le m e n t t o t h o s e who may d e s i r e t o w o r s h ip . a.
D o n 't w e a r c l o t h e s o f c o n s p i c u o u s c o l o r s or p a t te r n s*
b.
A v o id w e a r in g f a n c y s h i r t s o r u s e l e s s
j e w e lr y #
c#
Wear h a t s o f s i m p l e d e s i g n s o a s n o t t o o b s t r u c t t h e v ie w o f o t h e r s #
d.
A v o id s u c h u n d e s i r a b l e p r a c t i c e s on t h e p a r t o f th e la d ie s a s: (1 )
W e a r in g lo w c u t d r e s s e s , r e v e a l i n g t o o much o f th e body.
(W hat c o u l d b e m ore d i s t r a c t
in g ? ) (2 )
C o v e r in g t h e h ead w i t h l a r g e f e a t h e r s o r mammoth f l o w e r s .
(3 )
S a t u r a t i n g t h e b od y w i t h n a u s e a t i n g p e r fu m e s#
(4 )
U s in g t h e c h u r c h t o d i s p l a y y o u r f a n c y f u r s an d d r a p e s #
(5 ) e.
P u t t i n g on t o o much m a k e -u p .
A v o id s u c h p r a c t i c e s on t h e p a r t o f t h e men a s : (1 )
G o in g t o c h u r c h w i t h o u t n e c k t i e o r i n s h i r t s le e v e s #
(2 )
W e a r in g lo u d or f a n c y s h i r t s .
(3 )
W e a r in g Mz o o t - s u i t s ," o r a n y f a n c y s t y l e d c lo th e s #
f.
Wear s i m p l e s t y l e s and c o n s e r v a t i v e c o l o r s #
CONDUCT:
How t o a v o i d u n p l e a s a n t n e s s t h a t m ig h t a r i s e
fro m u n d e s i r a b l e c o n d u c t i n c h u r c h # a.
Be prom pt#
( I f ta r d in e s s
has b e e n u n a v o id a b le ,
e n te r a s q u ie tly a s p o s s ib le .)
b.
A v o id t a l k i n g o r l a u g h i n g w h i l e i n c h u r c h .
c.
F o llo w t h e u s h e r s t o
th e s e a t g iv e n y o u .
d.
I f you a re th e f i r s t
to rea ch th e s e a t ,
s e a t f a r t h e s t to
t h e en d t o make i t
ta k e th e
p o s s ib le fo r
o t h e r s who com e a f t e r y o u . e.
A v o id su c h u n d e s i r a b l e p r a c t i c e s a s r (1 )
S t a n d i n g , m o v in g or t u r n i n g a r o u n d *
(2 )
E a t in g c a n d y o r c h e w in g gum.
(3 )
R a t t l i n g y o u r p rogram or o t h e r p a p e r s .
(4 )
L e a v in g c h u r c h b e f o r e s e r v i c e i s
c o m p le t e d .
f.
K eep y o u r e y e s o n t h e s p e a k e r .
g.
T ake i n f a n t s o r s m a l l c h i l d r e n t o t h e n u r s e r y . (A s m a l l c h i l d ' s a t t e n t i o n to s i t
h.
q u ie tly
sp a n i s
n o t lo n g enough
th r o u g h t h e e n t i r e s e r v i c e . )
C onform t o t h e c u s to m s o f t h e c h u r c h .
("When i n
R om e, d o a s t h e Rom ans d o . M) USEFULNESS:
How t o s e r v e som e w o r th y p u r p o s e i n t h e
church. a.
A sk t h e c h u r c h s e c r e t a r y f o r nam es o f t h e v a r i o u s c l u b s and o r g a n i z a t i o n s i n t h e c h u r c h .
b.
Make a p p l i c a t i o n f o r
t h e o r g a n i z a t i o n w h ic h b e s t
s u it s your a b i l i t i e s . (1 )
A f f i l i a t e y o u r s e l f w ith th e c h o ir .
(2 )
A p p ly f o r m e m b e r sh ip w i t h h o s p i t a l c h o i r .
(3 )
O r g a n iz e y o u t h c l u b s f o r b o y s o r g i r l s .
(4 )
R a is e fu n d s f o r u n d e r p r iv ile g e d .
78 (a )
G iv e ch-arch t e a .
(t>) 4.
S p on sor l o c a l a r t i s t .
SOURCES FOR THIS CHAPTER:
W here t o g e t f u r t h e r a s s i s t
ance. a.
G o o d r ic h , L . B .:
L i v i n g W ith O t h e r s .
B ook Com pany, San F r a n c i s c o , 1 9 3 9 , b.
P o st,
E. :
B a d t, E. L . : G ir ls .
d.
PP. 1 5 4 - 1 5 5 .
E t i q u e t t e , Funk and W a g n a lls Company,
P u b l i s h e r s , New Y o r k , 1 9 4 8 , c.
A m e rica n
PP. 1 9 1 - 2 6 8 .
E v e r y d a y Good M anners f o r B o y s and
L a id la w B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s ,
co, 1931,
PP. 5 8 - 5 9 .
S tr a tto n ,
D . C . and S c h le m a n , H. B . r
F o o t F orw ard.
San F r a n c i s
Y our B e s t
M cG r a w -H ill B ook Com pany, I n c . ,
New Y o r k , 1 9 4 0 , P P . 1 1 0 - 1 1 2 . C.-
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
L e a r n in g e x p e r i e n c e s t o a i d y o u i n
m a k in g t h e d e s i r a b l e i m p r e s s i o n i n c h u r c h . 1.
USEFULNESS: le tte r s
S p on sor a ch u rch t a l e n t c o n t e s t .
t o a l l known p e r s o n s i n c h u r c h o r com m u nity
p o s s e s s in g any u n u su a l a b i l i t y ,
e x p l a i n i n g t o them
t h e n a t u r e and p u r p o s e o f t h e c o n t e s t , th e ir
W r ite
s e r v ic e s fo r
th is
o c c a s io n .
and r e q u e s t
C h a rg e a s m a ll a d
m i s s i o n a t t h e d o o r and d o n a t e t h e f u n d s t o some w o r th y c a u s e i n t h e c h u r c h . 2.
CONDUCT:
Go t o c h u r c h a s a c l a s s
c o n s e r v a t i v e c o l o r s and s t y l e s .
group.
D ress
A r r i v e o n t im e
in and
79 ta k e your s e a t s w ith o u t c a l l i n g undue a t t e n t i o n y o u r s e lv e s .
to
D eport y o u r s e lv e s a s su g g e ste d in d i
r e c tio n s * D.
EVALUATIONS:
S a m p le s o f t h e way i n w h ic h y o u r m a s t e r y
o f th e le a r n in g e x p e r ie n c e s w i l l be c h e c k e d . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e an X i n th e c o r r e c t sp a c e f o r
tru e
or f a l s e . T a.
F
( )( )
You s h o u ld h e r i c h u s e fu l to
b.
( )( )
i f you e x p e c t t o be
t h e church*
You s h o u ld t a k e t h e f i r s t
se a t you rea ch
upon e n t e r in g th e c h u r c h . c.
( )( )
T a k in g e x t r a f o o d f o r
b a b i e s and y o u n g
c h i l d r e n w i l l p r e v e n t them fro m c r y i n g w h ile in ch u rch . 2.
BEST ANSWER:
P la c e t h e num ber o f t h e b e s t a n s w e r
in th e p a r a n th e s is . a.
( )
You c a n b e s t s e r v e y o u r c h u r c h b y : p a y i n g l a r g e sums o f m o n ey . i n t h e c h o ir * la r ly .
(3 )
(1 )
(2 ) S in g in g
G oin g t o c h u r c h r e g u
( 4 ) N o t t a l k i n g o r l a u g h in g d u r in g
s e r v ic e * b.
(
)
The b e s t way t o d r e s s f o r c h u r c h i s : To b e n e a t and c l e a n . c lo th e s .
(1 )
( 2 ) Wear y o u r b e s t
( 3 ) Wear c o n s e r v a t i v e s t y l e s and
c o lo r s .
( 4 ) Wear c l o t h e s t o e n h a n c e y o u r p e r
s o n a lity * RATING SCALE:
P la c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h
you q u a lif y . a.
(
You n e v e r la u g h o r t a l k i n c h u r c h .
b.
(
You a r e prom pt i n a t t e n d a n c e .
c.
(
Y our d r e s s i s
d.
(
You- b e lo n g t o som e c h u r c h o r g a n i z a t i o n .
(
T o ta l.
a lw a y s c o n s e r v a t i v e .
CHAPTER 1 3 .
THE THEATER
HOW TO CONDUCT YOURSELF IN SUCH A WAY THAT OTHERS WILL WELCOME YOU ON THEATER PARTIES A.
MOTIVATION:
R ew a rd s t h a t a r e p r o m ise d and s o m e tim e s
c la im e d a s a r e s u l t o f t h i s 1.
BETTER ENTERTAINMENT: b e tte r
stu d y . YOU w i l l b e a b l e
to e n jo y a
p e r fo r m a n c e by e l i m i n a t i n g a l l d i s t r a c t i n g
e le m e n ts . 2.
POPULARITY: T h e a te r p a r t i e s a r e e x c e l l e n t p a s t im e a c tiv itie s , mand i f
3.
and y o u r p r e s e n c e w i l l a lw a y s b e i n d e
y o u know how t o d e p o r t y o u r s e l f *
RELAXATION: T h e r e i s
no b e t t e r w ay t o r e l a x th a n
th e e n te r ta in m e n t y o u can r e c e i v e a t th e t h e a t e r . B.
DIRECTIONS:
H e l p f u l s u g g e s t i o n s o n t h e d e v e lo p m e n t o f
d e s ir a b le con d u ct a t th e t h e a t e r . 1.
APPEARANCE: How t o d r e s s i n s u c h a m anner a s n o t t o d is tu r b o th e r s ab ou t y o u . a.
Wear a h a t s m a ll e n o u g h t o a v o i d a v ie w f o r t h e p e o p le s i t t i n g
b.
b e h in d y o u .
D is p o s e o f h eavy c o a t s
so a s n o t to d is tu r b
o th e r s. (1 )
C h eck c o a t s ' i n
(2 )
H old them i n y o u r l a p w h i l e s i t t i n g th e a te r .
o u te r lo b b y . in
(3 )
P l a c e h e a v y c o a t s on t h e b a c k o f y o u r s e a t .
(4 )
p la c e la r g e h a ts
CONDUCT:
How t o a c t i n
in s e a t r a c k or i n l a p .
s u c h a way t h a t o t h e r s w i l l
e n j o y y o u r com pany a t t h e t h e a t e r . a.
W a it i n l i n e
q u ie tly .
b.
R em em ber, a l a d y p r e c e d e s t h e g e n tle m a n down t h e a is le
b e h in d t h e u s h e r .
c.
E n te r
th e a ter q u ie t ly .
d.
Say,
" I b e g y o u r p a r d o n ,w t o t h o s e whom y o u h a v e
to d is tu r b . e.
F i l l t h e s e a t s f a r t h e s t fro m t h e a i s l e s
f .
sta n d g r a c io u s ly i f o th e r s to fin d
g.
it
fir s t.
b eco m es n e c e s s a r y f o r
s e a ts hear you .
R em em ber, a g e n t le m a n a s s i s t s
th e la d y t o rem ove
her c o a t . h.
C o n te n t y o u r s e l f w i t h t h e f i r s t
se a t.
i.
A v o id s u c h u n d e s i r a b l e c o n d u c t a s : (1
T a lk in g o r l a u g h in g i n t h e t h e a t e r .
(2
C r u n c h in g on h a r d c a n d i e s .
(3
C h ew in g gum.
(4
T h r o w in g p e a n u t s a l l o v e r t h e f l o o r .
(5
R a t t l i n g p o p c o r n b a g s or b o x e s d u r in g sh o w .
(6
L e a v in g c o n t e n t s fro m f o o d b a g s i n
(7
S c r a m b lin g o v e r p e o p l e an d t r a m p l in g on th e ir
tee s.
se a ts.
83 (8 )
S c r a p in g you r c o a t a c r o s s t h e h e a d s o f th e p e o p le i n
t h e row a h e a d o f y o u .
(9 )
R e a d in g t h e c a p t i o n o u t l o u d .
(1 0 )
E x p r e s s i n g y o u r o p i n i o n a b o u t t h e sh o w .
( 1 1 ) M aking com m ents a b o u t u n d e s i r a b l e c o n d u c t near y o u . j.
D o n * t e x p l a i n t h e m o v ie t o y o u r f r i e n d s . it
fo r
g r a n t e d t h a t t h e y a r e i n t e l l i g e n t en o u g h
to fig u r e i t k.
o u t f o r t h e m s e lv e s .)
R em em ber, t h e g e n tle m a n p r e c e d e s t h e l a d y down th e a i s l e
C.
(T a k e
in le a v in g th e t h e a t e r .
ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
L e a r n in g a c t i v i t i e s
to a id you in
d e v e lo p in g d e s i r a b l e c o n d u c t a t th e t h e a t e r . 1.
CONDUCT:
G iv e a c l a s s
th e a te r p a r ty .
M eet a t a
c e n t r a l l o c a t i o n and c h e c k t o s e e t h a t n o l a d i e s a r e w e a r in g h a t s l a r g e e n o u g h t o o b s t r u c t t h e v ie w o f th o se s i t t i n g
b e h in d th e m .
P roceed to th e th e a te r
an d c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f a s s u g g e s t e d i n t h e d i r e c t i o n s . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p les o f t h e w ay i n w h ic h y o u r t h e a t e r
c o n d u c t m ig h t b e c h e c k e d . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e an X in t h e .c o r r e c t sp a c e f o r
tr u e or f a l s e . T a.
( )(
F )
You s h o u ld n o t e a t c a n d y i n t h e t h e a t e r .
84 b.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld
w ear l a r g e h a ts i n
t h e b a lc o n y
o n ly * c. 2.
( )(
)
It is
BEST ANSWER:
b e s t to ta k e th e f i r s t
sea t
you f in d .
P l a c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is . a.
( )
The b e s t p l a c e t o p u t y o u r c o a t s i n a te r
is :
(1 )
In your l a p .
th e th e
On t h e s e a t n e x t t o y o u . (3 )
I n y o u r own s e a t .
(2 )
(4 )
To c h e c k them a t t h e d o o r . b.
( )
It
is
n o t c o n s i d e r e d go o d t a s t e t o e x p l a i n
t h e m o v ie t o y o u r f r i e n d s b e c a u s e : T a l k i n g i n t h e m o v ie i s
d is tu r b in g .
Your f r i e n d s w i l l r e s e n t i t . w ill resen t i t . fr ie n d 3.
RATING SCALE:
(1 )
(3 )
(2 )
O th e r s
( 4 ) You s h o u ld a ssu m e y o u r
t o be a s i n t e l l i g e n t a s you~ P la c e an X i n
e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
can q u a lif y . a.
C )
You n e v e r chew gum i n t h e t h e a t e r .
b.
( )
You n e v e r t a l k o r w h is p e r i n t h e t h e a t e r .
c.
( )
You w a i t i n l i n e f o r y o u r t u r n .
d*
( )
Your l a r g e h a t s a r e rem oved i n t h e t h e a t e r ,
e.
( )
Y our a p p r o v a l o r d i s a p p r o v a l o f p i c t u r e i s k ep t to y o u r s e lf.
(
)
T o ta l.
85 CHAPTER 1 4 .
PLACES OF AMJSEMENT
HOW TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE YOU MEET AT SPORT EVENTS OR AMUSEMENT PARKS A.
MOTIVATION: o f le is u r e 1 ..
B e n e f i t s t h a t may b e d e r i v e d fr o m t h i s
so rt
t im e a c t i v i t y .
MORE POPULARITY:
Y our a b i l i t y
to con d u ct y o u r s e lf
w e l l a t s u c h e v e n t s w i l l r e s u l t i n y o u r b e i n g number o n e on many g u e s t l i s t s
f o r o u td o o r p a r t i e s an d
sp o rt e v e n ts. 2.
BETTER LEISURE TIME:
You w i l l h a v e a v a r i e t y
of
a c t i v i t i e s fr o m w h ic h t o c h o o s e an d a v a r i e t y
of
fr ie n d s 3.
t o a ccom p an y y o u .
WORTHWHILE CONTACTS:
Many e x e c u t i v e an d b u s i n e s s
men f r e q u e n t s u c h p l a c e s a s a n e s c a p e fr o m d a i l y r o u tin e w ork. 4.
HEALTHY BODIES: A V v a r ie ty o f o u td o o r a c t i v i t i e s w i l l r e s u l t i n w e l l p r o p o r t io n e d p h y s i q u e s , c u r v es in th e r ig h t p la c e s ,
put
and k e e p y o u r b od y
f u n c t io n in g p r o p e r ly . B.
DIRECTIONS:
Some s u g g e s t i o n s t o a i d y o u i n
g e ttin g
a lo n g w ith p e o p le i n p u b lic p l a c e s . 1.
THE FOOTBALL GAME:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f a t a
f o o t b a l l gam e. a.
Go t o ite
t h e game e a r l y e n o u g h t o
se a t.
g e t your fa v o r
C o n t r o l y o u r e m o tio n s n o m a t t e r w h a t tea m i s w in n in g * (1 )
D o n ’ t pound on y o u r g u e s t ’ s b a c k w i t h y o u r f i s t w hen y o u r tea m i s
a b o u t t o make a
to u c h d o w n . (2 )
A v o id s c r e a m in g d i r e c t l y
i n a n o th e r p e r s o n 1
ear. D i s p o s e o f y o u r em pty p o p c o r n o r p e a n u t b a g s i n a c o n v e n i e n t p l a c e w h e r e no o n e w i l l s i t
on them
A v o id r e s o r t i n g t o s u c h " u n d e s ir a b le t h i n g s a s : (1 )
B e c o m in g i n t o x i c a t e d a t t h e gam e.
(2 )
C o n sta n t u s e o f v u lg a r or p r o fa n e la n g u a g e .
(3 )
H i s s i n g and b o o in g a t t h e r e f e r e e .
(4 )
G e t t i n g i n t o a r g u m e n ts*
(5 )
T h r o w in g t h i n g s *
(6 )
M o le s tin g th e p la y e r s .
(7 )
B e t t i n g w i t h s t r a n g e r s a s t o t h e p e r fo r m ance o f th e p la y e r s .
(8 )
S t a n d in g i n s e a t s w h e r e o t h e r s a r e t o s i t .
R e s p e c t o p p o n e n t’ s s c h o o l so n g . (1 )
S ta n d a t a t t e n t i o n w h i l e t h e y a r e s i n g i n g .
(2 )
R e f r a i n fro m t a l k i n g o r m a k in g n o i s e o f a n y k in d .
Take y o u r t im e when l e a v i n g t h e s t a d iu m .
(You
w i l l r e a c h y o u r d e s t i n a t i o n much q u ic k e r i f
you
87 d o n ’ t tr y to be th e f i r s t g.
D o n ’ t w a lk o v e r b e n c h e s , u s e t h e a i s l e s fo r
8.
o u t o f t h e s t a d i u m .) p r o v id e d
su ch p u r p o se s.
THE PARK:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n t h e c i t y
a.
W alk o n t h e s t r e e t s .
b.
U s e t a b l e s and b e n c h e s w h e n e v e r a v a i l a b l e .
c.
Throw p a p e r i n p l a c e s p r o v id e d f o r
d.
Wrap f o o d l e a v i n g s an d p u t i t
park.
su ch .
in th e garbage
d is p o s a l. e.
A v o id s u c h t h i n g s a s : (1 )
W a lk in g on t h e g r a s s .
(2 )
L e a v in g b r o k e n g l a s s on t h e la w n .
(3 )
L e a v in g camp f i r e s b u r n i n g .
(4 )
D i s t u r b i n g b an d c o n c e r t o r m a k in g n o i s e w h i l e a p rogram i s
g o in g o n .
f.
D o n 't u s e p a rk s f o r l o v e s c e n e s or
" p e t t in g ."
g.
A v o id m o n o p o liz in g s u c h f a c i l i t i e s
i n park a s :
h.
(1 )
Camp h e a t e r s .
(2 )
L a v o r a to r ie s .
(3 )
B en ch es or t a b l e s .
D on*t e n c ro a c h upon t h e p r i v i l e g e s o f o t h e r s . (A p u b l i c p a r k i s f o r
i.
Obey a l l
e v ery o n e’ s r e c r e a t io n .)
s ig n s in th e p ark .
(T h ey
a r e fo r your
own s a f e t y a s w e l l a s t h e p r e s e r v a t i o n o f t h e park.
THE BEACH:
How t o c o n d u c t y o u r s e l f i n s u c h a m anner
t h a t o t h e r s w i l l w e lc o m e y o u on t h e i r b e a c h p a r t i e s . a.
b.
D ress fo r th e o c c a s io n .
(T h is
is
t h e o n e t im e
y o u may b e a s c a s u a l
in your d r e ss
a s you l i k e . )
D on’ t r i s k your l i f e
by t r y in g t o d is p la y
your
s k i l l a s a sw im m er. c.
Be s u r e y o u r b od y i s
t h o r o u g h ly d r y b e f o r e
s p r a w li n g o u t on t h e b l a n k e t s a g a i n w i t h t h e p a r ty . d.
S ta y w ith you r p a r ty * fe e lin g s
e.
or r ig h t s
o f o t h e r s .)
A v o id s t a n d i n g o v e r o t h e r p e o p l e w h e r e t h e s a n d w i l l b lo w i n
f.
(D o n ’ t im p o s e u p o n t h e
th e ir f a c e s .
P u t r e m a in s o f t h e lu n c h and a l l p a p e r s i n t h e c o n ta in e r s f o r w a s te .
g. h.
P u t o u t camp f i r e . C h eck w i t h l i f e
g u a rd b e f o r e v e n t u r i n g t o o f a r
ou t in th e w a te r . i .
Be s u r e e v e r y t h i n g i s
in ord er b e fo r e le a v in g
th e beach. (1 )
C h eck t o
s e e t h a t no i t e m s o f v a l u e a r e
le ft. (2 )
T ak e a l l f o o d l e a v i n g s and w a s t e p a p e r w i t h y o u an d d i s p o s e o f i t
in
its
proper p la c e .
89 4.
SOURCES FOR THIS CHAPTER;
W here t o g e t f u r t h e r a s s i s t
ance. a.
B a d t,
E . L. :
G ir ls .
L a id la w B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s ,
c is c o , b.
E v e r y d a y Good M anners F or B o y s a n d
1951,
San F r a n
P P. 4 8 - 7 2 .
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Good M anners f o r B o y s *
D.
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1 9 3 7 , PP. 9 6 -1 0 2 . c.
C la r k ,
M. E . and Q U ig le y , M. C . :
J u n io r .
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E tiq u e tte .
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F o o t F orw ard.
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B o y k in , Co. ,
C.
E .:
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ACTIVITY ASSIGNMENT:
The M a c m illa n
PP. 1 9 5 - 2 0 1 .
P r o j e c t s t h a t w i l l h e lp y o u g e t
a lo n g w ith p e o p le in p u b lic p l a c e s . 1.
THE FOOTBALL GAME: fo r c la s s
R eserv e s e c t io n
t o a t t e n d f o o t b a l l game a s a g r o u p .
t h e s t a d iu m
e a r l y and t a k e y o u r s e a t s .
sta n d a r d s o f con d u ct a s su g g e ste d 2.
THE PARK:
i n l o c a l s t a d iu m
O r g a n iz e c l a s s p i c n i c i n
n e ig h b o r h o o d p a r k s .
Go
to
O b se r v e
in th e d ir e c t io n s . one o f th e
A rran ge t o m eet a t a c e n t r a l
lo c a t io n near th e e n tr a n c e o f p ark .
P r o c e e d fr o m t h i s
p o i n t t o t h e p l a c e o f t h e p i c n i c , w a l k i n g on t h e p a r k str e e ts.
C on du ct y o u r s e lv e s a s s u g g e s te d
in th e d i
r e c tio n s . D.
EVALUATION:
S a m p le s o f e v a l u a t i n g t e c h n i q u e s t h a t may
b e u s e d i n c o n n e c t i o n w i t h y o u r b e h a v io r i n p u b l i c p l a c e s . 1.
TRUE-FALSE:
P la c e an X i n t h e c o r r e c t s p a c e f o r t r u e
or f a l s e . T
F
a.
( )(
)
Y ou s h o u ld n o t h i s s o r b o o t h e r e f e r e e .
b.
( )(
)
You s h o u ld l e a v e f o o d l e a v i n g s i n t h e park f o r b ir d s t o e a t .
c.
( )(
)
The b e a c h i s
a go o d p l a c e t o d i s p l a y
y o u r s k i l l a s a sw im m er. 2.
BEST ANSWER:
P la c e t h e number o f t h e b e s t a n sw e r i n
th e p a r e n th e s is , a,
(
)
A g o o d way t o e n j o y a f o o t b a l l game i s ( 1 ) Be a good s p o r t . (3 )
T ake p l e n t y
y o u .-
to r
( 2 ) Be a g o o d l o s e r .
o f p e a n u t s and p o p c o r n w i t h
( 4 ) T ake s o m e t h in g i n t o x i c a t i n g
to
d r in k . b.
( )
A goo d way t o k e e p t h e la w n i n t h e p a r k g r e e n and p r e t t y
is :
c e r ta in
( 2 ) K eep p o l i c e o n d u t y a t
grou p s.
a l l tim e s .
(1 ) R e s t r ic t i t
( 3 ) W alk on s t r e e t s i n
to
th e park.
(4 )
P o st s ig n s
RATING SCALE:
in
ev ery a v a ila b le p la c e .
P l a c e a n X i n e a c h s p a c e f o r w h ic h y o u
can q u a lif y . a.
( )
You n e v e r w a lk on g r a s s i n p a r k .
b.
( )
You a r e t h o u g h t f u l o f t h e r i g h t s
c.
( )
You n e v e r w a lk on s e a t s a t f o o t b a l l
d.
( )
o f o th e rs* game*
Your la n g u a g e i s k e p t u n d e r c o n t r o l .
e.
( )
Y ou n e v e r t a k e c h a n c e s i n w a t e r a t b e a c h .
f.
( )
You s t a y w i t h y o u r p a r t y .
(
)
T o ta l.
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a r e g i v e n c o d e n u m b e rs, f o r
in t h e v a r io u s c h a p te r s o f t h i s
O th er w ork s n o t i n t h i s
con d en sed c i
co u rse o f stu d y .
s p e c ia l c o lle c t io n
are c ite d
in f u l l
a t th e p o in ts w here th e y a r e in v o lv e d . CODE NUMBER 1.
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E v e r y d a y Good M anners f o r B o y s a n d G i r l s .
L a id la w B r o t h e r s P u b l i s h e r s ,
sa n F r a n c is c o , 1 9 3 1 .
PP.
7 -8 3 . 2.
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Good M anners f o r B o y s .
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5.
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PP. 5 - 6 0 .
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1946.
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M. C . :
D o u b le d a y , P a g e , a n d C o . ,
New Y o r k , 1 9 2 6 . P P . 7 9 - 8 4 .
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6.
D. A p p l e t o n -
E tiq u e tte J u n io r .
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C. C . C r a w fo r d , L os A n g e l e s , 1 9 4 8 .
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PP. 2 1 - 6 1 .
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M anners Can b e Fun*
5 -4 7 *
J . B . L i p p i n e o t t Com pany,
t* 4
New Y o r k , 1 9 3 9 * 10* L e a f , M .:
How t o B e h a v e an d Why.
J.
B . L i p p i n e o t t Com
p a n y , New Y o r k , 1 9 3 9 * 1 1 * L e a f , M .:
F a ir
P la y ,
J . B . L i p p i n e o t t Com pany, New
Y ork, 1 9 3 9 . 12.
p o st,
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P re fer re d .
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